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Hi everyone! I would like to start TCC this fall but my husband wants to wait a few years mostly because we are both starting school in the fall. He's going back into his junior year and I'm just starting.(I'm 22) His parents are both college professors so there's a lot of pressure on us to finish school. I feel like I am so ready to start a family...I feel like its the most important thing I could do on this Earth. If everything went according to plan (yeah right!) I would have the baby next aummer going into my sophmore year. I feel like I could finish. What's it really like to be a student and a mom? I just need some advice. Thanks!
Well, if you're just starting out in college, I would say wait! It's much easier to have a baby in the last part of your college in my opinion.... because you're so close you can't not finish. If you just get a couple classes out of the way before having a baby, it's much easier to stop enrolling all together... also, my major changed like 6 times... so I would say wait until you really get close to graduation so that you can be ensured a degree
I am TTC now and am just about finished with my Master's degree. While I know lots of people finish school with children, it would be rough. Are you also going to be working while going to school? I know just balancing full-time work and full-time school was rough - there were weeks were I barely got to spend time with DH because of all the time commitments. Have you thought about who would be watching your child while you are in classes, because that can quickly increase the expense of your schooling as well.
I can see both sides of this. Going to school and being a parent is TOUGH, and my kids are older. (13 and 10) It's not going to be easy at all. I can't even begin to imagine having a newborn too. School is exhausting. Parenting a newborn is exhausting. The two at the same time...... wow. I can't even imagine.
At the same time, someone once told me not to rush having another baby. I was 21 and had just had my second. I wanted to try again right away. I let others convince me not to. Ten years (almost 11) later, I still don't have another baby. I've spent the last 6+ years actively trying to conceive, and it hasn't happened.
In the end, you and your husband need to discuss this and decide what is best for your family. No one else can tell you what to do. Good luck with whatever you decide!