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January 19th, 2012, 10:44 AM
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...of people judging me because i will be a working mom. I dont judge SAHM, so why do they feel the need to judge me as if they are in my shoes?
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January 19th, 2012, 12:06 PM
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Wow. I'm sorry. I haven't been judged for being a working mom so I don't really know what to say. Are you surrounded by SAHM's who judge you?
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January 19th, 2012, 03:19 PM
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wow. umm that hasn't happened to me yet either. I've been judged for other reasons, and sometimes I've felt judged and I was overreacting.

I would try to let this one go, and remind them the next time it happens that you are doing what's best for your family, just like they are doing what's best for theirs.
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January 19th, 2012, 03:46 PM
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If they're so willing to judge you...maybe they would be willing to pay your bills too!!
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January 19th, 2012, 04:51 PM
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some in the ddc im in on JM. They make certain comments. Ugh....
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January 20th, 2012, 04:51 AM
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Well, that is crappy. PERIOD. We are all mothers and we should be here to support one another, not judge. Shame on her!
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January 20th, 2012, 06:26 AM
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That is pretty crappy. In our due date club we had a lot of challenges around the issues of cloth diapering, attachment parenting, and breast feeding v. formula feeding was probably the hottest button issue. You can imagine that anyone who was ok with formula feeding was nearly ostercised and reported to children's aid.

Try not to let them get at you or under your skin. You are doing what's best for your family, and your choices are what make your family a stronger unit. Your child will get benefits and things they're children will never get a good grasp on. And not for nothing, but I can tell you I was always surprised at how little time those sahm moms were spending with the kids they were supposed to be at home caring for!
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January 20th, 2012, 08:59 AM
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Well, that is crappy. PERIOD. We are all mothers and we should be here to support one another, not judge. Shame on her!
yeah That. Its not about how you do whats best for your family its about DOING the best for your family. if that means mom works at a job/career, well... that means mom works at a job/career. no matter the reason. same for dads. stay strong and keep your head up.
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January 20th, 2012, 09:54 AM
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Well, that is crappy. PERIOD. We are all mothers and we should be here to support one another, not judge. Shame on her!
I agree 100% People are so quick to judge.. Until someone has walked a day in your shoes they need to keep thier mouth SHUT!!! You are a wonderful mother who sacrifices for your baby....I have gotten comments like that, but I keep in mind that I am doing the best thing for MY family! Keep your head up!
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January 20th, 2012, 10:29 AM
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I just went and read the thread...all I can say is WOW!!!! lol
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January 20th, 2012, 10:36 AM
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I just went and read the thread...all I can say is WOW!!!! lol
Wasn't that crazy!. Someone actually said "I dont understand why you would plan to have kids if your going to put them in daycare" thats just one of the things and oh that money isn't everything. Um, when you have bills and aspirations for one. Not all women want to stay at home and also some want to better their families situation by the added income or whatever the case may be but i shouldn't pro-create? lol ***. I feel like you do whats best for your family. No one says you have to work but there is something called "a choice" Someone actually said back in the 60s we didnt have to work and etc. LOL. Um its 2012 now though...Women fought for equal rights. Are you kidding me?
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January 20th, 2012, 11:36 AM
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CRAZY! I can't believe there are such ignorant and judgmental peope out there. Don't pay any attention to it! They're not worth your time.
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January 20th, 2012, 01:10 PM
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Ignore them, like the other ladies said they cant truely understand your situation until they have walked in your shoes (now I am curious about the thread)... and just remember you have a wonderful group of ladies here who understand the working mom mentality.

I am glad my DDC made it a point to not let posts get to a point like that. Our hosts stopped many of the push button threads that started (aka circumcision).

I will also point out that if I didnt work, we wouldnt be able to survive as a family. Df doesnt make enough to pay all our day to day bills. Is it better to get govt support?
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January 21st, 2012, 06:15 AM
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I totally agree with the other ladies.

I am so sorry that you are being judge. If you want report the post and get the deleted. Or have your co host do it. People should not be judged for there decisions on things.

there are pros and cons to be a Working mom and to be SAHM. it just isn't for some people even if money wasn't a problem.

You are doing the RIGHT decision for YOUR family and don't let anyone tell you any different.

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January 21st, 2012, 08:50 AM
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people are going to speak their mind, i'm judged for being disabled and wanting another child. it goes for everyone, people will gasp and go no no no. but i'm proud of who i am and you need that attitude too! don't give up on your dreams, remember when someone tells you something you don't like be the better person and just ignore it. you dont have time for bs in your life. your carrying an amazing human being and maybe a future president. stay strong mama!
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January 25th, 2012, 01:25 PM
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People just need to to shut their traps when it comes to being judgemental about what other parents do. You know why I work? Because my husband lost his arm in an accident and the job he does have does not include benefits. He doesn't get a dime of disability and we need the benefits to pay for his pain specialist and medication. I dare ANYONE to tell me I am a bad parent for working. I will tear them a new one.

Hi everyone BTW! I normally am much nicer in my posts. You can ask Cathy
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