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December 10th, 2012, 08:29 PM
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Ok so right now I don't have the nicest feelings towards BM. At O's final soccer game on Sat (Which she showed up 35 minutes late for,) he lost one of his snacks after the game and started crying. We don't encourage crying over such little things. She was comforting him and he started walking towards me. I said, what snack was it buddy? She said, "The fruit snacks, like I JUST said." and copped a little attitude. Eric was packing up our stuff and it was our day and we didn't want her encouraging this behavior when we were going to be the ones with him the rest of the weekend. So I say okay lets go look and see if there are extras. There weren't. We left and went to his team pizza party, (Which she called us on the way and told O she wasn't going to when she had asked him 2 times AT the game if he wanted her to go.)

I get a text while we are sitting there, "In the future hun, let me deal with issues with O. I am his mom and I felt you undermined me when you asked him the exact same thing I had just asked. Maybe if I am not there you can handle these things. Deal? Thanks!"

Eric did not let me reply. He said she was probably mad at herself for showing up late and not going to the party. He said the fact of the matter is we parent very differently than her, and he did not want her encouraging his whiny behavior on or time. He felt I did nothing wrong. Some of you may disagree, but that't not the point of this post.

So she picks him up yesterday and I give him a hug and don't say anything to her.

I text her today, (Eric is out of town for the 3rd week in a row) Hey I put o's soccer picture in his folder in case you missed it. Also the dentist estimate I gave you is only if we do it all at once. If we split it up then next Thursday we will each be responsible for 196.20. Or if you still want a second opinion I can call the dentist and get the x-rays emailed to me."

"ok"

"Ok as in second opinion or as in all set for thurs?"

"Studying for final exam baby, text tmrw." <THIS IS THE REASON FOR THIS POST.

She called me baby. EVEN if she meant to type babe (which she has called me before, or hun, or sweetie, its always condescending,) it's still gross!

So I, bring the mature adult that I am, forward the text to Eric. The I type "VOMIT" and click send.

Only.... I accidentally send the word "VOMIT" back to her!

WHOOPS!

She texts back, whats that mean? I said Whoops sorry i stayed home sick today and my boss just texted asking how i feel. thats what I get for being overdramatic.

She says, "Oh i thought it was an acronym for good luck i hope you ace your exam, but couldnt figure it out "

So hopefully she bought it? Either way, WHOOPS!
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December 10th, 2012, 09:24 PM
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Whoops and I just wanted to say Ive been on that same page. I hate it. Like duh we know you are their bm, no one said your werent. Its not like we actually tried to undermine them at all.
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December 10th, 2012, 09:27 PM
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Whoops and I just wanted to say Ive been on that same page. I hate it. Like duh we know you are their bm, no one said your werent. Its not like we actually tried to undermine them at all.
Yeah it's not like I walked up to them talking and pulled him away to talk to him. He was walking back over to us. Sitting there crying would do nothing. Everyone was packing up to leave, I was trying to take action.
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December 10th, 2012, 10:26 PM
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December 11th, 2012, 01:00 AM
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Technology stays trippin folks up. Dodged a bullet!
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December 11th, 2012, 02:04 AM
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*hugs*

I have an issue with wanting to parent Reme while L's around. We seem to have come to a silent agreement that we just won't correct the other person. So if she says yes, I won't say no. And vice versa. Most of the time it seems to work, other times I want to knock her upside her head for doing silly things for him, like put his pants on, or his socks.. things he's capable of doing.
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December 11th, 2012, 09:58 AM
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Vomit is something I can see myself texting as if to say "Studying, YUCK [or VOMIT] in this case.

Congrats on getting away with murder. I have accidently texted things to the girls dad before, but never anything inappropriate! Thank God!
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December 11th, 2012, 12:35 PM
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Ooops accidentally texting is dangerous! Glad you had a good answer.


On the other front, whether you agree with her or not, you'll never be able to change the way she parents. The sooner you accept that, the easier things will be.
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December 11th, 2012, 12:46 PM
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Good cover up!

No matter how hard you try you can not change people. Things go easier when you just learn to grin and deal.
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December 11th, 2012, 02:53 PM
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I wouldn't read too much into the "baby" weird sure. but hell my phone makes me say all kinds of crap I don't mean to so I'm sure it just auto inserted or corrected it

Hopefully she bought it. odds are she didn't and was just brushing it off.
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December 11th, 2012, 04:15 PM
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Shes called me babe and hon and sweetie before, all things I show Eric and basically say vomit, lol.

Luckily, it wasnt the first time shes called me a vomit worthy name, I doubt she put 2 and 2 together. Shes been studying so much she hasn't been able to focus on much else, lol
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