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I just had a calm, mature conversation with J. (Emersyn's father) about some stuff going on in my life right now, namely the fact that I may have to move in order to be with my girlfriend. I don't WANT it to come to that, but if her ex husband won't budge (they have 60/40 shared care, and neither me or her want to take the kids away from him), then it may have to be that way. Either I'd move up to where they are, or L's. ex husband will find a job close-ish to here, and I would move 1-2 hours away.
Ideally her ex husband would find a job close enough to here that he can have the kids every weekend, and then J. can have Emmy every weekend... next 'best' option is me moving a little way away, and J. still have Em for weekends... last resort is me moving up to where they live.....
I told J. about all the options, and while he said it'd break his heart if I moved that far away, he understands that I have to do what makes me happy. But he's really stepped up to the mark with Emersyn, and I don't want to take her away from him, to the extent that he'd only see her one weekend every few weeks - or even less... especially considering he moved here so he COULD be closer to her and so he COULD be a 'weekend Dad'.....
I don't give a **** what Gaby's father thinks. He has never stepped up to the mark, and hasn't made any effort to be a good Dad. He has her one day a week and that's it - as it is, Gaby doesn't even WANT to go to his house now. So I know it'd be a happier situation for her if she was living with me & L (and her kids)......
I'm still amazed I managed to have such a conversation with J... he even told me he's going to propose to his girlfriend, and joked around about him being the one who 'turned me' off men & onto women....
Anyway.. I had to share, because I knew that of anyone, you ladies would get what a huge deal this is.
That is great! Hopefully that continues! It does make things so much easier and leaves you feeling great afterwards!
Recently me and my ex are starting to get along much better. I will admit, though, that he's taken farther steps than I have only because I had basically given up and I told him I was done being the only one working for this relationship. I don't know what changed, but he's much more open and honest and, I hate to say it, but fun. Weird!