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did your childs dad ever go to your prenatal appointments? baby appointments?
aaron hasnt been to any yet.. I told him i have one on wednesday and id let him know how it goes..he asked what time and i said its an early appointment (i dont usually get early ones) and i told him the dr will be giving me the rest of my appointments for this pregnancy on that day..he said "no problem! let me know the rest and i will go!"...so i told him id call him wednesday to give him days + times..maybe he is changing? im NOT going to get my hopes up..if he goes he goes if he doesnt well he doesnt..
Yes he went to all of them with ds and when he could with dd if he was off work but we were together. With this one he hasn't yet but he hasn't been off work cause my app. are in the morning. He is going to try and get off early for the gender scan.
He didn't go for ANY ever, except the 3D we paid for with DD#1, but he didn't go because he was either working and with DD#2 it was because he was watching our older child. This time I am not letting him be involved, even though so far he has shown no interest in his current kids or this pregnancy.
FOB was supposed to go to the first ultrasound and then the first appointment with me. But when I texted him to remind him of the u/s he said, "Oh well it's just a confirmation thing, right, let me know how it goes."
After the u/s I sent a picture out to my sisters, best friend, and him. His reply text was,
Him -"What's that?"
Me- "It's a baby. lol You act like you've never had a kid before."
Him- "You're joking right? This is all one big joke and you're just pulling my leg."
Me- "Yeah, it's a joke if you want it to be. You know what, don't bother coming to the any of the appointments if you're going to act like this. I don't want you at the birth either."
And so he's never been to anything. I banned him form it all. I'm also going to give instructions to the people at the hospital that he, his ex (his ex is his first child's mom), his friend (husband to his ex), and (sadly) his first child, are not allowed anywhere near me or near the baby.
He'll get to see the baby about a week or two after the baby is born.
FOB went to a few prenatal appointments if he was able to leave work. He was there for the 2 ultrasounds I had. He also went to a few of the baby appointments after K was born. He hasn't been to an appointment since we split. I'm not sure he cares to be there and even if he did, his GF wouldn't let him go.