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  #1  
January 28th, 2009, 06:42 PM
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If I hear those words again and I am going to punch someone in the face!!! I am so sick of it, I hear it all day long!! I hear it from friends, co workers, patients EVERYONE!! I guess it is my own fault for talking about TTC so much!! If people only understood what it was like to TTCMA, they would shut the mouths!! I can never stop thinkning about it, it is all or nothing, either I take the clomid and give it a good shot, or I don't take the Clomid and I don't O so there is no hope!! If I could forget about it and my body would O and I could jut fly by the seat of my pants every month I would, Trust me!!
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January 28th, 2009, 07:04 PM
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I totally agree and I think we're all in the same boat. Sometimes I think people just don't realize what they are saying and even if they do they never will quite understand what it's like TTCMA unless they are doing it themselves.

That's why I come here all the time... I need the moral support!
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January 28th, 2009, 07:14 PM
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The worst is...."It will happen when it's suppose too!" I HATE that!!!! I know it's true...but DO NOT tell me that!!! I'm glad I'm not the only one that gets sick of peoples opinions at times!
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January 28th, 2009, 07:14 PM
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The worst is...."It will happen when it's suppose too!" I HATE that!!!! I know it's true...but DO NOT tell me that!!! I'm glad I'm not the only one that gets sick of peoples opinions at times!
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January 28th, 2009, 07:14 PM
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For real...I hate to hear it too. I don't talk about it to anyone but the girls here, dh and two family members. Why...because I will drop kick someone if I hear those words again(hehehehehehehe).
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January 28th, 2009, 07:41 PM
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I'm sorry...people can be so hurtful without even realizing it.

My favorite is "don't let TTC get you down. You should be living your life to the fullest even if you're having problems conceiving." Really? Seriously? I'm supposed to just go out there and have a wonderful time despite the fact that EVERY DAY I wake up and I ache to be a mother? How can I live life to the fullest when I'm tied down with doctor's appointments, ultrasounds, medicines, thermometers, vitamins and sticks to pee on? I'm living life to the fullest by putting 110% into getting pregnant, but most people don't seem to get it.

Thank goodness for JM! I know I have said it before, but JM has completely and totally saved my sanity because you girls really, truly understand what I'm thinking and feeling about TTC.
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January 28th, 2009, 08:34 PM
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Thank goodness for JM! I know I have said it before, but JM has completely and totally saved my sanity because you girls really, truly understand what I'm thinking and feeling about TTC.[/b]
I totally agree!! Without all you ladies, I would go crazy!! I love knowing that if I am having a bad day, everyone on JM is willing to send me a hug, and listen to me whine and complain!!!!

I really hate when people compare me to there friends...."well my friend stopped trying and got prego"......."my friend adopted, maybe that what you can do, then you will get pregnant"...ARE YOU FREAKING KIDDING ME!!!


Here's a good one......I was working with kids all day at work, and I was so tired of it, I complained a little and said something like "if I have to work on another kid, I might go crazy" and my co worker said to me....."what, just because you can't have kids of your own you now hate everyone elses" ***
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January 29th, 2009, 04:43 AM
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Oh the absolute best one is "Just relax!"

That makes several cuss words come out!


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January 29th, 2009, 07:47 AM
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I'm sorry Morgan! I hate when people say that!!! I hope you get your BFP soon so that the comments stop!
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January 29th, 2009, 07:57 AM
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I feel like I could have written your post word for word! You have lots of company here!
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January 29th, 2009, 08:19 AM
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I know exactly what you mean and that is EXACTLY why I am a JM ADDICT! No one ever says those things here! The only people IRL that know we are TTC is DS, my mom and ONE good friend who also had to TTCw/MA. I refuse to let anyone know for fear if I hear one of those insensitive and TOTALLY UNEDUCATED comments again I will end up in jail for assault and that will TOTALLY screw up BD timing!
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January 29th, 2009, 01:57 PM
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I just don't know why people think they have the right to say things to us about ttc...especially when they have no idea what we're going through! It just really enrages me.

The one that really pi$$es me off is, "Don't let ttc take over your life" First of all-how condescending is that! Secondly...what an asinine statement to make?!?! How can it not take over my life when I feel like I'm at the doctor's everyday with an ultrasound wand doing its thing up there.


Grrrrr.....

I agree-thank God for JM!!!
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January 29th, 2009, 02:32 PM
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"maybe if you just dont try it'll happen" um considering my fiance has NO sperm I'm thinking its not going to happen without trying. His sister is the worst for that "stranger things can happen...I dont see why you bother spending money on sperm..just wait and see"

So I havent been on birthcontrol during our entire relationship and I ALWAYS have sex when I'm ovulating never fail because I'm always "horny" on O day. It isnt going to happen lady. I probably have a higher chance of randomly hitting menopause at the age of 25 than I do of conceiving naturally with him.
I know his sister is just jealous because their mother left him more money in her will for his fertility treatments.
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January 29th, 2009, 05:00 PM
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(im new to this board) I just saw your post while lurking and im sooo tired of people telling me that! i have had surgeries and been on four rounds of clomid im about to do iui! There is obviously a problem!! uhhh!! soo frustrating..they say just relax it will happen and if you dont think about it it will!! I know just what you mean!! Good luck to you girlie!!
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January 29th, 2009, 05:12 PM
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Everyone always thinks that saying things like " relax " and "don't think about it" help and really all it does is make us want to ask them to stop thinking about the one thing in life that they can't have!
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January 29th, 2009, 06:13 PM
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Seriously guys, I am so glad I am not the only one ready to punch someone!! I thought talking about it with co workers would make it easier, but it really made it worse!! I thought that they are goin to know Im going to the DR tons, and I don't want them thinking there is something life threatening going on, so I shared with them all.....BIG MISTAKE!!!

Today one of my co workers brought in her 3 week old daughter, and everyone looked at me with sad eyes, saying things like "don't you wish this was your baby" or "don't let Morgan hold her, she might steal her"...ya im going to steal a freaking baby, they are all F#$@ed!!

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