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July 2nd, 2005, 12:29 AM
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My SIL came to live with us in May when my MIL passed away of breast cancer. While she was living with her mother, she never did anything, because her mom waited on her and also big brother when he came into town. Two weeks ago we decided it would be best for her if we moved back to her hometown so she could be around her friends and still have the same childhood home shes always known. But things have seemed to go from bad to worse. The rule is when I cook, they clean the dishes and table. She whines all the time about it and my DH will tell her to go relax in her room while he does the dishes or whatever else needs to be done in the house that i wasnt able to get to that day. When he isnt around she tells me she doesnt have to listen to me because i am not her mother and therefore i have no right what so ever. .............................
Yesterday morning while my DH was at work she told me, This is my home, He is my brother, and you just need to go the h**l away. .....................I understand that when DH and i married we didnt consider anyones feelings about it. But before when we were dating she was such a sweetheart. I would have done anything in the world for her. But its getting really hard to be married and TTC, when she tells me everyday that Im to young to have children and that is wouldnt be wise since i cant even keep her mothers plants alive in the house, so what would i do with a child? Im about at my wits end, I love my DH very much, but he has got to talk her, before i go crazy from the stress. What do ya'll think i should do?Talk to him about it or go on strike?
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July 2nd, 2005, 08:49 PM
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Talk to you dh for sure! Wait till it is quiet and calm and ask him to help out. How old is she? Sounds like she is a troubled girl missing her mom and lashing out unfortunatley at you....
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July 2nd, 2005, 10:17 PM
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shes 12. I talked to him today about it, but he doesnt seem to think that theres really a problem. He says if i think theres a problem i should talk to her about it. It gotten to the point where we have stopped TTC, because i dont know if my marriage will last.
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July 5th, 2005, 11:47 AM
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Have you thought about counseling, at the very least between you & your DH?

I think it might help a lot b/c it seems the main thing is that youre having a hard time approaching this as a couple, a united front of sorts.

Of course, if she doesnt think your H is behind you, shes not goign to listen.

What would your H say if you decided you didnt want to support her anymore?

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July 5th, 2005, 07:05 PM
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H and I seperated July 2. When i went over to collect a few odds and ends, i said something about counceling, and he said he would think about it.

At the point i would do anything to erase these past fews days, up to the point where he told me to get out. But sadly he wont listen to me about anything.

I couldnt tell him i didnt want to support her anymore. Her father died when she was 2 and her mother just this year, so he is the only one.
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July 5th, 2005, 10:33 PM
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Oh my, I feel so bad for you. My marriage ended just a year ago, and I know how hard it is. Feel free to PM me or if you use msn messenger add me.. tinselgirl23@hotmail.com
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July 19th, 2005, 10:33 PM
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I am so sorry to hear about your situation ... I wish you the best of luck....
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Well, I really feel bad for you. I can't say I've been through a bad marriage but I can say that I'm sorry nothing is working. I don't know what to say but GOODLUCK and !!!!
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