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Friday we went for our second opinion. He said that he wouldn't tell us that we had no options other than IVF, but anything else that they would do would have a less than 10% chance of working and would be invasive surgery with a probable poor outcome. Because of our ages he advised us not to go down that road, but to consider IVF. He could get us started as early as April. Saturday we went to an open house at another RE in town to learn more about that practice. We liked the office, so we set up a consult with her too, but can't get in until next month. I suspect if we go down the IVF road we will work with either the second or third place, because at the first place I just felt like a herded cow. Although there is also a fourth RE in town that we could consult if neither of those two work out.
I'm having a really hard time trying to digest everything and figure out what the best path for us is at this time. We are also considering adoption, but it seems way harder to find information about that. Most of the agencies in town are religiously affiliated (we are not), and the other two haven't gotten stellar reviews.
Does anyone have recommendations for good books or resources to turn to when you get to this point?
One of the major things I'd point out is to def go with your gut on the RE practice. If you feel herded like cattle, that feeling probably won't change. That's some of the best advice I've gotten on these boards. These docs get THOUSANDS from us, so make sure you pick someone you feel comfy with for sure
"I will make it through this because it is for her and for her, I will do anything. I am not brave, I am not strong, I am just Rhiannon’s mom". Our TTC/Adoption/Pregnancy Blog: Jump Over The Rainbow
Yep, go with your gut on the RE stuff.... looks like you have a few options so at least that's a plus.
As far as the adoption stuff goes. Everything in my area is religion affliated but they are open to working with ANYONE, and I certainly didn't feel like I was getting the bible shoved down my throat when I met with a few of them. Also, about the information stuff. I had a hard time at first too. I actually went out and bought a book from B&N called, "Idiots Guide to Adoption". Sounds silly, but it has the best information on there, with descriptions of ALL you options in it.
Yet another wonderful siggy by HeatherW.... thank you so much!!!