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February 1st, 2012, 10:36 AM
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My 2.5 yo son has begun to dawdle when getting ready for day care and it's driving me crazy! Causing me to lose work time, too.

We used to leave at 7 a .m.; now he's not getting up until then! That I can definitely deal with. He needs his sleep.

But it just takes forever to eat breakfast and get ready. It's for a few different but slightly connected reasons.

One is routine: he has to have things done a certain way or he complains. For example, he didn't see my pour milk in his cereal so I had to do it again.

Two is distraction: he sees something he wants to do/play with and he forgets about what he's doing. That leads back to routine; it gets him off track and it's harder to regain focus.

Three is independence: he wants to do everything himself. Again, that's great. He's learning to do so much. But it just takes so much longer.

Four is sometimes he just doesn't want to go to school. That makes it hard to get into the routine!

So now instead of leaving at 7, we don't leave until almost 8. Then the dawdling continues after he gets there and takes things off/puts things away.

Fortunately I have a flexible schedule so getting there later is not a problem. But I am losing almost an hour's worth of work! And I can't leave work any later than I did before. Plus, I'm 32 weeks pregnant so I am so tired after work I can't even consider catching up at home.

DH can sometimes help out, but his job is more intense so his schedule can't often vary from 7 a.m. - 6 p.m. He does what he can, and I don't resent that he's not there as much.

DS is a very particular guy, and easily throws tantrums when he doesn't get his way. We can be patient with him on evenings/weekends and let his tantrums run their course without giving in, but there just isn't time in the morning to deal with that.

Are there any suggestions for speeding this guy up?
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February 2nd, 2012, 06:57 AM
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I am sorry you are going thru this.

My suggestion is to get him to go to bed earlier and get him up in enough time so you can out of the house by 7 or at least 7:30. I wouldn't cater to him because he will know that and it will continue.

Good Luck and I hope things work out for you.
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February 2nd, 2012, 07:31 AM
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Yeah, the bedtime thing is when the dawdling is the worst!!! We've been trying to get him to sleep before 9 for a while but it is just so hard. We have to try harder.

This morning we got him up a little after 6:30 instead of letting him sleep until 7. He didn't complain. The dawdling was about the same, but at least we got out of the house earlier!!
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February 2nd, 2012, 11:31 AM
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I am sorry you are going thru this.

My suggestion is to get him to go to bed earlier and get him up in enough time so you can out of the house by 7 or at least 7:30. I wouldn't cater to him because he will know that and it will continue.

Good Luck and I hope things work out for you.
I just wanted to this. It doesn't sound like it's much fun at all. I can see how frustrating it could be.
I'd also say be consistent about not catering to his distractions. It's going to be tough, but I know if I let Maggie get distracted, she takes advantage of it too. Hope the earlier wake up time keeps working for you.
Good luck.
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February 2nd, 2012, 06:09 PM
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Collin has been doing the exact same thing in the morning and it drives me absolutely crazy! We have to leave the house by 6:45 and no later than that so basically I'm a drill sergeant every morning. It's all about business and I have to stay on top of him and be strict but it works...it's just exhausting.
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February 3rd, 2012, 07:31 AM
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I feel for you I still deal with this with my 4 year old and I have for a while. I like the suggestion of getting him to bed earlier. Caden is almost 5 and he insists on me dressing him, which is very frustrating because i can't for one and two he is almost 5, he can dress himself! Its hard enough getting London and myself dressed. He literally will take sometimes 45 min to put on socks, underwear,shirt and pants! really?
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