Log In Sign Up

Childless friends


Forum: Thirtysomething Mommies

Notices

Welcome to the JustMommies Message Boards.

We pride ourselves on having the friendliest and most welcoming forums for moms and moms to be! Please take a moment and register for free so you can be a part of our growing community of mothers. If you have any problems registering please drop an email to boards@justmommies.com.

Our community is moderated by our moderation team so you won't see spam or offensive messages posted on our forums. Each of our message boards is hosted by JustMommies hosts, whose names are listed at the top each board. We hope you find our message boards friendly, helpful, and fun to be on!

Reply Post New Topic
  Subscribe To Thirtysomething Mommies LinkBack Topic Tools Search this Topic Display Modes
  #1  
April 6th, 2009, 09:26 AM
*Cyndee*'s Avatar Platinum Supermommy
Join Date: Jun 2007
Posts: 29,839
Send a message via ICQ to *Cyndee*
Do you have any married friends or family members that don't have any children, or don't want any?

I do, and part of me feels like they are just being selfish - I feel bad for their parents who want to see their families grow. So they can afford the latest iphones and go to concerts and do whatever they want. In 10 years all that is going to seem so pointless.

I dunno. Maybe kids aren't for everyone. But most of these people I know would make GREAT parents.

Do you think childless marriages go through more, less, or the same struggles in the long run than families? Does becoming a 'family' add stability rather than being just a 'couple'?
__________________


Reply With Quote
  #2  
April 6th, 2009, 01:44 PM
kimmiejo's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: Philadelphia, PA
Posts: 24,239
No I don't have any married friends who don't have children but I do have a friend who was married at one time who absolutely does not want kids, she says it "just isn't her thing" sadly that is what ended her marriage, her ex husband decided he did want children. I guess in the long run it never would have worked out but still sad.
__________________
Reply With Quote
  #3  
April 6th, 2009, 06:26 PM
*Angela*'s Avatar Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Jul 2006
Location: Oklahoma
Posts: 3,276
None of our friends are childless but many of them are heading towards the empty nest. Since we started later than others and we are usually the youngest in the group, we don't always do the same activities and have all the spare time that our friends have because our children are still so young.

For us having children really tied us together. We were together for almost 10 years before having children so we were committed but having children change our arguments . They don't happen as often and things we fought about before just don't seem all that important. If that makes sense.
__________________
Reply With Quote
  #4  
April 7th, 2009, 06:13 AM
** Mandy **
Join Date: May 2006
Location: Ohio
Posts: 24,284
Do you have any married friends or family members that don't have any children, or don't want any? Yes, quite a few from high school or college. We aren't as close any more though because most have moved away and we just aren't on the same page anymore.

I understand how not everyone wants to have kids. Those of my friends who are in their 30s and married and say they want kids at some point I'm not really sure what they are waiting for. Seems like time is ticking.

Do you think childless marriages go through more, less, or the same struggles in the long run than families? Does becoming a 'family' add stability rather than being just a 'couple'? This is a hard question for me to answer, I think it really depends on the individuals/the couple/the family. I don't think childless couples go through all the same struggles as those with kids though. There is more to think about once you have kids.
__________________













Reply With Quote
  #5  
April 9th, 2009, 11:00 AM
*Cyndee*'s Avatar Platinum Supermommy
Join Date: Jun 2007
Posts: 29,839
Send a message via ICQ to *Cyndee*
Hmm, maybe I'm way wrong on this

Secret to marital bliss? Don't have kids - Behavior- msnbc.com
__________________


Reply With Quote
  #6  
April 9th, 2009, 11:04 AM
mousemomof3's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: Osgoode,Ontario, Canada
Posts: 30,992
Send a message via MSN to mousemomof3
I don't have any childless friends.
__________________


Reply With Quote
  #7  
April 9th, 2009, 11:25 AM
kimmiejo's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: Philadelphia, PA
Posts: 24,239
Quote:
Originally Posted by *Cyndee* View Post

I don't think you are way wrong......I think having a child tests your marriage in ways you never expect. I think marriage is hard and parenting can be even harder. For Jon and me adding a child (the 1st weeks and months) was HARD!! I was 33 when I had Sydney, set in my ways and used to being independent and doing as I pleased, I would do things on a whim, we traveled a lot, and having a child changed all of that and was a huge adjustment for us. Didn't help that Sydney was colicky and I was in tears for the 1st 3 months on a daily basis because I felt like a horrible mother. All that being said I wouldn't change anything, she is the light of my life and I cannot imagine life without her. I just feel like even though we waited and planned for her nothing could of prepared us for her, if that makes sense? Now things have calmed down and DH and I are on the same page and happy again but in the beginning it was def a stressful and trying time in our marriage. Ok I am done rambling
__________________
Reply With Quote
  #8  
April 10th, 2009, 06:37 AM
** Mandy **
Join Date: May 2006
Location: Ohio
Posts: 24,284
Quote:
Originally Posted by *Cyndee* View Post
I didn't read the article but I have a hard time believing that to be true. It isn't true in our house anyway. Ally is the best thing that has ever happened to us and I think does give our marriage even more meaning and purpose.
__________________













Reply With Quote
Reply

Topic Tools Search this Topic
Search this Topic:

Advanced Search
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off



All times are GMT -7. The time now is 07:56 PM.



Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.9
Copyright ©2000 - 2017, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Optimization by vBSEO 3.6.0