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November 28th, 2011, 11:59 AM
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So, I just had to decline a dinner invitation with my boss who is coming into town in a couple weeks to do extended planning for the next fiscal year with the Canadian contingent of our department. There are only 4 of us including him, and he's travelling in from TX, and one of us is travelling in from BC, but it will be after our move, and I will be an hour and a half away. DH won't be home from work til after 7, and Maggie goes to bed by 8...I'd never get downtown for dinner before 9pm, and then I'd be looking at an hour and a half drive home, followed by a 2 hour drive in for meetings on the other side of the city the next morning.

This is the first of many career limiting decisions no doubt, but man, it just feels so awkward. I've made the right choice here, but it's honestly the first career limiting thing that I've consciously done, and felt guilty for it. arrrgh. This kind of stuff should just never have to be a choice for working moms.

I told DH that it would just be too much driving...that's all I got out before he told me that he "understood". Somehow I doubt that.
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November 28th, 2011, 07:39 PM
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Guys just don't understand sometimes.

I am sorry you had to decline. That does sound like a lot of driving.
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November 30th, 2011, 08:26 AM
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Men have no clue sometimes, that does suck that you missed that opportunity, but I'm sure there will be more. Keep your head up! ((hugs))
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November 30th, 2011, 09:28 AM
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I've made many career limiting moves and have no regrets.

For example, before I started this project I was offered a very high profile project that would require travel to Toronto every since week for 4 months. There was no way I would do that and I flat-out refused. I could have been fired. Instead, a couple of weeks later I found my WFH project. I'm not going to be promoted for anything I do on this project, no matter how well I do, because it's not my group's core competency. I could care less! I don't want any additional responsibilities. I'd be happy to stay in my position with minimal raises and no glory until I retire. I'll let DH get the big raises and promotions.
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