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Where are you most confident in your decision-making? Where do you feel most confident that you are "in charge"? At work? Or at home? Do you feel equally confident in your work skills and your parenting skills?
I feel more comfortable at work because I can be productive at work.
At home, I can hardly accomplish anything unless Juliana is asleep or the nanny is here. I need to stop trying, because it's so frustrating. Sometimes when I try to multitask I'm completely frazzled after a few hours, but if I just stop and simply play with Juliana we have lots of fun.
I know better than to think I'm in charge at home. Life revolves around Juliana.
I do feel comfortable with my parenting skills. I'm not quite as comfortable as I used to be with more work skills. I used to feel very comfortable about them but now I know I refuse to work more than 40 hours and my mind is on mom-stuff half the time at work, so I'm not the super star employee I used to be. It doesn't bother me much, though; my priorities have changed and I'm fine with that.
For me it really depends. When it comes to London I'm very comfortable with my parenting skills, but that's because I have been there done that. With Caden, not so much because every day is a new adventure with my crazy BOY!! lol I sometimes second guess myself with raising Caden and I worry if Im making the right decisions so he won't grow up to be in prison (I know kinda extreme, but hey..lol)
I am very confident at work, because I do it so well. To the point where I can do it with my eye's closed. I think also everyday is the same.
I would say at work. My husband is very particular about things, so sometime I feel like everything we do has to have his approval. Mostly it's not a problem, because we usually agree. And with the things we don't agree on, his preference is usually a good one even if it's not what I would prefer. Sometimes it bugs me, but not often.
He's great, though. His particularness means that he does the cooking, helps a lot with the cleaning, and spends an equal amount of time caring for our son.
I feel more competent as a mom because so far my 7 month old is happy and healthy. My job has certain qualities that make it more difficult to feel any accomplishment - I work in a very hard field (auditing and taxation) and on top of that, everything that I do is reviewed by a superior and then returned to me for corrections so I constantly feel like I'm judged and graded. At home, nobody goes "Natalia, you have given your daughter half an ounce too much milk" LOL!!!
I'm probably more confident at home - mostly because I feel more relaxed and 'happy' there - whereas at work I'm busy, stressed at times, questioning myself. That said, I probably know more answers at work than I do at home where I'll be learning for a long time about motherhood!