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How much involvement does your LO's "dad" have in helping raise your child/children?
Ryder's sperm donor (we don't say the d word in reference to Will in our house. He refuses to call Ryder by name, so I refuse to give him that title!) has 0 involvement. He hasn't sent so much as a text since early January. Nothing on Mother's Day, Father's Day, my birthday, Ryder's birthday... today is his birthday (Will's) and it just dawned on me that he's 30 years old. Thirty years old and still has yet to grow up! Go figure!
Alex's dad has little involvement, usually only takes him once a month overnight. He does pay child support though. I always invite him to the major doctor/psycologist/whatever appointments and he usually shows up but I think he feels like an a** just sitting there not able to answer any of the questions the doc's ask.
Katie and Aiden's dad (though he no longer has any rights so not sure to even call him their dad any more) has never had any involvement with the kids. He knows my number and its been the same since before the kids birth mother and him split up and I got custody of Katie (Aiden wasn't born yet).
Big Joe has involement when he wants to. He is a good dad but sometimes has a lapse in judgement. He is doing alot better lately. I wouldn't deny him involement with any of them but I don't force my kids to make the first move. I make him come to them.
FOB's has NO involvement at this point, all his choosing. No phone calls or nothing. His loss. I am NOT letting him be involved in this pregnancy at ALL though, he said **** all when I mentioned to him and I haven't really seen or heard from him since.
FOB is involved (sounds like I've got one of the most involved dad's here?, which can be good and can be bad). I'm glad he's involved, but sometimes just wish he wasn't so involved and I hate saying that because Kaisen adores his dad, but he's such an awful influence, and so is that GF of his!
Anyway, FOB gets Kaisen every Wednesday evening and every other weekend from Friday to Sunday. He has barely paid any support since last October, but will be having his checks garnished now.