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January 27th, 2012, 12:00 PM
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Does the working mommy guilt thing trip you up?

I've been hit with it hard this week with Maggie getting sick, and I realized, I probably have the whole working mommy guilt thing at least 5 times a week. And I have it good.

The nanny needed a half day off today, and so DH worked from home too, so that I could keep my mtg schedule together, and we could still have someone watching her. I'm finished in half an hour, but Maggie just climbed two flights of stairs crying because she needed mommy lovin. It kills me when I have to give her to someone else, so I can get work done.

Breaks my heart big time.
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January 27th, 2012, 02:02 PM
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Whenever I sign my son out of day care and calculate that he's been there 9-10 hours.
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January 27th, 2012, 05:12 PM
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It does make it hard when they're sick. I hope she feels better soon.

I start to feel guilty during the summer when I work a lot of weekends and we don't get to do any fun stuff as a family because of it.
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January 27th, 2012, 05:44 PM
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Some days I admit I don't get it at all when they are misbehaving.

But most of the time it is everyday
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January 30th, 2012, 11:50 AM
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I don't get it very often in terms of # of hours away from her, because we still spend tons of time together throughout the day and after the nanny leaves at 3:15.

What bothers me is when she wakes up when I'm in an early meeting and screams for mama and milk, and I have no choice but to ignore her. DH is there with her but it's not the same as mama. She's used to waking up to milk and she's very unhappy when she doesn't get it.
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January 30th, 2012, 01:04 PM
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I don't get it very often in terms of # of hours away from her, because we still spend tons of time together throughout the day and after the nanny leaves at 3:15.

What bothers me is when she wakes up when I'm in an early meeting and screams for mama and milk, and I have no choice but to ignore her. DH is there with her but it's not the same as mama. She's used to waking up to milk and she's very unhappy when she doesn't get it.
This is what tripped me up the other day. She wasn't well, and all she wanted was mama...and I had a call I couldn't reschedule. Just broke my heart.
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January 30th, 2012, 02:33 PM
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I get it daily...Especially when I'm at home cooking dinner or trying to get stuff done for the next day and all Caden and London want is for me to sit down with them and play...it really hits me that we don't see each other enough...

Don't get me wrong we do sit down together and play for a little bit, but I can't just do that the whole evening....
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January 30th, 2012, 02:54 PM
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I get it daily...Especially when I'm at home cooking dinner or trying to get stuff done for the next day and all Caden and London want is for me to sit down with them and play...it really hits me that we don't see each other enough...

Don't get me wrong we do sit down together and play for a little bit, but I can't just do that the whole evening....
yeah I feel the same way... and by the time dinner is over, it's usually less than a half hour til bath and bedtime
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January 31st, 2012, 01:51 PM
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I get it daily...Especially when I'm at home cooking dinner or trying to get stuff done for the next day and all Caden and London want is for me to sit down with them and play...it really hits me that we don't see each other enough...

Don't get me wrong we do sit down together and play for a little bit, but I can't just do that the whole evening....

That is exactly when the guilt hits me. Because I work, I need to get things done in the evening. I feel bad that I have to be doing housework instead of playing. I will admit that my house is not as organized as it was before having my son, but I can't get away with not unloading the dishwasher or getting dinner ready, and then the kitchen cleaned up after.

I think the guilt is limited when I am at work because his grandmother's take care of him while I am at work. I know he is getting tons of love and having a great time being spoiled.
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February 12th, 2012, 07:34 PM
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The mommy guilt I can manage at least most days, but I occasionally have a bad day. Those days usually start with her just wanting to snuggle with me in the mornings when she gets up. It was worse when i was the one taking her to daycare. She would throw a little fit that ended about the time I got out the door. So we solved that, daddy takes her to daycare now. But the mommy guilt hits in the evening once I've picked her up. By the time we get home she's ready for supper, bath, and bed. Once she is in bed, I realize how little time I spent with her during that day and I feel guilty. But I can't skip cooking supper and I'm already getting up at like 4am to do some housework stuff before work.
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