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December 20th, 2012, 03:44 PM
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A friend of mine who went through a super messy divorce recently (after 30 years of marriage) was just diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. It went un-diagnosed because her ex-husband canceled her insurance despite a court order giving her 2 years of insurance post-divorce and it's already spread to her lungs and ovaries. They have given her 6 months to a year to live, if she seeks treatment. She's only 51. She's an only child and has been taking care of her elderly mother for the past 3 years. I am just so sad. So very sad.
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December 20th, 2012, 04:30 PM
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*hugs* I'm so sorry for your friend. I cannot imagine.
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December 20th, 2012, 04:40 PM
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Many thoughts and prayers. I am so very sorry.
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December 20th, 2012, 05:18 PM
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Oh my gosh. That is so sad I'm so sorry for your friend, and for you.
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December 20th, 2012, 05:32 PM
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What. the. hell?!?! Can he at least be held accountable for some of the medical bills so she can be comfortable?

I get if they wanted to divorce people do it everyday but you'd think after 30 years there'd be SOMETHING in him to make him want to do the right thing by her even if he doesn't care for her in that way anymore.
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December 21st, 2012, 09:23 AM
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See, that's the thing. It's one of the reasons I have no confidence in the court system that we're in right now. She filed a petition for contempt and she had a certificate from the insurance company stating that she was no longer covered, but since she didn't have a witness to cooberate the statement the judge said she couldn't prove she didn't have insurance. She hasn't had alimony for a year and the judge found him in contempt and told her ex to pay it when he found a job. No deadline, just pay it when you can. She couldn't afford to appeal because the transcript would have been thousands of dollars alone because the hearing took over 3 days.

She's going to die, penniless and alone because her kids abandoned during the divorce her because daddy had the money.
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December 21st, 2012, 10:47 AM
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How awful! I get messy divorces but geez that's just bad. He's the worst human being ever. How could he do that to the mother of his children???
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December 21st, 2012, 06:19 PM
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See, that's the thing. It's one of the reasons I have no confidence in the court system that we're in right now. She filed a petition for contempt and she had a certificate from the insurance company stating that she was no longer covered, but since she didn't have a witness to cooberate the statement the judge said she couldn't prove she didn't have insurance. She hasn't had alimony for a year and the judge found him in contempt and told her ex to pay it when he found a job. No deadline, just pay it when you can. She couldn't afford to appeal because the transcript would have been thousands of dollars alone because the hearing took over 3 days.

She's going to die, penniless and alone because her kids abandoned during the divorce her because daddy had the money.
Her ex's money is going to run dry and her children are going to be ashamed of themselves.

If the insurance company writes you and tells you you don't have insurance what proof do you need? An insurance agent to walk in there and say "No we weren't lying this douche really did pull his insurance?". If he can just pay it when he can, what's to say he ever can? What are lawmakers in MD smoking?
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December 22nd, 2012, 11:17 AM
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Oh geesh that's horrible. I'm sorry I will keep her in my thoughts. How horrible that your court system is so f nuts.
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December 25th, 2012, 10:55 AM
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When her ex's lawyer was in law school, she had a clerk job at the court house. For the judge who decided this case. Her attorney asked the judge to recuse herself from the case because she had a personal relationship with his lawyer. She refused.
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December 25th, 2012, 11:53 AM
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When her ex's lawyer was in law school, she had a clerk job at the court house. For the judge who decided this case. Her attorney asked the judge to recuse herself from the case because she had a personal relationship with his lawyer. She refused.
Holy illegal and unethical shenanigans Batman.
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