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November 4th, 2011, 05:15 AM
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I know it's just a phase, but it's happening despite my best efforts to prevent it.

I WFH and have a nanny. All this is so that I can stay an active and engaged mom while I'm busy earning a paycheck and doing the work thing. I did it primarily because we can afford it for now, and because I didn't feel compelled to jump into a daycare situation. She's already social, and I was eager to have the opportunity to have all the benefits it provides. As a byproduct I also figured this would help to prevent that whole depending and seeking the caregiver more than the mommy when she needed something...but I was wrong...and I have to admit my feelings are a tad hurt.

I work in my office on the second floor, and the nanny generally keeps her downstairs except for changes and she wanders up to hang with me while the nanny is getting lunch together. But to say that I am hands off in any way would be a gross misstatement. I'm hands on as much as I possibly can be. I find lately though that any time she hears me moving and she can't see me, her first words are "Daddy?" When the nanny arrived this morning, she heard her come in the door and said "Mama?" I was right behind her, and she thought the nanny was me. I know she's in the middle of a verbal sponge exercise (she's parroting every single word we say the last couple of weeks). But is it possible she's just getting her words mixed up?

Tell me please that other kids have done something similar and this isn't something I've created! I don't want to be in the background of her universe.
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November 4th, 2011, 10:45 AM
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It's just a generalization she is making right now. Kind of like all women are "Mama" and all men are "Dadda". She doesn't understand yet that those words are specific to her own mom and dad. Eventually she will relate it to people who only look similar to you and DH, then only to you and DH.

Both Austin and Aubrey went through a phase where they wouldn't call me Mom...they called me Jennifer, but they would still call DH Dad. They eventually outgrew it.

You might make up a nickname for your nanny that sounds completely different from Mama and start teaching your daughter to associate her with that word.

It's absolutely just a phase, and as her language and association skills develop overtime you will soon be her one and only "Mama".
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November 4th, 2011, 11:31 AM
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^^Great advice, I had no advice, because I don't remember Caden doing it. It did break my heart a little to think Maggie was calling the nanny momma......ok
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November 4th, 2011, 12:04 PM
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Yes, thanks for that. I was telling myself over and over again not to let it get to me, but had to admit it stung a little. OK a lot. I knew it wasn't intentional of course but you know...I started wondering if the whole strategy of working from home and bringing the nanny in had caused too much confusion for her.

The nanny's name is Elyse. I keep using it to try and get her to make the connections, but the vowels are too close in sound and too close together for her to say it yet.
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November 4th, 2011, 02:10 PM
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The kids at the my kids daycare call the provider "sweet honey" LMAO!! Im not sure why, but that's what she wanted to be called. Her real name is Kameelah. Maybe Elyse can think of a name that Maggie can call her since she has problems pronouncing Elyse! What about E! E!...LMAO girl Im joking with that one....
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November 6th, 2011, 11:45 AM
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When my kids were in daycare they had calloed me their teachers name a few times, I know it was just out of habit for them tho. They caught it right away and then called me mommy.
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November 8th, 2011, 09:37 AM
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That was some great advice.

Xander would constantly call me Dadda even though he knew I was his momma.

It just shows that she likes her Nanny and thinks of her as a mom. I am sure she knows you are her mom.

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