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January 1st, 2010, 06:19 PM
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I would love to share my story with you. My husband and I went through three years of infertility mess before we became parents through adoption. I wrote this out not long after the kids came home...


After about three years of marriage, Dh and I decided that we had been married long enough and had our lives going in a good direction, so it was time to start building our family. We figured it might take a while, but we were excited about the prospect of a baby. We did not, however, know just what we were getting ourselves into.

You see, in the years that we had been married, my body had stopped cycling. I would go 8 or 9 months without a period. We took the first year and a half just to try to wake my body up. And it gave us a taste of what type of medication it might take to help us get pregnant. We were already starting to get frustrated, however we knew that these things were common but could be beat easily. So we went back to my doctor and began the first series of fertility testing. In May of 2005, I began taking Clomid, a fertility drug. We were very excited as we just knew this would be it. We would get pregnant. Then a month went by, then two, then three….and it wasn’t working. My body still wasn’t cooperating. Every month, my dose was upped…every month I had to go back for testing. Every month, the test was negative. And every month that went by began to bring more and more heartache. Instead of rising, my progesterone levels kept falling. After five months of clomid and almost two years of trying to conceive, our doctor sent us to a fertility specialist.

While waiting for our appointment, I began to feel weird. I had strange pain that couldn’t be described. I was uncomfortable, irritable…It finally got to the point that I just couldn’t handle the pain anymore, so we went to the ER. That day, in October of 2005, we got a positive pregnancy test. We were overjoyed, to say the least. We had just bought our house and the fertility treatments were beginning to take a toll on us. Depression was starting to kick in. We just knew this was a miracle and the answer to our prayers.

Unfortunately, I miscarried just days after getting the positive test. It was devastating. After trying for so long and praying so hard, it was like God had ripped our miracle away from us. I laid on our couch and sobbed for days. Dh felt useless. There was nothing he could do.

Ten days after the miscarriage, we picked ourselves up and went to meet our fertility specialist. He calmed our fears, explained how the miscarriage happened, and moved us forward. I had to continue to take Prometrium and in December, I went in for surgery. The diagnosis was not promising. I had stage two, almost stage three, endometriosis and polycystic ovarian syndrome. We were told our protocol for the next stage in our treatments. This included multiple ultrasounds, 7 different medications, daily shots, and IUI. I couldn’t picture us going through this. We had always promised ourselves we would not get invasive, and here we were, so desperate to have a baby, that we were taking steps we never thought we would. We tried so hard to reconcile it all. I even went to see the doctor with my mom in order to ease my fears. We were in such a state of disbelief and devastation that I felt as though we were crumbling. We were told that we had four chances with this protocol,that’s it. And then it would be over. We couldn't afford In Vitro Fertilization.

We went into the doctor’s office in late December hoping that this would be it. Hoping that this time it would work. And were told that in the two weeks since my surgery, I had grown a large cyst and could not do the treatments. Another surgery was talked about and we were sent home with birth control pills for me to take to help alleviate the cyst.

We went home and cried together. We thought another opportunity had been taken away from us. After about half an hour, I looked up at Dh and said, “It’s time for you to play the man card and make a decision. What do you want to do?” He told me, “You’re done. We can’t do this anymore. It’s time to adopt.” And finally, for the first time in months, we both began to feel hope. You see, we believe that there is a reason for everything. And we needed to feel as though there was a reason for all of the heartache. That there was a reason for all of our pain. What we didn’t know was that there wasn’t a reason.


There were three.

So I got up from the couch, went into our filing cabinet, got out the adoption applications, and began to fill them out. Within a month, we heard about three children who would be up for adoption…and shrugged it off. Adoption is not that easy, so we thought nothing of it when a good friend told us her parents were fostering these kids and that they would be ready for adoption soon.

A week later, I got a text message on my phone. It said “they’re free. They can be adopted.” I went to my friend's house, spoke to her mom on the phone about the kids and began to feel as though my heart was being tugged towards them. I tried to talk to Dh about it and he told me no. That’s too many kids at once. There’s no way. I finally talked him into at least finding out about the kids. Well, then I did the worst. I showed him a picture of the children. And that was it. They were ours.

A week after we decided to adopt, we discovered that the cyst I had grown, the cyst that the fertility specialist thought would have to be surgically removed, the cyst that kept us from completing the invasive fertility treatments, was gone. It had miraculously disappeared.

6 weeks after the surgery, four weeks after deciding to adopt, we met our kids. The process was rolling. And the process rolled very quickly. In may, just three months later, our kids came home. That is practically unheard of. You see, it usually takes three months to go through the application process alone and then it could take years before you bring a child home. It took us a grand total of three and a half months. That in and of itself is a miracle.

I hope you all find the miracles you are waiting for. Adoption was the best thing that ever happened to us. Good luck!
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January 1st, 2010, 06:34 PM
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Beautiful Story!! Thank you so much for sharing it with
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January 1st, 2010, 07:45 PM
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Ivy, thank you so much for sharing your story. I know that in the coming months and possibly years you will be a great source of help to us going through this journey!
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January 1st, 2010, 10:34 PM
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What a beautiful story. How old were the children you adopted?
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January 2nd, 2010, 04:44 AM
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They were 5, 3, and 2 when we brought them home. They are now (OMG) 9, 7, and 5!
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January 2nd, 2010, 07:08 AM
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Those are EXACTLY the ages we are looking for!!!
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January 2nd, 2010, 07:17 AM
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Thank you so much for sharing your story Then did you go on to conceive naturally?
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January 2nd, 2010, 07:21 AM
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We did go on to conceive naturally not once, but TWICE! LOL We conceived Luke three months after our first three came home. Talk about a surprise. ANd then last year, we got a BFP two days before my doctor's appointment to get back on Clomid. There's hope!
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January 2nd, 2010, 08:09 AM
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wow thats amazing!!!!!
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January 2nd, 2010, 08:38 AM
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You have one inspiring story!!
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January 2nd, 2010, 08:52 AM
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You just made my day

Congratulations....you have been so blessed You already knew that
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January 2nd, 2010, 02:27 PM
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Thanks for sharing!!! It does give us hope!
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January 2nd, 2010, 03:27 PM
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I'm so glad you guys are getting something out of my story!

I can tell you, my RE was in utter shock with both my pregnancies. He had called me personally after I made my appointment to talk about going straight to injectibles with IUI because he didn't think clomid would work at all for me. He had even told me that if I had been in my thirties already, he would have already given my a hysterectomy because the endo is so bad.

Never give up!
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