[LilHerndon]

BFN this am. I'm 12 dpo, so if there's not even a hint of a line it's a done deal. DH and I are pretty crushed, even if I was expecting it after the negative test on friday. I can't decide what our next step should be, either a break saving up for ivf (likely until May), or one more clomid/iui cycle (which has yet to be at all worthwhile). I'm SO angry - everything was perfect this time - 3 follies, good lining, perfect timing, and still a **** BFN. What's a girl gotta do to get one little line around here?!

[L-SBB]

i'm so sorry Lindsay that just stinks whatever you decide to do we're here for you...i still have hope for you until AF actually arrives, but i know it's tough to get a bfn at 12DPO when you otherwise had such a promising cycle (((HUGS)))

[kayakr]

I am sorry and know just how you feel. Dhand I have been talking all morning long if we should try another medicated iui for 2500 with a 8% chance or hold off and save some money for an ivfcycle with a 75 chance. I wish I had the answers for you. I do know that both you and dh have to agree so that no matter what the outcome it was both of your decision. Good luck to you and I am sorry you are faced with these hard decisions.

[bryan and nina]

That's a hard choice. I am so sorry this IUI didn't work for you. I hope you reach a decision that makes both of you happy soon.

[LilHerndon]

Thanks ladies, I appreciate all the support. Right now I can't even pretend it's still too early for a positive test, because honestly at 12 dpo I should have some sort of glimmer of a line if there is any real chance. I have af cramps, I'm sure she'll show on Thursday when she is due. I'm going to talk to DH about it tonight, I am just having a hard time getting out of this funk right now to even think about next cycle. My only problem with taking a break is the fact that I intermittently spot for weeks because I don't ovulate on my own, and it is super frustrating never knowing what to expect.

I am thinking I could use a break though, talk to my doctor about starting IVF in May and see how much it'll cost. We are lucky that our insurance is ridiculously good and will likely end up covering more than 90% of the IVF, but we will probably have to pay a few grand for meds and such, so we'll still need to save up. Will I even have a good chance with IVF? I've never had an in utero pregnancy so who even knows if it's possible at this point. Ugh I hate decisions.

[KMH]

[*Melissa*]

I am so so sorry about the BFN

It was really hard for me to transition to IVF too. We took a 6 month break to save up, and let me tell you, it was the BEST decision we ever made. SUCH HIGHER success rates and if your insurance is that great, I say Heck, why not???
Plus you may end up with frosties for a future cycle, which makes TTC so much simpler!!

Hope it all works out for you hun!

[LilHerndon]

Melissa - How difficult were the IVF cycles compared to that of an IUI? Did you have any side effects from the injections? My DH is for some reason against frosting our embryos, so I don't think that is an option for us, as much as I want to for a future possibility because I don't want to have to go through the retrieval and such again. Who knows, maybe I can change his mind. I'm thinking maybe I can have another consult with the doc to see what meds she uses for the IVF so I can price things out to see how much we have to save.

[EmptyWomb]

I wish I had your insurance!! WHo is your provider?

I am so sorry for the BFN... maybe it is too early, my sister did not get hers until 15DPO

[*JenJen*]

*hugs*

[LilHerndon]

My husband works for the state (Illinois) so he has a CIGNA PPO that is marvelous. It helps that Illinois is one of the few states that mandates some sort of infertility coverage on insurance, we were just extra lucky to get the sort of coverage we have.

And I'm pretty positive it'll stay a BFN - temps are going down, and cramping is pretty bad. I'll start spotting any minute now and full af will be here Thursday.

We are thinking of a 2-3 month break and going right to IVF in May if we can. Obviously clomid isn't working for us, and I honestly think I have something else wrong with me that isn't helping the issues, so we're gonna heal a bit, I'll finish this semester of school, and then hop back on the wagon in May. I think I am now just more terrified if IVF doesn't work.