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January 7th, 2013, 05:03 PM
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We just composed and emailed BM a proposal to get rid of this money owed situation. It's as fair as it can possibly be, so hopefully she agrees to it!

She's already been texting Eric today about how we took O up North for a night and didn't tell her. (The C/O only says we have to notify her if we go out of state.)

Let's hope she puts her big girl panties on and agrees to this.

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January 7th, 2013, 07:29 PM
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January 7th, 2013, 07:45 PM
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Good luck!!!!!

We have the out of state thing too.It'd take a lot for one of them to flip out over it though. It was done so that way L has an extra leg to stand on when dh's family wants her to bring Reme down. They'll bully her until she agrees.. so this way DH can be the bad guy (which he's 100% ok with).
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January 7th, 2013, 07:58 PM
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We didn't even go out of state though! We took him 100 miles North to play in the snow.

Then she *****ed about the fact that Eric sat down with O and talked to him about what happened last week at his moms. (He overheard his mom yelling at Eric, and when he asked why she was yelling, she told him Eric said he doesn't want O near BM.) She said, "Talking to O about our conversations is directly against the court order! Any judge would see that and consider it emotional abuse." Eric very calmly said, "You forced me to talk to him when you yelled at me with him in the next room and then told him I was trying to keep him away from you!

Sigh. Oh well
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January 7th, 2013, 08:03 PM
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Any judge in their right mind will consider the unwarranted conversation she had with O about his father supposedly wanting to keep him from his mother far more damaging and unfair than Eric sitting down with him and talking to him about it and reassuring him otherwise.

Sorry she's nuts. It hurts my brain just to read these posts.
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January 7th, 2013, 08:12 PM
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Any judge in their right mind will consider the unwarranted conversation she had with O about his father supposedly wanting to keep him from his mother far more damaging and unfair than Eric sitting down with him and talking to him about it and reassuring him otherwise.

Sorry she's nuts. It hurts my brain just to read these posts.
It hurts my brain to live them. I have a recording of him telling us what she said. And she denies saying it. All Eric said to O was "Shes your mom. We know you love her very much and she loves you very much. You are with her every other week. We just want our fair time with you."

This head game she is trying to hard to play with him is just going to backfire one day.
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January 7th, 2013, 09:30 PM
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Ugh what a mess. I hope she responds well to the money situation. She's so just not all there right now. I hope for O's sake she can pull it together.
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January 7th, 2013, 09:53 PM
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I took the first step. He started up soccer again tonight. I didn't go.

It's the first practice I haven't gone to. Out of his mom, his dad, and me, I am the only one who up till tonight hadn't missed a second of his soccer "career."

She has missed a few practices and one game. Eric isn't able to go to practice cuz he works nights, but he's gone to every game.

Our theory is that if I back off a little bit, even though I really want to be there, she might take it as a sign of respect in her twisted mind, lol. Plus, it means we won't have to spend so much time together, thus also helping our situation out.

It felt so weird not going though. :/ I'm the one who got him into soccer to begin with
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January 8th, 2013, 04:31 PM
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Thanks for the vibes!

She emailed Eric back and said "Everything looks good except for the ball and socks."

When deducting money from the balance, we included $10. I bought O a 13 dollar soccer ball and a 7 dollar pair of socks in October. I texted her the receipts. She never gave me her half. Then, the week before halloween, she offered for us to borrow O's mario costume that she pai $20 for, for a school function, and I graciously gave her $10 since she was allowing us to use it. So for borrowing a costume its okay to receive money, but not for soccer essentials.

Oh well. We took the $10 off and resent the agreement.
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January 8th, 2013, 05:15 PM
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Awesome! Sometimes it's better to cut your losses to appease the crazy.
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January 8th, 2013, 05:25 PM
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Awesome! Sometimes it's better to cut your losses to appease the crazy.
I mean it was ten bucks. Not a big deal. Just funny how she nit picks every penny but we aren't allowed to do the same.
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January 8th, 2013, 05:43 PM
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I'd start nit picking in the future. Don't give her ANYTHING, or she'll just continue to do so.
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January 8th, 2013, 05:51 PM
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While $10 doesn't sound like a lot 10 here or 10 there add up. I would start nit picking and not giving in. It's not fair to you guys.
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Yeah, I'm torn between the not nit picking and making sure to nit pick later on. Well, anyways, I'm glad you guys found a middle ground.
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January 8th, 2013, 10:06 PM
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Praise Jesus she's gonna agree to it!


No lie, and I know this makes me a horrible person but I'm ok with being a witch, I just want her to hurry up and relapse so she can do rehab right and get her head on straight. Like...deliver a bottle of vodka to her doorstep hurry up.
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January 8th, 2013, 10:35 PM
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I'd start nit picking in the future. Don't give her ANYTHING, or she'll just continue to do so.
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While $10 doesn't sound like a lot 10 here or 10 there add up. I would start nit picking and not giving in. It's not fair to you guys.
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Yeah, I'm torn between the not nit picking and making sure to nit pick later on. Well, anyways, I'm glad you guys found a middle ground.
We talked for like ten minutes on the possibility of not sending the ball and shoes anymore. I know it would cause a fight though, and I really don't want to deal with her anymore. But Eric is thinking about saying, "I understand you may have forgotten the receipt that Jennifer sent you, but until you can show us that you paid us for the ball and socks purchased in October, we don't feel comfortable sending our property on your weeks. It's kind of low, but she needs to learn.

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No lie, and I know this makes me a horrible person but I'm ok with being a witch, I just want her to hurry up and relapse so she can do rehab right and get her head on straight. Like...deliver a bottle of vodka to her doorstep hurry up.
I go back and forth with the same feelings. I said it perfectly to Eric the other day.

Right now, she is NOT where she needs to be in order to be a great mom for O. Last year, she was in a worse place, but at least she had an excuse. Right now, she thinks she is invincible and is drinking again to prove she can, when in reality, O is the ONLY person she has ANYTHING to prove to, and he is already seeing alcohol in his moms life again. He KNOWS the reason he didn't have her for so long was BECAUSE of alcohol. SHE may think she can handle a glass of wine here or there, but the kid won't walk down the alcohol aisle at the grocery store for crying out loud. In his little mind, she's picking alcohol over him again.

The ONLY reason I'd want her to relapse again is to put her in her place and maybe for once she will realize she ISN'T perfect. And then MAYBE she will get the help she should have gotten in the first place. And that MAYBE she will become what O needs. Because currently, she's just going to push him away if she keeps having her crazy issues. He sees that we say nothing but good things about her to O. Eric said to him the other day, When your mom was sick we made sure you got out to Sundance an hour away every weekend to see her. If we were trying to keep you from her, we could have easily done that but she is your mother.

He's a smart kid, he's going to realize who's trying to be the manipulative one.
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January 9th, 2013, 06:42 AM
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We talked for like ten minutes on the possibility of not sending the ball and shoes anymore. I know it would cause a fight though, and I really don't want to deal with her anymore. But Eric is thinking about saying, "I understand you may have forgotten the receipt that Jennifer sent you, but until you can show us that you paid us for the ball and socks purchased in October, we don't feel comfortable sending our property on your weeks. It's kind of low, but she needs to learn.
It's not a terrible idea, as long as y'all are aware that it will lead to a meltdown from her. I get the impression that she's definitely a give an inch, take a mile kind of person, and it would probably be better long term to put your foot down on the little things than let it build up to needing to draw the line on something big.
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