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February 21st, 2010, 11:09 AM
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So I had a friend email me and tell me she is expecting in Sept with her 3rd. She is super nice and I appreciate that she emailed me and told me if I need space she understands but I just want to cry reading her email. We've been ttc#2 for over a year and a half and I just look at all these girls who are pregnant within a couple months and I'm jealous. I end up feeling guilty feeling like this because I know there are some women who have not had a first and I have been blessed with Micah and feel like I don't have the right to feel this way. I go to a playgroup and now 5 of the mom's are all expecting and I just don't think I can go to it anymore. I know I'm not the only one who feels like this on this board so I just had to post because I know you girls get it and have been there with all the frustrations. Sometimes it just helps to write it out. It sucks too because we are waiting to start IVF and I hate the stupid waiting. It could be another 3 months before we start and it feels like torture waiting. We wanted our kids to be close in age and because it took us 2 1/2 years to get pregnant with him we started when he was 8 months old and I was delusional enough to think that since we got pregnant with puregon and IUI with him that it would totally work right away with the second, guess I should have started the day after he was born.

That is my big long rant and bunch of emotions just jumbled together Thanks for listening ladies.
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Me (Michelle)-33, Wife to Rawn 34, mom to Micah born November 22,2007
TTC#2 since June 2008
Did Puregon and IUI from June 2008 - Dec.2008
Began process of testing and getting ready for IVF w/ICSI Feb.2009
Did first IVF w/ICSI in May. MC June 2009
Did IVF with FET Oct 2009 and had CP
Begin taking BCP on May 7 for IVF
Lupron injections on May 15
Gonal-F & Menupor on May 28
Retrieval on June 7, 5 day transfer w/2 embryo's on June 12
June 21-4 weeks pregnant!! Praying for heartbeat at 7 week ultrasound
July 12-We are having twins! Two strong heartbeats. Thank you God.
Jan 13,2011-Marcus and Caleb were born.




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February 21st, 2010, 11:31 AM
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All I can say is I could have just wrote EXACTLY what you just said word for word. I feel totally the same as you and have sheltered myself from many people because I can't handle them getting pg. We are starting our first and most likely only IVF in March. I also have a son who turned two the end of Nov and I wanted them closer in age as well. It took almost two years to get pg with him. Your feelings are totally normal and I completely understand where you are coming from. I hope your next IVF works and maybe you can get bumped up to start sooner?

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February 21st, 2010, 11:31 AM
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I'm sorry...it never gets easier to hear things like that.
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February 21st, 2010, 12:35 PM
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Sorry about your crummy news. I know that we have all BTDT in one way or another. Don't feel bad about the way you feel, it's only natural.

Hang in there, I hope you get your BFP wish very soon!!!
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February 21st, 2010, 12:57 PM
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I know exactly how you feel, and you're definitely not alone in feeling that way. I have a 2 year old, and sometimes I feel bad about complaining because I do already have a child... but it took a lot of effort to have him, and here we are again trying with #2, and now I have to deal with all my son's friends having new siblings, and I just don't know how to handle it sometimes. All the moms I spend time with are already have a second child (or are currently pregnant), and I keep getting all those questions about when will my son become a big brother? I also want them to be close in age, and it seems so out of my control sometimes. I do feel VERY fortunate to have my son, and honestly, he does help me when I'm really down about TTC, so I know we could be in a lot worse of a position. But still, it's hard when you can't have the family you want (whether it's one child or five), and you see everyone else around you getting what YOU want, and getting it without even trying (or even WANTING it).
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February 21st, 2010, 07:33 PM
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Thanks ladies! It helps so much to have people who understand.
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Me (Michelle)-33, Wife to Rawn 34, mom to Micah born November 22,2007
TTC#2 since June 2008
Did Puregon and IUI from June 2008 - Dec.2008
Began process of testing and getting ready for IVF w/ICSI Feb.2009
Did first IVF w/ICSI in May. MC June 2009
Did IVF with FET Oct 2009 and had CP
Begin taking BCP on May 7 for IVF
Lupron injections on May 15
Gonal-F & Menupor on May 28
Retrieval on June 7, 5 day transfer w/2 embryo's on June 12
June 21-4 weeks pregnant!! Praying for heartbeat at 7 week ultrasound
July 12-We are having twins! Two strong heartbeats. Thank you God.
Jan 13,2011-Marcus and Caleb were born.




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