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Yesterday was our first appointment with the perinatologist, and we found out that we lost one of our triplets. Apparently it's a very common occurrence early in multiple pregnancies -- it's called Vanishing Twin Syndrome. We could still see the third sac, but the baby was much smaller and no longer well-formed. We probably lost it around 9 weeks, because it was doing well at my 8 week ultrasound.
DH & I were sad when we first found out, but ultimately, this is for the best, and really a blessing in disguise. It feels like a huge weight had been lifted from us. The pregnancy is much less risky now, and I'll be able to carry the babies much longer -- less risks for them (will probably be born full term at 37 weeks), less risks for me (lower chance of pre-e, ability to exercise more, less bedrest), fewer worries for DH (his biggest fear with the triplet pregnancy was losing all four of us ). Add to that the "material" factors -- we won't need to buy a new car, hire a nanny, etc, etc, etc. Don't get me wrong, we are definitely disappointed, but we really see God's hand in this situation. The other two munchkins are doing great and are measuring a day or two ahead, so we were very happy about that.
In other news....I may now be able to deliver vaginally. This group has the best twin vag delivery rate in the city. If the bottom baby is head down (regardless of top baby), my doctor prefers a natural delivery, unless the mother is against it.
I've now gained a whopping 17 pounds (the result of no morning sickness and constant extreme hunger!), but apparently that's a good thing! I met with a nutritionist and they recommend that twin moms gain 25 pounds by 20 weeks, by eating 3500 calories a day (for triplets it's 35 pounds by 20 weeks with 4000-4500 calories a day). The reason for the huge calorie intake, is because you reach full-term size much earlier, meaning that your food consumption is greatly reduced. They are wanting you to pack on the pounds early in the pregnancy, because it will be much more difficult to do so later, when the babies actually need it.
So, all in all, it was a big day yesterday -- bittersweet, for sure, but this really is going to be a positive thing for us.
Family Pic (kiddos are 16 months)
Me: 32.:. DH: 30...TTC w/ Male Factor.... BFP! Was triplets! NOW IT'S TWINS!!! 1 BOY, 1 GIRL
Katie, I'm sorry to hear about your loss...I'm sure that was a tough thing to hear. It does sound, though, like you have definitely found the silver lining. I'm so glad that the other 2 babies are growing strong and healthy, and I'll definitely keep you and them in my T & P. Thanks for keeping us updated!
Melissa & DH
IVF babies Claire (3), Abigail (1) and George (1)
I'm so sorry for your loss. It must be hard to deal with, even though it will be less risky for you and for the other two beans. I'm praying that your twins continue to grow and thrive and are snuggled in for 9+ months! KUP!!
__________________ Alexandra Eva is here! Born 1/17/10 at 5:55pm. Weighing in at 6lbs, 8oz and 20 Inches Long! Secondary Infertility Blog*~*http://onemunchkin.blogspot.com/ *~*
I'm really sorry about your loss, but I'm really glad you are all doing well and that your other two babies are healthy and growing! I'm hoping you have a very uneventful 7 or so months! Thanks for keeping us up-to-date!!!
Yet another wonderful siggy by HeatherW.... thank you so much!!!
Sorry to hear about your loss. you have the right attitude and a good perspective o nthe situation. I completely agree< God always has a reason for everything, whether we understand his reasoning at the time or not. You are in my thoughts and prayers for H&H 9 months!!! Melanie