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  #1  
February 22nd, 2013, 09:35 AM
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Hi ladies,

I don't typically post much on the main board, only the ttc with ivf forum. Yesterday I received the news that my first IVF failed. I was devastated and spent most of yesterday crying. I know that time will help me heal; but I was wondering if there was anyone out here who also had a failed IVF and if so, what helped you cope.

Thank you! XO
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Me (33)-LP on the short side, but no other abnormalities
DH (37)-slightly subfertile morphology and motility


Natural cycles-August 2011-July 2012
August 2012-October 2012 clomid and progesterone
November 2012-IUI
December 2012, cysts from IUI, on bcp

January 2013-February 2013, long protocol IVF
15 eggs retrieved, 11 mature, 7 fertilized with ICSI
All 7 made it to 5 day transfer, 2 were transferred
Only 1 frozen snowbaby
1st IVF


May 10, 2013, lap sx, Stage 1 endo

June 2013 - MA Round 2
Femara + hcg shot
IUI # 2


FET tentatively scheduled for 10/31/13

Have never seen a bfp.







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February 22nd, 2013, 09:40 AM
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I replied on the IVF thread, but I just wanted to say again how very sorry I am.
I wish there was some explanation as to why this happens to people who want a baby so badly...but life is so unfair sometimes...

Hope you regroup soon, and are ready to trya gain.

We're all you for you.
Hugs!
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February 22nd, 2013, 09:58 AM
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I'm so sorry girl!.

I know I don't have experience myself, but I do have a few friends that their first IVF didn't work but subsequent IVFs did....You did nothing wrong, just know that. Sometimes it takes a bit to figure out the meds and everything.

I know how badly you want this. I'm sending a HUGE ((HUG))....and praying so bad that your frosties bring you that bfp!
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February 22nd, 2013, 10:45 AM
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Im sorry it didn't work for you
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February 22nd, 2013, 10:53 AM
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im sorry, i dont have experience with IVF. Jus twanted to let you know that i am thinking about you and pray you feel better soon
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February 22nd, 2013, 10:59 AM
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I'm so so sorry. I don't have any advice, just know that we're thinking about you!
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February 22nd, 2013, 11:24 AM
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Hang in there. I am sure some JM ladies that have had failed IVF cycles will chime in to help.

In the mean time - know you did nothing wrong and lean on the fact that you have some snowbabies waiting to meet their momma! Mourn and grieve over this cycle the best you know how but there is a soul out there just waiting for the chance to call you mommy so keep your eye on the prize.
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Me (43) DH(33) 12 years together - ttc our first together-I have 14yr old DS
Cycles 1-6 = BFN
Cycle 7 SA results abnormal morphology 2%, 50 mg clomid = BFN
Cycle 8 sonogram normal 50 mg clomid + trigger = BFN
Cycle 9 SA results abnormal morphology and motility. Count 200 mill, 100mg clomid + trigger = BFN
Cycle 10 natural = BFN
Cycle 11 hsg tubes clear, natural + trigger+IUI = BFN
Cycle 12 repronex + trigger + 2 IUI = BFN
Cycle 13 natural ovaries to stimulated for more meds = BFN
Cycle 14-22 natural cycle with Acupuncture and planning ivf/icsi/DE = ALL BFN
Cycle 23 Clomid 50 mg & Progesterone = BFN
Cycle 24 Natural = BFN
Cycle 25 BCP, SA result 7% morphology = BFN
Cycle 26 BCP and Lupron preparing for IVF
Cycle 27 IVF Acupuncture, DE Retrieval April 7, Transfer April 12 =
7 eggs retrieved, 3 fertilized, 2 transferred - zero snow babies
BETA # 1 16DPO or 11dp5dt = 569
BETA # 2 19 DPO or 14dp5dt = 1078
BETA # 3 22DPO or 17dp5dt = 2414 TWINS!
BETA # 4 30DPO or 25dp5dt = 12,685 6weeks 3days 2 heartbeats! 114 & 116
Clayton and Colton Born @ 34 weeks 11/22/13
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February 22nd, 2013, 12:15 PM
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I'm so sorry it didn't work.
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February 22nd, 2013, 12:16 PM
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No advice here but wanted to say I'm sorry
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February 22nd, 2013, 12:27 PM
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So sorry your first IVF didn't work out. As hard as it is please try to stay positive. I personally would get ready for the next cycle and keep going right away. I know what works for some doesn't always work for others. Some people need to take a little time and figure out their next step. What ever you decide we will all support you.
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February 22nd, 2013, 12:58 PM
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Thank you so much ladies for the support!

I know each day will get better and better.

We meet with RE next Thursday to discuss the next steps. I know that I have to wait at least once cyle, possibly more, before FET (hopefully our one snowbaby will survive the thaw).

Thanks again for the support. I still have hope of being a momma one day!
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TTCing since August 2011
Me (33)-LP on the short side, but no other abnormalities
DH (37)-slightly subfertile morphology and motility


Natural cycles-August 2011-July 2012
August 2012-October 2012 clomid and progesterone
November 2012-IUI
December 2012, cysts from IUI, on bcp

January 2013-February 2013, long protocol IVF
15 eggs retrieved, 11 mature, 7 fertilized with ICSI
All 7 made it to 5 day transfer, 2 were transferred
Only 1 frozen snowbaby
1st IVF


May 10, 2013, lap sx, Stage 1 endo

June 2013 - MA Round 2
Femara + hcg shot
IUI # 2


FET tentatively scheduled for 10/31/13

Have never seen a bfp.






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February 22nd, 2013, 01:13 PM
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Might just get pregnant next cycle when you are suppose to be taking a month of with MA. Don't lose hope! Hope is all we have. Hope is what got so many of these JM ladies BFP. Your turn will come too.
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Gretchen
Me (43) DH(33) 12 years together - ttc our first together-I have 14yr old DS
Cycles 1-6 = BFN
Cycle 7 SA results abnormal morphology 2%, 50 mg clomid = BFN
Cycle 8 sonogram normal 50 mg clomid + trigger = BFN
Cycle 9 SA results abnormal morphology and motility. Count 200 mill, 100mg clomid + trigger = BFN
Cycle 10 natural = BFN
Cycle 11 hsg tubes clear, natural + trigger+IUI = BFN
Cycle 12 repronex + trigger + 2 IUI = BFN
Cycle 13 natural ovaries to stimulated for more meds = BFN
Cycle 14-22 natural cycle with Acupuncture and planning ivf/icsi/DE = ALL BFN
Cycle 23 Clomid 50 mg & Progesterone = BFN
Cycle 24 Natural = BFN
Cycle 25 BCP, SA result 7% morphology = BFN
Cycle 26 BCP and Lupron preparing for IVF
Cycle 27 IVF Acupuncture, DE Retrieval April 7, Transfer April 12 =
7 eggs retrieved, 3 fertilized, 2 transferred - zero snow babies
BETA # 1 16DPO or 11dp5dt = 569
BETA # 2 19 DPO or 14dp5dt = 1078
BETA # 3 22DPO or 17dp5dt = 2414 TWINS!
BETA # 4 30DPO or 25dp5dt = 12,685 6weeks 3days 2 heartbeats! 114 & 116
Clayton and Colton Born @ 34 weeks 11/22/13
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February 22nd, 2013, 01:18 PM
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I am so very sorry. *hugs*
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February 22nd, 2013, 01:19 PM
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I posted on TTC#1, but you have all my sympathy and support
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February 22nd, 2013, 02:44 PM
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Back when we were doing IVF, our first try failed, too. I was 25 with no medical problems, but we had severe male factor infertility. We had tons of eggs, lots of great looking embryos. They transferred 2 perfect embryos--I was convinced I'd have to get pregnant, right? Nope, BFN. Even though everything was "perfect." On our second try (FET), we again transferred 2, and I did get pg, but that one ended up being a chemical pregnancy.

I don't know why it works sometimes and why it doesn't. But just because the first one didn't work, don't lose hope.
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February 23rd, 2013, 04:55 AM
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Big hugs honey. Please take care of yourself.
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February 23rd, 2013, 10:05 AM
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So sorry to hear that it failed. I don't have any experience with IVF so I don't have any advice or anything, just hugs.
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February 24th, 2013, 07:05 PM
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I am sorry Hun big hugs! I will be starting IVF at the same clinic this week so maybe we will pass each other
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February 25th, 2013, 05:30 AM
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Thanks! I'll be there on Thursday! GL to you, hopefully your first IVF will get you your beautiful bfp!
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TTCing since August 2011
Me (33)-LP on the short side, but no other abnormalities
DH (37)-slightly subfertile morphology and motility


Natural cycles-August 2011-July 2012
August 2012-October 2012 clomid and progesterone
November 2012-IUI
December 2012, cysts from IUI, on bcp

January 2013-February 2013, long protocol IVF
15 eggs retrieved, 11 mature, 7 fertilized with ICSI
All 7 made it to 5 day transfer, 2 were transferred
Only 1 frozen snowbaby
1st IVF


May 10, 2013, lap sx, Stage 1 endo

June 2013 - MA Round 2
Femara + hcg shot
IUI # 2


FET tentatively scheduled for 10/31/13

Have never seen a bfp.






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February 25th, 2013, 07:15 AM
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Nicholle,
I have had multiple failed IVFs. The first IVF I had changed into an IUI because I didn't respond well to the meds. I was able to suck that one up because we had a plan to change the meds, which the RE thought would make me more successful. The second IVF I harvested only 5 eggs & none fertilized. I was devastated, but pulled myself up by the bootstraps knowing that we would change my meds again and add a priming cycle. I prayed that this protocol was our answer and would lead us to get pregnant. So on the third IVF, we transferred two 5 cell embryos (I harvested 17 eggs...Wahoo). I was so hopeful that we were pregnant with twins. This BFN made me very sad. It was so hard to actually get to transfer and want it sooo badly. My RE said because I responded so well to that cycle that she recommended we try one more time. Her hope gave me and DH hope. I believed that it would work out...it just had to! My next IVF was in Dec. I didn't respond as well. We transferred one embryo and it was a BFN. I felt like a failure. My RE then gave me the report that my eggs were not of the quality to make a pregnancy and that caused me to hit a wall. I was frozen that my future would not include a family for DH & me.

I now see a psychologist to help me through my feelings, thoughts, struggles with my infertility. She has helped me recover leaps and bounds from where I was in Dec. I was unable to do anything but go to work and come home and get in bed and cry for a couple of weeks. I was in a downward spiral and knew I had to do something for myself to get back to me and be healthy in mind and body.

I hope you don't get to the point I was at! My advice is to keep looking forward, never lose hope that your baby is coming & be honest and open with DH about your thoughts and feeling throughout the process! GOOD LUCK! We're all here for you!
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