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My husband left me after 10 years of marriage for another woman. I have full custody of my boys and he left before I told him I was pregnant with another. I'm 18 weeks and have yet to tell him. I don't know if I want to. I'm happier with out him in my life. He doesn't even come to visit his boys I don't know if I even want my baby girl to know who he is. Am I being to selfish???
This may not be the popular opinion, but if he doesn't see the boys, then I don't see a reason to tell him about the baby, at least for now. Presuming that you're collecting child support, then he'll need to know eventually. And, of course, if he starts to be involved with the boys then you might want to tell him sooner rather than later, or they'll probably tell him, even if accidentally.
Personally I wouldn't tell him. If he were to take interest in the other children again and started getting involved then yea I might. But just in general? No. I wish I would have stuck with my instincts and hadn't told my ex.