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December 28th, 2012, 01:48 PM
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That really doesn't make sence. Sounds like she is trying to take advantage of what the order says. Ours said that "Both parents shall have unlimited phone contact with the children." So she took it as she could call at 2am and we HAD to wake the kids up to talk to her. When I told her to shove it they were sleeping it was a contempt in the next case but one that she lost because the judge said that order like that are normally reserved for when the kids are AWAKE. Doesn't seem any different here if he's only awake for 2 hours that Eric is gone it seems that really he's not away from him for 6 continuous hours. Just 2. JMO.
Exactly. He is away from him for 2 hours a night.

Our C/O says she can call O any time before 9pm. She said, "You told me one time he was watching a movie and he would call me back. That is against the court order I have a RIGHT to talk to him whenever I want to."

Not once did she mention anything about actually WANTING to talk to him. She would rather us have to stop the movie and MAKE him call her. What kind of mother does that? Why not be an adult and wait till the movie is over?
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December 28th, 2012, 03:13 PM
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I think she's severely misunderstanding these parts of the CO. ROFR is, like you said, there so that she has the opportunity to take O instead of a babysitter - it's not there so she can yank him out of bed and get morning time with him while Eric is home. Unlimited access with regards to phone calls is for O's benefit; not hers. It means that if *O* would like to call her, Eric is obligated to do whatever is in his power to help him call her. Ideally, if she wants to talk to him you can have O call, but it certainly doesn't mean she gets to call in the middle of the night, or when you're all out and demand to speak to him immediately.
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December 28th, 2012, 04:35 PM
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I think she's severely misunderstanding these parts of the CO. ROFR is, like you said, there so that she has the opportunity to take O instead of a babysitter - it's not there so she can yank him out of bed and get morning time with him while Eric is home. Unlimited access with regards to phone calls is for O's benefit; not hers. It means that if *O* would like to call her, Eric is obligated to do whatever is in his power to help him call her. Ideally, if she wants to talk to him you can have O call, but it certainly doesn't mean she gets to call in the middle of the night, or when you're all out and demand to speak to him immediately.
She is very black and white when it comes to everything about this. She thinks that her being his mother trumps any ruled put in place. She actually defended her taking him out of school by saying, "You would deny him time with his mother? How sad." When at the same time she was denying him HIS EDUCATION!

I've developed a new "How sad for her, oh well," attitude towards her. Unless she actually acts on any of these ridiculous claims, we have nothing to worry about.

Not to mention every time she DOESN'T act on them, it proves that she knows she is in the wrong.

What ever happened to doing what's best for O? What's best for O is week on, week off, with occasional phone calls during the week. What's best for O is NOT his mothers mentality of "I gave birth to him I can do whatever I want to." it's never been about O for her.
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December 28th, 2012, 04:53 PM
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It really is sad when someone blatantly throws what's best for the kid(s) out the window. When we picked up my dsc for their holiday time with us, they were all overtired and she decided not to feed them dinner because she was mad at us (for not helping her accommodate plans she had made for herself that she didn't mention she had/needed to have accommodated until 8 hours before pick up, and 3.5 weeks after we sent an email about the holiday schedule that she never replied to).
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December 28th, 2012, 05:20 PM
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Yeah our BM is bad about not feeding the boys dinner. They always come home hungry. But according to them she only feeds them lunch when they are there anyway. So 2 meals in 2 days.
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December 28th, 2012, 05:31 PM
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In our case, they're usually fed by her on pick up nights and fed by us on drop off nights. The switch off time is 6:00 pm so it just keeps everyone on the same schedule and allows the kids to eat at a reasonable time. Sometimes they're fed more of a snack than a meal, but it's at least something, and then they eat another snack when they get to our house. Very rarely she's asked us to swap meal nights ahead of time. This week she said nothing about it, so we didn't know that they hadn't eaten since lunch time until 7:00 pm when they told us they were hungry and that Mommy asked them to tell us to feed them instead, and she would handle Sunday.
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Reme's usually fed... but lately that means nothing. Kid is a bottomless pit. Cept today he's decided he doesn't want to eat and ended up white as a ghost and shaking! At that point he devoured a Clementine (aka a cutie), 3 pieces of ham, a glass of chocolate milk, a glass of orange juice and half a peanut butter sandwich. That was 2hours ago, and his stomach is now rumbling. LOL


L texted us xmas day saying she was on her way and wanted to know if we wanted her to feed him. *head desk*. I wanted to send back "Sure, I haven't been cooking since 3am and bought an 8lb ham because he asked for it, go ahead and feed him."

She usually picks him up on Sunday before he gets to eat dinner. I'm not going to make a super early meal for him, I just ply him with food all day
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December 28th, 2012, 10:33 PM
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Our pick up time is 6. Sometimes he's fed, sometimes he's not. I dont mind if he isnt actually, because we enjoy family dinner time since Eric works nights. so he is always fed a family dinner before she picks him up on her weeks, and we usually have one when we pick him up on our weeks.

THAT is how you get extra time with your kid. Not by trying to steal the other parents time
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December 29th, 2012, 06:51 AM
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We don't mind feeding them on pick up nights. It would have just been nice to have gotten a heads up, as that's not usually the way meals are handled, because what we ended up with was kids who were told to deliver a message that should have been her responsibility to communicate and who didn't eat dinner until right before bedtime. If she had bothered to mention it during the emails that were exchanged earlier in the day, they could have eaten at their normal time.

It's not about them, though. It's about her personal vendetta against my husband, because she's miserable and he's not.
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We don't mind feeding them on pick up nights. It would have just been nice to have gotten a heads up, as that's not usually the way meals are handled, because what we ended up with was kids who were told to deliver a message that should have been her responsibility to communicate and who didn't eat dinner until right before bedtime. If she had bothered to mention it during the emails that were exchanged earlier in the day, they could have eaten at their normal time.

It's not about them, though. It's about her personal vendetta against my husband, because she's miserable and he's not.
do our stepkids have the same BM? lol
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