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Ever feel like there's a silent competition between the moms at daycare or other moms who stay at home?
I work from home, so I am lucky and I don't have to get all dolled up for my day job, BUT, I often feel like when I drop Maggie off at preschool, some of the other moms who are all dolled up and are obviously taking care of themselves are maybe judging me. And then I wonder how in the heck they have time to maintain themselves, when even while working from home, I'm struggling to keep my roots coloured, and my hair trimmed.
don't even ask me when the last time was that I wore makeup. Somedays I feel like I'm missing some nugget of wisdom that would help me stop the clock from ticking while I whisked around and did all the "me" stuff. At the end of the day, I'm probably the only one judging me, but still...
Do you feel like you're stacking up with the other mom's out there? Do you even worry about this kind of stuff?
Becky, mommy to my Monkey Pie, Maggie (June 10, 2010)
I do feel like there is some competition. Even with my "mom friends". I have a few who have the same number of kids as me and work and stay fit and trim and work out at night..PLEASE! I barely get my face washed before I fall into bed. I count down the minutes till bed time most nights..I feel horrible because I don't get home till 6 with the kids from the babysitter and then they go to bed 9 and I'm so tired..I just want bedtime to come..
Actually, one of the reasons I picked the mommy group I did, which became the same place my son went to most of his classes and will now go to preschool, is exactly because I felt no competition, and the moms felt just like me - professional but mature and too busy to worry about getting dolled up for mommy-and-me class!
I have to manage stress as it is for my work -- not going to bring any of that into my personal life!!
I actually dont feel that way at all when it comes to daycare. I pick up in the afternoon, and I dont think anyone looks twice at what I am wearing. Or that I dont have make up on (I dont wear make up). I am generally dressed in slacks and a nice top and sporting my AWESOME flip flops!