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My boyfriend and I are both codependent (I'm recovering, and he's the adult child of a narcissist). I have only known him since June. I found out that I had an unplanned pregnancy while we were taking a break. I'm concerned that breaking the news will just intensify his love addiction. Can a relationship between two codependents work? What are the pitfalls and things to watch out for? Any success stories?
It actually just dawned on me recently. I initiated the break so I had time to think about it. I knew he had a narcissistic mother, but it took me a while to KNOW he had a narcissistic mother. After our break I'll be observing his behavior closely to know if the relationship is salvageable or not. I have no doubt that he could be a nurturing father, but I wonder if he could be an accepting father. As for me, my challenge is reigning in my spending habits because I'm going to have to do some serious saving.
Is it possible that a codependent/love addict would have an ulterior motive to using the withdrawal method? I have a feeling that my boyfriend may have impregnanted me on intention so I wouldn't leave.