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September 2nd, 2010, 05:45 AM
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Ok... so I'm a bit overwhelmed with everything going on right now.

To sum it up... I'm :brickwall ::h igh5:: chin::fingerscros sed:

1. We are still working towards having a garage sale two weeks from this weekend. I have lots of work to do before then. Order more cards, get stuff in the paper, get new signs, price stuff, find help...

2. Our largest fundraiser at work is a week away and I'm in charge of a large part of it, which I still have LOTS of work to do on in the next few days.

3. We talked with the grandparents of the little boy in foster care again last night. At this point, we are one of two families names that they gave to the courts as who they see as suitable placement for the baby. We have no idea when or if that decision will be made.

4. Three days ago a co-worker gave our adoption card to a friend of hers that is 7 months pregnant. She has a meeting with our adoption agency TODAY... and is really excited to meet us.

5. One of my best friends messaged me on FB this morning because her sister just found out she is pregnant and can't keep the baby and was thinking about abortion but Kim thinks she might be able to convince her to give the baby to us.

AHHHHH!!!! So many babies and I feel so blessed but I have NO IDEA what to do. At this point, we could probably adopt two of these babies, but not more than that simply just due to the fact that we can't afford more than two daycare fees, diapers, formula, insurance...

I just keep thanking God that he has sent these babies in my direction, but I really have no clue how to go through these motions of trying to plan for things that simply might not happen. What do I plan for, what do I not need to worry about, will our agency even let us adopt a baby through their system and foster care at the same time, what babies are meant to be ours, which ones are meant for other families????

AND while all this is floating through me head, I go back to the idea that none of this might work out and while right now there is a slight chance that we could be parents in the next few months/9 months... we might still be childless 2 years from now.

I'm WAY to much of a planner to be able to handle all this, and while I WILL make it through, I really just needed to get it all out of my head and off my chest.

Thanks for making it this far... if you did!

Yet another wonderful siggy by HeatherW.... thank you so much!!!

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September 2nd, 2010, 05:51 AM
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I really hope things fall into place completely for you, Kari. At least one of these little babies needs to end up in your arms, and I will keep the faith that this will happen. I will be thinking of you, Kari!
Our TTC journey: 6 cycles Clomid, lap surgery/ D&C, IUI, 2 x IVF; 41 cycles- BFN.
IVF#1 (March 2010) Transferred two 8-cell grade A (perfect) embies- BFN and heartbroken.

IVF#2/FET#1 (Jan/Feb 2011):Transferred two (7&8 cell) grade A (PERFECT) embies- BFN again.
IVF#3/FET#2 (November 2014) Transferred two perfect blasts- First BFP Ever.

BABY BOY- JULY 2015 @ 34 weeks 6 days

Our family is now complete. The End.

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September 2nd, 2010, 05:55 AM
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Awww....you have a lot going on all at once and it is absolutely overwhelming. Has hard as it is not to plan so thing might just be out of your hands. I think things will fall right into place. You are a wonderful person and deserve the best

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September 2nd, 2010, 05:56 AM
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Kari I cant believe how many adoption situations have presented themselves to you!!! I truly believe this is a sign that you are following the path meant for you!!!!

I have no advice on how to handle it because im a planner and I would be freaking out and worrying just like you.

so excited for you though!!!!!

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September 2nd, 2010, 05:56 AM
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Wow Kari, you weren't kidding... you definitely have a lot going on! Big hugs to you! All I can say is that you are going to be an amazing mommy and any of those babies would be lucky to have you. It says a lot about you that so many people are recommending you and your DH for adoption. I just know everything will work out for you - for piece of mind though, I hope you have answers soon.

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September 2nd, 2010, 06:04 AM
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Oh my goodness! We must be living the same life this week. I've got almost as much going on as you! The best part of your "dillema" is that there are so many options. Thank heavens you have all these people thinking of you and God working to get your baby in your arms real soon. Try to calm down, do some real intense praying and call your favorite friend to chat. Spa pedicures also do wonders for stress!

Remember: if God brought you to it, He'll get you through it!
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September 2nd, 2010, 06:14 AM
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I am so excited that there are so many people looking at you for adoption! I can't imagine the flow of emotions that you have! Just know that I pray for you and Brandi every night for an easy adoption and a baby that is ment to be yours!

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September 2nd, 2010, 06:55 AM
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kari you must be so stressed. I know what you mean about trying to plan for this that you don't know what will happen.I'm a super planner so I can understand the stress.
I truly believe that out of all those wonderfull babies that the one that is right for you guys will find their way to you. Good luck with getting your sale stuff together and we are all here for ya!

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September 2nd, 2010, 07:09 AM
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I am in awe! I have ditto ditto ditto Christin. It is truly amazing how many people have contacted you in someway about an adoption. If it's right, it will just fall in place.

I understand your emotions. I had the same when I was close to having Julie. The future was unknown and there are so many thoughts going through your mind...will everything be okay, is this really happening, how am I going to handle this. In essence, you could have a baby very soon and what you are feeling is totally normal (IMO).

Just think of how relaxed you can be when it is all over.
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September 2nd, 2010, 07:13 AM
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Oh man, Kari!! I had no idea you had so many other babies that were a possibility! That is so awesome! I really hope that things fall into place perfectly! I really think one of these babies will be yours! This is such an exciting time for you!
Cycle #1-9 - All Natural....5BFN's, 4BFP's (all ended in miscarriage)
Cycle #10-11 - Met with first RE, diagnosed with heterzygeous MTHFR mutation & slightly low SA on all counts. -BFN, Cycle #12 - First IUI+Trigger - BFN, Cycle #13 - BFN
Cycle #14-15 - Met with new RE, diagnosed with a blocked right tube that previous RE completely overlooked or didnt care to mention. Soy (120mg) - BFN
Cycle #16 - Clomid (100mg) - BFN, Cycle #17 - Clomid (100mg)+Trigger+IUI - BFN
Cycle #18 - Acupuncture+Clomid (100mg) - BFN
Cycle #19-27 - 2 Soy (160mg) cycles, the rest all natural also 30lbs lost!! - BFN's
Cycle #28 - New RE is GREAT! Put on bcp 7/6/11, Lap surgery 8/1/11- Tubal cyst (5cm) found and removed, Uterine Septum removed, and Stage II-III endo removed. Cycle #29 - All Natural - BFN, Cycle #30 - All Natural - BFN, Cycle#31 - All Natural - BFN, DONE TTC FOR NOW

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September 2nd, 2010, 07:20 AM
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*HUGS!* Remember, you'll never be given more than you can handle! How awesome to have so many opportunities to add to your family and it will all work out one way or another, even if it's not exactly how you planned! I can't wait to read updates on these awesome leads you have been given!

After years of trying, 2 years of fertility meds, multiple surgeries, blood draws and needle sticks, some awful pre-IVF complications, and endometriosis and PCOS,
We are done TTC. Praying for peace as we accept this...
Hoping for some comfort after our most recent (and 3rd) surgery and starting Lupron!

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September 2nd, 2010, 07:37 AM
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W O W! I don't even know how you can keep everything straight! I agree with the other ladies...God is definitely showing you that this is the right path for you. Sounds like there are SO many babies that need your love, and He is just trying to find the perfect fit for your family. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers...you are a very strong woman, and you will come through this with flying colors!

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September 2nd, 2010, 08:43 AM
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I agree with the other ladies! He has a plan for you and I just know in my heart that you will have your baby very soon! (or maybe babies)

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September 2nd, 2010, 09:49 AM
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HUGS.. you have every right to feel overwhelmed!!! You DO have so much going on. I firmly believe that all of this is going to work out for you perfectly.. and you will have a baby in your arms after all of this.

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September 2nd, 2010, 09:50 AM
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Wow Kari! That is a lot going on right now, but amazing possibilities as well! It really seems like things are looking great for you guys right now as far as adoption. Good luck and keep us updated!
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September 2nd, 2010, 09:50 AM
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Good luck, Kari! I'll pray that the right baby and perfect choice come your way! This is very exciting and all you have going on will definitely keep you preoccupied! ((HUGS)) GREAT NEWS!!!
Gwynne, celebrating the newest of our four precious miracles

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September 2nd, 2010, 10:24 AM
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i can totally understand why you are feeling overwhelmed/excited/etc. it's amazing that so many options are coming available for you! i've got everything crossed for you that at least one of these babies makes its way to your arms!
thank you bonnie (cavewoman) for my beautiful siggy!

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September 2nd, 2010, 10:36 AM
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Oh man, you have so much on your plate. I never understood how you did it all and were a host on here. I know its so hard, but the right baby for you will be the one that goes smoothly and just happens. I know it is SO hard to plan for the future when you have no definitive path. I will continue to pray for you.
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September 2nd, 2010, 11:17 AM
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I'm sorry you're feeling overwhelmed. I am so happy for you though that all of these opportunities for newborns are coming your way. I truely think one of them will work out, maybe even 2!!!

Thank you to *Kiliki* for creating the perfect siggy!

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September 2nd, 2010, 04:58 PM
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You do have alot going on!
I will keep you in my T&P & I know you will mak the right decision for you.
Big hugs!
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