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September 30th, 2010, 01:20 PM
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Can someone please explain to me how a single, 19 (almost 20) year old, can be about to give birth to her THIRD child and I cannot even get my body to carry ONE? I hate to post another one of these vents, but whatever...im mad/sad/angry and I cant help it. This persons children ALL have different fathers! I will never, ever understand why these people can have endless children and NEVER worry about miscarriage, and people like us can suffer for years and years trying to have one.

And another thing....WHY ARE PEOPLE SOOOOOO INSENSITIVE? Unfortunately, my SIL came across my old blog about TTC and read about a couple of our losses and an IUI and all kinds of other stuff. Can you believe she sent my DH a message saying how babies need you 24/7 and your life is never the same, oh and here's the kicker....she told him how much her daughters father is paying her in child support and that DH should be prepared for that?!? Are you kidding me? Not only is she hinting that we need to think about if were ready or not for kids, but she is implying my husband and I will be getting a divorce? This cant be real... Who would do that? People who havent been through loss or TRYING to have a baby (not an accidental pregnancy) will never understand the pain. Sometimes I have to get up and walk away from babies and pregnant women, thats how hard it is...


Okay...im done I promise.
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September 30th, 2010, 01:48 PM
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your SIL is crazy. I have had people say stuff like that to me. Like when I complain about having no one to take my dogs when we go on vacation. They always say that babies are even harder. NOT TRUE, I can't take my baby on vacation.

Did you dh say anything to her?
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September 30th, 2010, 01:57 PM
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All I can say is WOW.
Your sister-in-law is on my bad-list & I don't even know her.
I'm so sorry, hun. God, people piss me off with their stupid comments!
I hope your husband told her to screw off....What a bold thing to say!
I know, sometimes it gets too hard to handle. I have "hid" plenty of my friends on FB due to them being pregnant. I think we are entitled.
Big hugs!
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September 30th, 2010, 01:59 PM
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Did you dh say anything to her?
See, here's the thing...him and his sister barely speak. He is an extremely non-drama laid back kind of guy and for awhile there she had a lot of drama in her life and he backed away. And since then they barely speak even at family get togethers and such. She finally messaged him a couple days ago asking why he wont talk to her...etc. He messaged her and explained his side of the story and she messaged back, with what we both took as all kinds of blows towards us. So we both got pretty angry and he pretty much just said he's done, shes not rational, and she doesnt know what goes on in our personal life...etc. So were both just kind of done with the situation, its still really hurtful though to see all that and hope that she isnt tellling the family all this stuff now I dont want ANYONE to know were TTC...and the last people I want knowing are Jasons family just because I feel stupid. Its so frustrating.

Im probably going to come back and delete this all at some point because I remember specifically mentioning JM in that blog and im scared she's gonna come looking for me on here
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September 30th, 2010, 02:03 PM
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Unbelieveable! I'm sorry that you're having to deal with insensitive, unsupportive family members in addition to dealing with all of the stressors that come with infertility. Thinking of you!!
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September 30th, 2010, 02:05 PM
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Ugh! Vent away... after all that, you are more than entitled! I have the sudden urge to do bodily harm to your SIL. So sorry you have to deal with that! Big hugs!
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September 30th, 2010, 05:43 PM
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OMG Ashley, I don't even know what to say! I mean, I know what I want to say but JM would probably end up deleting and blocking me! I'm so sorry
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September 30th, 2010, 06:07 PM
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How insensitive! I'm glad that you guys have stepped back from her. I agree that you should take down the post just in case.
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September 30th, 2010, 07:35 PM
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I say leave it up so she can read how horribly insensitive she is being from more than one person

That is just crazy talk by the way... I think people should have to pass a tests to breed lol. drug tests, psychological testing etc... kidding ofcourse... well, kinda

Sorry about the insensitivity though I know how hard it is.
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September 30th, 2010, 07:52 PM
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WOW!! i really dont have the words to say..how much i agree..and how angry your sil made me!! Some people!!

My mil (knowing we have severe male factor) insists i get treatment..WHAT??? really???? Some inlaws!

Hang in there sweetie..i know easier said then done..its so hard..i know im right there with ya!! BIG HUGE HUGS!
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September 30th, 2010, 09:20 PM
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Wow... just W.O.W.

I have no words.

HUGS to you and your DH for having to put up with that. It's just crazy how idiotic some people can be.
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September 30th, 2010, 09:56 PM
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soo unfair..!boo hooo
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September 30th, 2010, 10:34 PM
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oooooooooo I would be LIVID with my SIL if she did something like that!!!!!!!!!! I wouldn't be able to even look at her! I'm sorry
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October 1st, 2010, 04:20 AM
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i cant believe how rude she was, im so sorry you have to go through that.
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October 1st, 2010, 07:26 AM
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wow she sounds nutty...and jealous probably that her brother has a stable relationship.

I think you should be prepared that your family is going to find out about your TTC...she doesnt sound like the type of person to keep that to herself...and she will probably direct them to your blog.
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October 1st, 2010, 07:45 AM
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Wow, your SIL really knows how to be rude and insensitive. She is so not worth any more of your time spent being angry or worrying about what she does/doesn't see. Why do people not have the tiniest bit of compassion??????
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October 1st, 2010, 08:52 AM
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wow she sounds nutty...and jealous probably that her brother has a stable relationship.

I think you should be prepared that your family is going to find out about your TTC...she doesnt sound like the type of person to keep that to herself...and she will probably direct them to your blog.
I deleted the blog as soon as I found out someone had found it. Im hoping and praying she has a stroke of kindness and decides not to tell anyone....im sure she'll at least tell his mom
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Cycle #10-11 - Met with first RE, diagnosed with heterzygeous MTHFR mutation & slightly low SA on all counts. -BFN, Cycle #12 - First IUI+Trigger - BFN, Cycle #13 - BFN
Cycle #14-15 - Met with new RE, diagnosed with a blocked right tube that previous RE completely overlooked or didnt care to mention. Soy (120mg) - BFN
Cycle #16 - Clomid (100mg) - BFN, Cycle #17 - Clomid (100mg)+Trigger+IUI - BFN
Cycle #18 - Acupuncture+Clomid (100mg) - BFN
Cycle #19-27 - 2 Soy (160mg) cycles, the rest all natural also 30lbs lost!! - BFN's
Cycle #28 - New RE is GREAT! Put on bcp 7/6/11, Lap surgery 8/1/11- Tubal cyst (5cm) found and removed, Uterine Septum removed, and Stage II-III endo removed. Cycle #29 - All Natural - BFN, Cycle #30 - All Natural - BFN, Cycle#31 - All Natural - BFN, DONE TTC FOR NOW




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October 1st, 2010, 09:52 AM
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all i think of when i hear stories like yours is that ther person saying the "sh*t" is just jealous! that's why they discourage you. jealousy!!! hugs girl, i'm sorry for the crazies!!
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October 1st, 2010, 12:39 PM
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I'm just seeing this, Ash! I'm so so sorry you are dealing with this! I'm so mad for you-- that's just not right!!!!!
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October 1st, 2010, 04:26 PM
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Wow I am really sorry - totally understand and it's frustrating to have things like that said to you - believe me my dh MIL and SIL said so many terrible thing I was physically ill! All I can say is that you are a much better person that she will ever be Hugs))))
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