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September 27th, 2010, 03:26 PM
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2 of my friends from high school have recently announced their pregnancies as well. To be frank, I'm not happy for them. Both of them are already single mothers and neither pregnancy was planned.

I know how hard we struggled to get pregnant (and stay pregnant), I know that many of you have struggled even more. So why is it that these women (who should know better by now - after all we're 37 years old) have no trouble getting pregnant?

I'm not saying that they will be bad mothers, I just don't think that it's fair. Why does life throw some of us this huge curveball, while others get easy pitches? (I don't know what's with the baseball analogy)

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September 27th, 2010, 03:34 PM
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Oh Kim, I definitely get your frustration!
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September 27th, 2010, 03:40 PM
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I'm right there with you hunnie.

I think facebook has intensified my frustration because now when I post about being sad or whatever about the babies, I will get all these, "Oh hun, I'm so sorry" posts from people IRL and then within hours, those SAME people are on there complaining about their kids..... It's like WHY is it "so easy" for some, and then so freaking HARD for us So not far
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September 27th, 2010, 03:48 PM
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I work in a public school and see parents who can't/don't take care of the 4-5 kids they have get pregnant over and over and over. It's really hard to be around that kind of thing.
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September 27th, 2010, 03:49 PM
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Oh I totally get this!

One of my relatives had a one night stand with some girl, cheating on his wife, and the girl got pregnant. Turns out that she was a morphine addict throughout her pregnancy, and now the baby has to live with all of the effects of that. They get to have a baby when so much couples are struggling for years?!?!

It makes no sense and it's total crap
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September 27th, 2010, 04:42 PM
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I wish I knew the answer ......... lord knows I've pondered this for hours & days .... I know all of us are VERY STRONG for enduring what we've gone thru & that's why I love JM (especially this board!)
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September 27th, 2010, 04:54 PM
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I know how ya feel..:/
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September 27th, 2010, 05:19 PM
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I constantly have a hard time with this. I know how you feel.
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September 27th, 2010, 08:00 PM
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I get it... totally have been there and totally get it.
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September 27th, 2010, 08:36 PM
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grrrr... All i can say is i understand, and i'm sorry
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September 27th, 2010, 10:18 PM
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Im constantly asking myself that question! It hurts! It makes me soo mad..i have a 20 year old sister who likes to party and is now 20 weeks preggo..no job..no car...just her boyfriends apt. thats it! all she cares about is herself! i love her..but i have been trying for so long..for nothing!! Not to mention i found out right after my ivf failed!! i totally understand!
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September 28th, 2010, 10:03 AM
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don't even get me started. All these women, get wasted on booze, take a load of drugs, have lots of unprotected sex with guys they don't even know the name of. I'm not saying your friends are like that, but you take my point.

Instead, i've done EVERYTHING i possibly can to have a baby with the man i love, who i'm married too, been with for years blah blah blah. And it just isn't happening, and probably never will naturally.

To quote a lady who's infertility blog made me smile in the times when i thought i couldn't smile. "Drug addict teenagers get pg while jumping on trampolines"
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September 28th, 2010, 01:08 PM
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I know what you mean and have totally been there! ANGRY, UPSET, FRUSTRATED dont even begin to describe how I felt. One of my friends has PCOS and was told she wouldnt be able to conceive a child naturally without medication. Now this friend is very immature and irresponsible. She drinks, parties all the time, has a job but cant pay her bills, etc...so her and her boyfriend decide they dont need protection and BAM she is pg. Now her son is 3 months old and she and her boyfriend are great parents and I am truly happy she didnt have to go through what I did.....but I still dont think it is fair. I had my life in order, good job, married, college education, house, etc...All I can tell myself is God has a plan and maybe that little boy is what she needed to get her life in order!

Im sorry you are feeling this way too!
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September 28th, 2010, 01:42 PM
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I understand 100% how you feel! HUGS
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September 28th, 2010, 02:44 PM
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I wish I knew the answer ......... lord knows I've pondered this for hours & days .... I know all of us are VERY STRONG for enduring what we've gone thru & that's why I love JM (especially this board!)
hang in there... i know it's tough AND very frustrating!

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September 28th, 2010, 03:21 PM
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I understand and know the feeling all too well. But at the same time, thats how 4/5 of my moms kids made it here, including myself. And she was on BC for 2/4 unplanned pregnancies.
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