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Originally Posted by PrncssLcy
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Basically, I was just out of a really bad relationship and Will was supposed to be a rebound guy for me and I wound up being really indecisive about getting with him. We finally decided to be a couple on Thanksgiving Day, not this past one but the year before, and by Christmas he wanted me to meet his family. He's from Pennsylvania, but we met and live in Indiana. So we planned a New Year's trip to PA and in all the planning for the trip I forgot to get my pills and half way to PA I was like omg my pills! But he assured me that couples have to try for months to have kids so that really wasn't a big concern of his. And how messes stress him out and it's bad enough cleaning up as it is, much less if he wasn't going in me (tmi, sorry). So since our trip got in the way of my entire cycle I said when I got my next period I'd get my pills going again and that never came.
Then things got real bad real quick because I found out the guy I had been with was "the good Will"... and in no time at all the "bad" Will showed up. Will is bipolar and doesn't take medication for it, so he was on his good days when we first met and I just thought he was a great guy. He used to be medicated but when he ran out he couldn't afford more pills and felt okay so just left it at that. So he got very verbally abusive... and we nearly broke up, then found out I was preggo. He kicked me out when I refused to get an abortion, only to go a few days without talking at all then come back and say he would love a boy because he'd love a little buddy to work on cars with and was nervous about a girl because he didn't know anything about girl things... so I went ahead and went back to try and make it work for the baby's sake and his cycles of good and bad days got to where the bad outnumbered the good. When I started showing he'd say I was getting too fat and I needed to sit on the floor so he could stretch out on the couch cause he was tired from work. He called the baby a tumor because "it's not a baby, it can't survive outside of you, so it's nothing more than a tumor." He randomly woke up and decided he hated my mom and sister so he'd never cross paths with them. He went to 3 doc appts the whole time I was preggo and got in arguments at 2 of the 3. He just wasn't there for me. Yet his ex gf failed 3 classes and he went running over to her to be her "moral support"??? I don't care if nothing happened, that's not right when I'm carrying your child! He didn't go to the ultrasound cause it was too early in the morning for him. He didn't go to the hospital tour cause he had an appt of his own for like 3-4 hours later in the day and "didn't wanna risk being late". He didn't go to any of the classes... and was mad when I went into labor 2 weeks early cause he "had been counting on October 8th..." ummm it's an estimation dip! He controlled everything about what we ate, when we ate, what we did, when we'd go out in public... it was just rediculous. He did lots more that I can't even remember all of right now. He had guns all over his house just randomly hidden "in case he'd need them during a break in" and I said when the baby came he'd have to move them all upstairs and he flat out told me no, that he'd learn to respect guns at an early age. He wanted him to be smart with guns. I made the comment "what, so he can use that knowledge to make sure when he blows his own brains out that he does it right the first time like my cousin did?" I just had a cousin commit suicide a year prior to all this who was only 20. We finally ended things when I was 5 months pregnant and things got steadily better, but then I saw/ heard from him less and less. Then it was a huge shock to him when I said "I'm not naming him after you" cause I had agreed to naming the baby William the 4th. Well, why would I do that for someone that was not there for me over the past 9 months and refused to acknowledge his son as a baby? No way. So Will has seen Ryder once, Thanksgiving weekend this past year because his mom and brother and sister in law were in town for a visit and he had to put on a "father of the year" show for them. But... it's been nearly 3 months now since he's so much as sent me a text asking about how he's doing. He still to this day has never called Ryder by name because I robbed him of something that was his and it wasn't right. So he's say "how's the wee one/ little one/ baby/ kid doing?" He did give him a toy for Xmas and on the tag wrote "Merry Christmas, From Dad" so he didn't even do it then. But he didn't see Ryder. He made me go pick up the rest of my stuff I had over there and he wasn't home so I let myself in and out and he told me to take the gift and give it to him. So I did. So he's spent maaaaybe $15 on his son. He doesn't pay support because if I get him for support they will grant him visitation and even though he wants nothing to do with Ryder, I could see him taking his visitation to sort of get back at me and know that being away from Ryder was killing me. And I don't trust him alone let alone, alone with my child. He's not safe. But he's also an a.ss and needs to grow up. He will be 30 years old in September and he's throwing a tantrum like a 2 year old basically over a name. He won't claim Ryder as his own... he won't sign anything or file for dna or anything like that. So he doesn't pay support.
That is my story in a nutshell lol. Ryder and I are much better off without him. The only good thing to ever come out of Will was the one sperm he used to make my gorgeous son. He's got Will's Asian looks but the personality and everything else is alllllllll me thank God!!! He's such a loveable baby. He'll be 6 months old on Wednesday and Will had already missed a month of his life no texting, etc... so over half his life he hasn't even attempted to pretend to care about him. His loss!
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