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December 12th, 2011, 02:08 PM
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What are your thoughts on people posting stuff about their pregnancy online? Does it bother you to see weekly belly pics, ultrasound pics, pregnancy complaints, etc.?
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December 12th, 2011, 02:16 PM
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Nope, it's their facebook and they can do what they want. If it gets too annoying I'll change my subscription to them to view only important life events or something of that nature.
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December 12th, 2011, 03:00 PM
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It's no harder than finding out any other way if its an announcement...

As far as pics and updates, I think it's fine as long as it's not ALL they talk about.. then it's really annoying and I change my subscription.
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December 12th, 2011, 04:22 PM
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Ditto. I don't mind the major updates, it's when it is daily and constantly pregnancy that it bugs me.
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December 12th, 2011, 05:47 PM
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I kind of feel the same way as you guys....it is their FB and they have a right to be excited and to "talk" about it. If I get too annoyed or depressed, that's on me, and I unsubscribe or something.

But I do have to say...I'm with Melissa....it is annoying when it's ALL they talk about!
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December 12th, 2011, 07:14 PM
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It does bother me a little... but it is their page, so I just hide them. I only hide the ones that post about it ALL the time.

I don't like when people complain a lot though. I don't want to hear about your big baby belly keeping you from sleeping, or being nauseated. Yes it sucks, but comes with the territory. I will take it any day!
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December 12th, 2011, 07:38 PM
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It does bother me a little... but it is their page, so I just hide them. I only hide the ones that post about it ALL the time.

I don't like when people complain a lot though. I don't want to hear about your big baby belly keeping you from sleeping, or being nauseated. Yes it sucks, but comes with the territory. I will take it any day!
I agree. When people complain about every little thing it's annoying. There is one girl that I had to take off my friends list because it was always "I feel fat, my face is getting so chubby". She got pregnant her first try and is almost 30 weeks and it just irritates me. I went so far as to even block her blog from my viewing.
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December 12th, 2011, 07:44 PM
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I agree. When people complain about every little thing it's annoying. There is one girl that I had to take off my friends list because it was always "I feel fat, my face is getting so chubby". She got pregnant her first try and is almost 30 weeks and it just irritates me. I went so far as to even block her blog from my viewing.
Man that is the worst! My SIL got preg. first try too and was only 20. I was so glad she didn't have a FB!

I actually have 5 or 6 people I am unsubscribed from right now. I may add them back eventually
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December 12th, 2011, 08:27 PM
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I have a TON of people hidden on my FB. ALMOST anyone who was pregnant when I was pregnant with Drew, or has since become pregnant and/or had a baby. When I got pg last time I felt amazing and went through and resubscribed to everyone, then I miscarried shortly thereafter and hid everyone again. I definitely think people should talk about it, as much or as little as they want. I hide them with no ill-will or remorse I go check on them when I can, but I can't have it coming at me all the time.
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December 12th, 2011, 11:19 PM
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I just try and ignore it when I'm in a funk or am happy for them when I'm not. I try not to complain about my pregnancies on FB just because there are a few friends on my FB that have had troubles getting pregnant or staying pregnant. With DS I did post a lot more about the pregnancy, but with DD it was mostly about ultrasounds, when we found out her sex, and when she was born. I did post ultrasound pictures when I got them, but I don't post bump pictures (I don't take them, to depressing as I just look like a fatter person.).

On the other hand I know someone who is pregnant and I just found out Saturday. She's not said a word on FB because she's not happy about being pregnant. Which kinda hurt me but I know it really hurt a friend of mine who is more of friends with her. My friend has a 4 year old and has been trying to stay pregnant since her child was 1 year and her friend knows that...
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December 13th, 2011, 06:35 AM
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I'm glad that I'm not the only one who has to hide the people who post daily (or hourly!) updates on their pregnancy. I have one particular who literally posts 3 or 4 times a day about how hard pregnancy is and how lousy she feels and how she can't wait until it is over. I just can't deal with that.
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December 13th, 2011, 07:33 AM
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It does bother me A LOT, but I do realize that it is their Facebook page and they can post whatever they want, and they are entitled to being happy about their pregnancy...so all I do is just hide them if they are upsetting me.
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December 13th, 2011, 07:38 AM
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I guess I'm not on fb enough for it to really bother me. Not drinking coffee bothers me! haha
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December 13th, 2011, 10:43 AM
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I believe every child is a blessing no matter how they were "made." I get happy when I see people who announce pregnancies mostly because it gives me hope that one day I will get to make an announcement!
I can see how people would get depressed about it though. Soooo many of my fb friends are pregnant. Sometimes it feels like I am the only one who isn't. I don't post anything about our struggles and infertility because DH wants it to be private. I do have a couple of fb friends that post about their IUIs, etc. I try to message them privately and talk to them that way.
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December 13th, 2011, 10:50 AM
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I mostly get annoyed with all the complaining. Announcements, u/s pics, etc don't really bother me. Maybe a TWINGE of jealousy.....but not enough to *upset* me. But the whining about how miserable they are.....that totally unnerves me!
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December 13th, 2011, 12:40 PM
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I'm glad that I'm not the only one who has to hide the people who post daily (or hourly!) updates on their pregnancy. I have one particular who literally posts 3 or 4 times a day about how hard pregnancy is and how lousy she feels and how she can't wait until it is over. I just can't deal with that.
Those are the ones you just want to reply with something snarky like "Well you now have the rest of your life worrying about the child."
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December 13th, 2011, 03:30 PM
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It does bother me, and I usually hide the story (not necesarily the person posting it, but the individual story). I did have to hide my DH's cousin after she gave birth to her 4th child. She is a wonderful person and mother but her hourly posts of how blessed she is to be mother of 4 and all of the newborn pictures and pictures of her other children with the baby (when I desperately want to make my son a big brother) was just too much.

Having said that, when I was pregnant with my son, I did post 20 week ultrasound pics and belly pictures (NOT my bare belly, just a monthly profile pic). We had TTC for 6 months to get pregnant the first time, so I had a taste of the fact that I wasn't able to take it for granted, but NOTHING like this time around. If I ever miraculously get to be pregnant again (and that is a BIG if), I will not be posting any belly shots, and will debate about whether or not to post u/s pictures. Now that I have experienced this pain, I really don't want to cause it for anyone else.
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