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so the world does NOT revolve around me...(wait, WHAT???)


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September 16th, 2011, 08:03 PM
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Ok. so one problem with my anxiety that I have - is constantly thinking to myself that when someone's not talking to me or something I've said to someone - is that it's all about me. I said something to tick them off - so that's why they haven't talked to me in a couple weeks...

Or I'll have a conversation with someone and think about what I said to them ALL DAY LONG and try to over-analyze what I said and drive myself crazy thinking I said something to them that was wrong or mean or just plain rude...

Or - especially - I'll see two people talking at work and my first thought is "wow...they are SO talking about me...what an idiot they think I am, that I can't do this job."...

yeah it gets exhausting! lol

I know this isn't true. In fact I try so hard to turn these thoughts around and think these thoughts about the other people - which I can't do...so the logical part of me tells me - they are NOT talking about me - they DON'T remember what I said to them. The world does NOT revolve around ME...

Just curious if any of you know what i'm talking about?...

I bring this up, specifically, because - long story short, I'm now talking with my best friend from high school after 7 years of not talking to her. We (my hubby and I) went to her college graduation party about 2 weeks ago - and I brought her a card and I put $20 in it.
I have been steweing over and over in my mind "why hasn't she posted anything on my facebook lately? I haven't heard anything from her since the party...she HAS to be offended that I gave her $$..." (yes, ridiculous I know)...

Well - I went onto her fb page and sadly, her bf and her broke up. so - again, the WORLD DOES NOT REVOLVE AROUND ME! however, I've been thinking that the reason why she's been so quiet is because of something I did. (crazy i know!) haha

anyways - anyone else do this to themselves?

Something my therapist talks about is physical reminders (such as a picture of a stop sign on my desk when my anxiety really starts to go into overload)...so after finding similar pictures like this - I made my own in photohsop...

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September 16th, 2011, 08:14 PM
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I do this to some degree. When I get into one of my really really bad downs I start thinking that everyone hates me. I withdraw to kind of 'test' my friends to see who will contact me and when nobody does in a certain period of time, I of course, spiral down thinking that nobody likes me and they'd rather I wasn't around... it is not fun. I feel your pain.
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September 16th, 2011, 08:21 PM
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oops. i misspelled revolve in that pic! haha

and no, it's not fun. it sucks.

ETA - had to fix that. spelled correctly now.
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September 16th, 2011, 10:51 PM
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I have those feeling all the time when I don't know the person.
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September 17th, 2011, 08:47 AM
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I do this ALL THE TIME I know EXACTLY how you feel and what you're talking about
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September 17th, 2011, 05:13 PM
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Thanks guys! I know it sounds like such a simple thing - but truly, telling myself "the world does NOT revolve around ME" really helps to get through certain things when my mind starts going crazy thinking "hmm they're talking about me, aren't they?" or "hmm they're laughing/making fun of me over there, aren't they?"

um NO "they" are not! everything is not about me!
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