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Hi, I'm new here and would love some advice. DH & I would like to start TTC #1 soon but we keep pushing it back because of my persistent struggles with anxiety. I've had GAD for at least 10 years, and had thought I had it under control with Cymbalta (after trying, in the past, Luvox, Zoloft, Wellbutrin, and Celexa). I've been in and out of therapy for many years as well, but just finished up with my last therapist thinking that things were pretty stable. I tapered off of the Cymbalta so that we could begin TTC, and then things unraveled. I have been crying a lot and feeling completely overwhelmed by the normal everyday stresses of work, getting things done around the house, socializing, etc. I know that pregnancy, childbirth, and motherhood will only multiply any stresses that I have ... but it just makes me so sad to keep waiting and waiting to start a family. I guess it's possible to go back on Cymbalta while TTC, but my OB/GYN & psychiatrist both thought it would be safer not to be on it. I made another appointment with my therapist to continue working on my issues yet again, and I'm feeling really, really discouraged right now.
How do I deal with my anxiety while TTC (and hopefully eventually, while pg)? How do I convince DH that I won't be too much of a burden and will be a competent mother despite my mental health?
well first off im really sorry your going thru this HUGS.and as i read it ,i got the feeling that you yourself were not sure if you would be a burden or not or be able to be a competent mother.i think you need to be able to convince yourself and feel comfortable with your health first.pregnancy and parenting are just one big roller coaster,you have to be prepared for anything and expect the opposite.i hope you find the help ,answers ad support you need,and i wish you a very short TTC journey and then a happy,healthy 9 months.good luck
I have a story very similar to yours except that I already have one daughter (17 months) and we are thinking about TTC #2. I have suffered from GAD for 10 years as well on and off. I haven't had any problems for almost 4 years now and all of a sudden about 5 weeks ago it all came back. I am extremely overwhelmed by every day little things and have been having panic attacks again. My husband and I really want to try for #2 but i feel completely incompetant as a mother right now. I already feel horrible for being such a crummy mom right now for daughter #1 that I am nervous about TTC for #2.
Hey.....WELCOME................and good for you for being so honest and open....that says a lot about where you are in your recovery! =0)
I have struggles with SEVERE OCD for over 15 years (I'm 27)......it has been debilitating at times, I've been in and out of therapy, and evenhospitalized with Anorexia which was secondary to my OCD. I had to stay on two medications...Zyprexa and a large dose of fluoxetine through my pregnancy with my dd...also 17months. There have been times that I have crawled in bed and have not been able to come out. I too was worried that I would be able to take care of something else if I got in one of my "states." I HAVE SURPRISED MYSELF AND I KNOW YOU WILL TOO...=0) For whatever reason, becoming a mom MAKES you deal...and surprisingly..it is the BEST thing that has ever happened for my anxiety. Nothing used to ake me feel better when I was under attack. Now, I have my dd and there is no way I can be miserable around her. I am sure you will find the same. Upon TTC my dd and knowing I simply could not do it without my category C medication..I did a lot of research. My dr's realized it was bettter for me to stay on it.......and i even contacted this mJOR institue to find out extensive research. Believe it or not, category C medication is more safe than most people know. (according to these specialist places)....category C, in case you don't know, simply means unknown.....really what it is, is that they don't know enough! I think that any dr should understnad this...and the importance of staying calm while TTC and pregnnat. My dr said you always have to look for the greater good. If you can simply not function without the meds....then it is safer for you to take them! I have aperfectly beautiful child! =0)
I hope you feel better...and you are not going to fail as a mom....I remember feeling the SAME way.....it is something primal...something that will take over you and give you strength!