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  #1  
March 11th, 2011, 11:32 AM
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oh girls i just need to vent. i just got the call that my first IVF run was not successful. i'm in tears and heartbroken and confused. i dont know how to feel, what to think. we have now exhausted our lifetime max of infertility benefits so a frozen cycle will have to be out of pocket. i don't go back to the doctor until the 28th to have a meeting with him and get a plan for a frozen cycle. i'm to call the nurse in the mean time and go back on bcp. i really really really thought it was going to be good news i am so disappointed! i did everything they told me to...by the book. i know it doesnt always work on the first time i was just seriously hoping. i have never been pregnant....never seen those 2 beautiful lines and i'm starting to wonder if i ever will. i feel like a total failure.....
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Cycles 1-12 all BFN's. Going straight to IVF per RE advice.

February 2011 IVF
2.24.2011. Retrieval 16 eggs! 15 were mature and 12 fertilized!
3.1.2011. Transferred 2 blasts!!
3.2.2011. 4 "beautiful" blasts on ice
3.11.2011. IVF #1 unsuccessful

5.20.2011. FET BFP!! 82
5.23.2011. 83
5.25.2011. 130
5.27.2011. 168 devastated
5.31.2011. 293 (saw sac on u/s)
6.3.2011. sac not growing m/c confirmed

9.2011. Planning another FET
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March 11th, 2011, 11:36 AM
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I'm so sorry...that is rotten, rotten news.
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March 11th, 2011, 11:44 AM
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I understand that feeling. I am so so sorry for your news. There is nothing that can be said to make it better, it just sucks. Infertility SUCKS!

YOU are not a failure, please do NOT believe that lie. I know it's way easier said than done, but please try to believe it. You are a strong woman! You still have 4 beautiful blasts just waiting for you! You ARE a mama in waiting! Praying that things work out for you soon!!!!
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March 11th, 2011, 12:21 PM
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I'm so very sorry, I cannot even being to imagine how you feel, to put so much time and effort into something and it not work, I'm sorry, I really hope your FET is successful.
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March 11th, 2011, 12:28 PM
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Oh, no I am so incredibly sorry. I cannot imagine the heartbreak you are feeling right now... this is one of the reasons I am so scared to move forward with IVF.

We are all here for you, and keep us updated on whats next.

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Cycle #1-9 - All Natural....5BFN's, 4BFP's (all ended in miscarriage)
Cycle #10-11 - Met with first RE, diagnosed with heterzygeous MTHFR mutation & slightly low SA on all counts. -BFN, Cycle #12 - First IUI+Trigger - BFN, Cycle #13 - BFN
Cycle #14-15 - Met with new RE, diagnosed with a blocked right tube that previous RE completely overlooked or didnt care to mention. Soy (120mg) - BFN
Cycle #16 - Clomid (100mg) - BFN, Cycle #17 - Clomid (100mg)+Trigger+IUI - BFN
Cycle #18 - Acupuncture+Clomid (100mg) - BFN
Cycle #19-27 - 2 Soy (160mg) cycles, the rest all natural also 30lbs lost!! - BFN's
Cycle #28 - New RE is GREAT! Put on bcp 7/6/11, Lap surgery 8/1/11- Tubal cyst (5cm) found and removed, Uterine Septum removed, and Stage II-III endo removed. Cycle #29 - All Natural - BFN, Cycle #30 - All Natural - BFN, Cycle#31 - All Natural - BFN, DONE TTC FOR NOW




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March 11th, 2011, 12:36 PM
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I am so sorry to hear that your cycle didn't work... I felt just like you on my first cycle... I just kept thinking it wasn't fair... IVF is a tough ride to be on... I found comfort after my first failed IVF by planning the next step and just crying it out of my system... Hang in there and KUP!
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IVF Cycle #1
01/18/11... Egg Retrieval - 22 Eggs!
01/19/11... RE called: 15 eggs mature and of those 12 eggs fertilized!
01/21/11... RE called 7 eggs are good quality, 3 eggs are questionable, and 2 eggs didn't advance and were disgarded.
01/23/11.. 5day Transfer - 2 Embryo - Quality 1DD - No embryo's made it to freeze.
IVF Cycle #2
02/16/11... Egg Retrieval - 11 Eggs
02/17/11... RE called: 9 eggs mature and all 9 eggs fertilized!!!
02/19/11... 3day Transfer - (3) 8 Cell Perfect Embryo - No Fragmentation - No embryo's made it to freeze.
02/26/11... HPT - very light BFP 02/28/11... Beta Test - 12dpo - 20
14dpo - 31 / 16dpo - 75.3 / 19dpo - 343.4 / 21dpo - 1028 / 23dpo - 2459 / 26dpo - 5933 / 29dpo - 13643
03/10 - Saw Sac and Yolk - - 03/16 - Saw Heartbeat!!!!








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March 11th, 2011, 01:02 PM
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Oh sweetie..im so very sorry..it wasnt that long ago i was there..it hurts and nothing makes it feel better! Ill be praying for you..Hang in there sweetie! I know easier said then done..but your strong! HUGS! BIG BIG HUGS!
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March 11th, 2011, 01:25 PM
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I understand that feeling. Melissa is right - don't believe that lie that you're a failure! You aren't and it will work out. I'm just so sorry you've had this disappointment.
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2/2011 - IUI + Femara + HCG trigger and Progesterone injection BFN
3/2011 - IUI + Femara + HCG trigger and Progesterone injection
4/2011 - not doing IUI - DH out of town
5/2011 - IUI with Femara and HCG trigger. In hospital due to infection from IUI.
Took a break from all meds this summer.
9/2011: - Start with new RE - testing begins.
10/2011: - Hysteroscopy - determine tubes are blocked.
10/2011 : - Laparoscopy - clip blocked tubes, determine right ovary is adhered to pelvic wall, cut adhesions
11/24/2011: IVF cycle #1 begins. Start stims.
12/2/2011: End stims. HCG trigger.
12/4/2011: Egg Retrieval. 9 eggs, only 1 embryo.
12/7/2011: Transfer.
12/20/2011: IVF #1 failed.
1/16/2012: IVF #2 first scan
"Humanly speaking, it is impossible. But with God everything is possible." Matt. 19:26
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March 11th, 2011, 01:36 PM
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it just plain is not fair! we all do things by the book , and, it is like, "Why?" I know no words are going to make you feel better right now - when i get my negative lines every month, i get depressed for a week. It is so hard.
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IUI in December 2010 - BFP - chemical
IUI on 3/13/11 - BFN
April natural cycle - BFP on 4/22 - chemical confirmed 4/28
IUI done on 5/12 - BFN

IUI #4 done 6/6 - BFN
so sick of getting BFNs

total of 4 failed IUIs
IVF in July

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March 11th, 2011, 01:56 PM
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I completely understand your situation, I just went through IVF in January, with no insurance coverage. My father in law cashed out some of his retirement so we could do it and it was unsuccessful. Not only that but out of 13 embryos, only 3 were okay(the ones we transfered) and we had none to freeze and no money to try again. I am so happy that you did have some to freeze and can try again, so don't be discouraged yet you still have an great chance!
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March 11th, 2011, 02:05 PM
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I'm so sorry. I completely understand the heartbreak and I feel so bad for you. I hope you can get some answers soon and get that BFP that you have been longing for.
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March 11th, 2011, 04:26 PM
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CRAP. Seriously. I'm so sorry. Keep you chin up and take all you emotions as they come. Keep us posted on your plans.
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Dec 2008 - April 2010 #17 Natural cycles
May 2010 - IUI + clomid 50mg BFN
June 2010 - IUI + clomid 50mg BFN
July 2010 - IUI + clomid 100mg BFN
Sept/OC 2010 - IVF #1 (1 embryo transfered; none to freeze) BFP!!!
Oct 25 2010 - First ultrasound at 6.5 weeks TWO HEARTBEATS!!! The embryo split; we're having identical twins!!!
Nov 30 2010 - Ultrasound at 11 weeks; no heartbeats & no growth past 9 weeks
Dec 2 - D&C#1
Dec 7 2010 - D&C#2
Dec 22 2010 through current - Weekly acupuncture treatment
May/June 2011 - IVF#2 with acupuncture (1 embryo transferred; 4 embies on ice!!!) BFP!!!
June 29 2011 - First ultrasound at 7.0 weeks. Everything looks great so far!

July 18, 2011 - Second ultrasound at 9.5 weeks. Baby is doing great!

Feb 10 2012 - Molly Eileen arrived at 7lbs 11oz and 19inches!!!
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March 11th, 2011, 04:59 PM
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I'm so sorry to hear that hon *hugs*
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March 11th, 2011, 09:25 PM
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I am so sorry to hear that
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March 12th, 2011, 05:40 AM
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thank you ladies for all the love and support. i know that i will try again and do an FET its just so hard to hear the results when they give you the highest % of conceiving this way and it still doesn't work. i kept telling myself all week 1 of the 2 has to stick it has to. fertility is such an emotional roller coaster and i'm ready to get off. i'll keep you posted as to whats next.....
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Cycles 1-12 all BFN's. Going straight to IVF per RE advice.

February 2011 IVF
2.24.2011. Retrieval 16 eggs! 15 were mature and 12 fertilized!
3.1.2011. Transferred 2 blasts!!
3.2.2011. 4 "beautiful" blasts on ice
3.11.2011. IVF #1 unsuccessful

5.20.2011. FET BFP!! 82
5.23.2011. 83
5.25.2011. 130
5.27.2011. 168 devastated
5.31.2011. 293 (saw sac on u/s)
6.3.2011. sac not growing m/c confirmed

9.2011. Planning another FET
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March 12th, 2011, 07:36 AM
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Hi Hopeful,

I just wanted to peep in and tell you how sorry I am that your first IVF didn't work. I was in your exact situation in November when my first IVF failed. I had two almost perfect embies put back in and I just *knew* I would be pregnant. When I wasn't, I was devasted and cried for days. And then my sadness was over and I was back on the optimistic path once more. I devoted all my energy and focus to IVF #2. Success!

Here I sit, almost 4 months pregnant, so please don't lose hope! Sometimes it just takes more than one try for ladies like us. You WILL be successful and you WILL see those two beautiful lines and most importantly, you WILL be a mommy. Please don't lose faith!

If you need to chat, please feel free to PM me. ((((HUGS))))
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IVF #1 BFN 11/2010
IVF #2 BFP! 12/2010
Wonderful, sweet daughter Khloe born August 2011
FET #1 - Oct 2012 BFN
FET #2 - Dec 2012 BFN
2nd lap surgery Dec 2012 stage 1 endo removed
IUI Apr 2013 cancelled due to producing 10 mature follicles
IUI June 2013 BFN
IVF #3 Sept 2013 BFN
IVF #4 Nov 2013 BFP! on 8dp3dt
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March 12th, 2011, 08:36 AM
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The 2nd try was what worked for me! I wish you the best of luck!
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March 12th, 2011, 08:54 AM
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March 12th, 2011, 09:42 PM
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I'm so, so sorry! I really hope the FET works for you.
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5/20/05:
5/27/05:
5/28/05: miscarriage
08/27/05:
08/30/05: miscarriage
01/15/05: misdiagnosed with PCOS
08/29/06: first appt at fertility clinic (was already pregnant with dd and didn't know it)
08/31/06:
05/16/07: DD was born

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11/13/09: let's try again!
03/10/10: tests with new OB - everything totally normal for DH and I, no indication of pcos; officially diagnosed with "Unexplained Infertility"
04/21/10 - 10/13/10: 7 unsuccessful rounds of clomid with OB
11/13/10 - 14/23/11: 3 unsuccessful IUI's with clomid at fertility clinic
07/27/11: ER for IVF - retrieved 27; 17 were mature enough to fertilize; all 17 fertilized; 11 made it to day 3 embryos; 6 made it to day 6 blasts. Transferred 1, froze 5.
08/08/11: positive hpt!
08/13/11 - 08/20/11: positive blood test (186), but cramping and bleeding. 2 days later, blood at 275; 2 days later, blood at 21. Inevitable miscarriage.
10/13/11: start suprefact for first FET
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