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December 17th, 2009, 07:01 AM
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They called me this morning with my results and said they were negative. I said ok so it was zero. She said nope it was only at a 3.3 and anything less than 5.0 is considered a negative. I get that. I'm not pregnant. But she couldn't even begin to answer any of my questions.

1) Could this have been a late implanter? Should I retest? (Her answer will really tick you off.... she said no because implantation will occur before 3 days after the insemination.... what???? I told her that's not true, that implantation can occur anywhere from 6-12dpo... and her response was that she wasn't going to argue with me. )

2) Why should I pay another $100-200 to have another consultation with my RE if all he will have to say to me is you sould consider going the IVF route, which he and everyone else there knows we won't be doing right now for financial purposes. Does he have another option for me? (She said that we would have to talk with him about it. Of course I do.... they want more money to tell me what I already feel I know)

3) Should I stay on the BCP while not TTC or should we attempt naturally on our own, even though I'm never O on my own? (Her response, "...any time you are not TTC you should be on BCP, but you could try naturally for awhile too but it won't help with your PCOS symptoms." So what do I do?????)

4) Should I stay on the Metformin? If so, who do I go for my prescription? (Her response is only to stay on the metformin if I'm going to continue trying, but he can only give me a refill for the next 6 months and then I'd have to go in and have another consult with him... more money!)

I did set up a phone consult which will hopefully be only 15 minutes so that it will only cost us about $60, but if it goes over 15 minutes it jumps to $120! I just want to hear what he has to say our "next step" would have been (IVF), and find out what he has to say about the BCP and Metformin while we pursue adoption. Maybe I can convince him to call up to my OB here and see if she will take over prescribing me the Met. I know it will help with a LOT of my PCOS symptoms and that way I don't have to be on BCP and we could maybe get a miracle somewhere down the road. Who knows.

I know I'm not pregnant. I'm sad about that but just more annoyed and frustrated with my RE's office. Maybe I'm taking my anger over nothing working for me out on my RE's office and it's not really justified. Either way, I know that DH and I are done with MA for a long while.

Man, reading that all back it doesn't really make a ton of sense. I think I just started rambling half way through. Sorry for this long, pointless post. Just needed to get it all off my chest.
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December 17th, 2009, 07:07 AM
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Poor thing. You clearly need a serious break! Time AWAY from your RE's office. I don't blame you a bit. What if you just took a few months on BCP just to clear your head. Look into adoption. STOP TTC for a bit. See how you feel?
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December 17th, 2009, 07:12 AM
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I'm sorry Kari.....HUGS!
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December 17th, 2009, 07:12 AM
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I KNOW this is not what you were hoping for, but it sounds like everything is falling into place. Like Becky said, you clearly need a break from MA (RIGHTFULLY so!) and you and DH have already decided that adoption is a path you're willing to travel down together, so I say go for it. I'm concerned about the Met too. I haven't been taking it the past few weeks, but I plan to start back the first of the year. I have a couple of refills left and that's it...but I will probably just go to my PCP after they run out and I'm sure he'll fill it for me

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December 17th, 2009, 07:23 AM
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I wish there was something I could do to help. I also agree that a complete break from your RE's office sounds like it may help a little bit. I'm so sorry that your RE's office is being so difficult!! It's crazy that they can't just give a patient a 3 minute phone call to hear you out.

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December 17th, 2009, 07:23 AM
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I'm sorry that women was soooo unhelpful. Good luck with your adoption journey I can't wait to follow you through it
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December 17th, 2009, 07:26 AM
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Thanks ladies... I think I'm just at that breaking point. MA has broken me down and now I have to pick myself up again.

I know that moving forward with adoption that I will find renewed hope and determination.
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December 17th, 2009, 08:02 AM
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That nurse just sounds unnecessarily rude. I'm so sorry hun
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December 17th, 2009, 09:16 AM
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OMG Kari i am so sorry you have to deal with that.. First off that nurse is a moron!

is there any other infertility specialist by you because that office has got to go.. Charging you to talk to the doc WTH? that is so ridiculous! I am so upset that you have to go through all this crap on top of it.. TTCMA SUCKS IT'S A HARD STRESSFUL ROAD! and you need an RE that will work with you and not charge you for every second and the nurse be rude on top of it..

I hope your day gets better and if you like i am an italian girl from NY give me the nurses number i can tell her a thing or 2 uncensored
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December 17th, 2009, 09:18 AM
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I am so sorry Kari! MA does break you down, and it is hard to get that feeling to go away. I wish there were some decent RE's out there and that nurse wasn't very understanding or smart for that matter. Maybe she should go back and read her medical journals to catch up on how a freaking egg implants!!!!!!!! I hope the adoption process runs smootly for you. I am excited to follow the process for you and Brandi!
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December 17th, 2009, 09:29 AM
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I read and re read your first post and the answers the nurse gave you just don't add up!!!! I'm soooo sorry you anr having a rough day. I agree with te rest of the girls and if possible find a differnt office!!!! Why in God's name do the medical staff and somme places make us feel soooo bad over a already bad situation!!! Thay have no sympathy., and probaly need to find a differant job . NO heart I swear!!! Anyway good luck with your new journey
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December 17th, 2009, 10:49 AM
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Oh, Kari...that wasn't a pointless post at all. You have questions, and when someone can't answer them, you have every right to be frustrated. I'm so sorry this cycle didn't work...I was praying for a miracle. I just have to think that there is a different plan for you, and I can't wait to see what it is!!
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December 17th, 2009, 12:22 PM
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Thank you ladies! I'm glad I wasn't out of line for feeling so frustrated. I will hopefully at least get some answer on the BCP and Met from my RE and then we will be done with MA for awhile. I can't even being to tell you how excited I am to embark on this new journey. It will be so different but so exciting at the same time. I know that I am meant to be a mommy... I just can't wait to hold my baby in my arms!
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December 17th, 2009, 01:52 PM
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Hmmmm. I have my bloodwork done at Quest labs and they consider anything over a 2 pregnant. My HCG was 3 at 12dpo, and then it had risen to 6 by 15dpo. We all know it didn't turn out well, but I was definitely pregnant, otherwise I wouldn't have had the three positive HPTs and the rising HCG numbers. I really think you should test at home in a day or two!

That said....I am sorry that woman was so rude to you, and that things are so rough. If this isn't your cycle, I am praying that moving forward with adoption brings you your sweet baby soon!
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December 17th, 2009, 01:56 PM
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Jordan, I was also really confused when she said that I wasn't pregnant but my levels were up. She offered me to test again but I just felt stupid for arguing with her over it anymore. She just kept saying over and over again that the lab parameters say that anything under 5.0 is negative.

I am going to stop the progesterone again and if I don't start bleeding in 24 hours I'll take a test, but at this point my head and heart has already moved on
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December 17th, 2009, 02:27 PM
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that sucks. i had a dr office like that and they would never answer my questions. I hate that. My dr hasn't charged me anything then the treatments we have done, which is nice
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December 17th, 2009, 03:37 PM
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aww..hugs Kari! im soo sorry! I dont understand how in their right mind a drs office let alone an REs office be soo cruel..they see so many people they get their money..but they also advise counseling while going through these things..so since they know we are hurting already..it doesnt help when they are such jerks! im soo sorry you had to experience that..maybe if in time you want to try again..i would find a new re..good luck in whichever path you take!
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December 17th, 2009, 06:29 PM
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I'm so sorry Kari. I just don't know what to say. I don't know what you have decided, but my HCG was <5 at 13dpo and they told me it was negative, even though I have since learned it was a 2. The next day it was 15. I don't want to give you any false hope, but it is always possible that this will go up. But either way, I am going to keep you in my thoughts and prayers and I hope that you are holding your baby soon, whether adopted or birthed by you. You are going to be an amazing mother.
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December 17th, 2009, 06:47 PM
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Thank you Addie! When she told me my HCG level you were the first person that I thought of. I have kept saying over and over in my head today that I know of too many people now that have had really low first beta's. I will probably test tomorrow, if I haven't started bleeding. On and off yesterday and today I have had some brown spotting, but only when I wipe and a tiny bit on my pad. Nothing like what AF should be like.

I'll keep you posted on what I find out, but DH and I had a very long talk tonight about refocusing ourselves on starting our family through adoption - we are both pretty pumped about the process!
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I'm so excited for you Kari!!! If you get a in the coming days, then that's great, but adoption is going to be awesome too
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