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I couldn't do it any more. I quit already. Breast feeding!! She wanted nothing to do all night but nurse nurse nurse! by 6:00am my nipples were bleeding and had red blisters all over the areola. I spoke to a lactation consaltuant and I was told we were both doing everything great, he latch was good. She was so mad when nothing came out and she sucked me dry. I started with supplimenting with formula and she was much happier. So I switched to formula all together. I feel like a failure.
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Don't feel like a failure! You did your best. Not breastfeeding your baby does not make you a bad mom. I did not bf Cameron and I don't plan on doing it with this LO either. At least you gave it a shot I never tried I just new it wasn't for me from the get go.
Aww if you had blisters and bleeding, she definitely wasn't latched properly, you poor thing. Is it possible that during the night, as I am sure you are/were exhausted, her position and latch could have been off, or maybe that she just wanted to suck and was using you as a pacifier?
Don't feel like a failure!
__________________ Raelynn ~ Wife to Scott ~ Mom to Jordanna (9), Erik (2.5) and squishy baby Madison Certified Canadian Child Restraint Systems Technician
Last edited by raelynn; April 12th, 2009 at 03:27 PM.
**HUGS** Your not a failure hun! You did your best and give it a go thats all anyone can expect from you, just because you've switched to bottle doesn't mean your a bad person your doing whats best for you both!
I don't think you're a bad mom at all! I started formula feeding at 3 days old, and while I have enough milk supply to feed her a few times a day (we mostly do it at night) I will honestly admit I am sooo much less stressed now that I've accepted she is a formula fed baby. I think it was harder letting go of the "I failed feeling" then it was being concerned that breastmilk is better than formula. If she is growing and healthy and YOU'RE happy then you have NOTHING to feel bad about!
Everyone makes a big deal about breastmilk being better than formula, and of course it is, but the difference isn't that great. I had the same problem with DS that you're having, and I just switched to formula. Aside from teething, Luke has been sick ONE time in his 19-months of life.
You're doing a lot better by your baby by not being stressed and sore when you're trying to take care of her! You're not a bad mom at all!
A good mom is a happy mom...it's just important that YOU are feeling better. Don't let yourself feel guilty either. We moms have a lifetime of guilty moments ahead of us.
Don't feel bad at all!! I had my first son on formula at 6 days old, and he seems to be healthier than my 7 year old breast fed son. I know how painful it is to breastfeed, I have been in tears for the last 3 days, engorged and now I think I might be getting mastitis!!! If it doesn't stop in the next week, then Matthew will be a formula baby, there is nothing at all wrong with formula, just be happy knowing that when you are happy, she is happy And we really cannot be happy with our nipples ripped off!! You're an excellent mom
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I think you were set up to fail by your lactation consultant. If you are bleeding, something isn't going right. And that hurts like heck, no wonder you decided to quit. I'm kinda mad at your lactation consultant cuz breastfeeding CAN be and SHOULD be a wonderful experience, but you never even got a fair shot at it. But like that blinkie people have says "It's formula, not rat posion." Or "My smartypants toddler was bottlefed." It'll be OK, she'll still be absolutely perfect.
I agree with LJD3Tdance. I think only reason I've survived this long (a whole 5 days) is because of the nurses and 3 lactation consultants that I saw at the hospital. The hospital also has phone support. Your baby will do fine on formula, at least you tried. That makes you a great mom!
The lactation consultant doesn't sound very thorough. Perhaps when she watched you it was correct, but if you are bleeding/have blisters something is not right.
Regardless...you are NOT a bad mom if your little one is formula fed. I was formula fed and I turned out just fine (I think so anyway!!)
Don't feel like a failure! A good mom does what's best for baby AND mom. I don't have much of a milk supply which lead to a very hard time BF my first and switching to formula after a couple of weeks. The guilt trip that some people (mostly the health nurses but friends too) laid on me made me feel really depressed. So I vowed that with my 2nd I wouldn't let ANYONE make me feel bad about it and would tell them where to go if they tried, and I did.
Don't feel bad. You tried and that's all that counts. I had to switch Ryan to just formula when he was about 3 months because he could nurse until he sucked me dry and still be hungry.
The goal isn't to worry about what others will say, but to do what you as the mom feels is right for you and your baby.
I just want to say that if you still want to give it a shot, you can pump until your nipples are healed (if it's not too painful) and give bf another go in a few days.
I pumped exclusively with Grace, I will try bf with this one but I'm not above supplementing with formula if I don't make enough milk.
I'm a formula fed baby too and I turned out just fine!
If you're a bad Mom then I'm a bad Mom cause I would have done the same thing. The pressure to breast feed is intense. You need to do what is right for both you and your baby to be the best Mom you can be.
Thank you girls for all your support! We just got home from the hospital not too long ago. I am really happy I decided against breast feeding since now DH can have a bit more interaction with her. My DS was formula fed and he is in great health! I wish maybe I had been a bit more prepared but I guess it all worked out fine. Thanks again!
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