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This is taken from the book Spirit Babies/ How to Communicate with the Child You're Meant to Have by Walter Makichen.
A key factor that contributes to difficulties in conceiving a child and to miscarriage is a problem with something I call the 'conception contract." The conception contract is an energy bond that appears at the moment of conception. It represents an agreement between a mother, father and the spirit of a child-to-be. Each participant commits to playing a particular role in the fulfillment of the other's destiny. Disagreement, misunderstanding, or desire to change these roles can affect the ability to conceive and carry a child to term. This is why I believe that resolving issues around the conception contract is an important consideration in any apprroach to these problems.
Most of the desires to change or clarify the conception contract comes from the spirit baby. Even in the spirit stage of their existence, the unconceived have the desire to communicate and be reassured. The prospect of a new life and identity can be quite frightening. If they do not feel listened to or receive the reassurance they seek, they will often withhold themselves from the conception contract.
It is easy for spirit babies to feel lost in the confusion and frustration that occurs when a couple has difficulty conceiving. The doctors, the tests, timing intercourse for maximum fertility, and worrying if 'something' is really wrong can leave even the most loving couple tense, distracted, and frustrated. With all the attention on the physical 'mechanics' of conception, it is easy for the spirit babies to feel neglect and need extra reassurance. Sometimes a little reassurance is all that is needed.
Lie down in a quiet place. Talk to your spirit baby. Telling him/her (the author suggests that some spirti babies need to be born a certain sex, so visualizing or hoping for a specific sex prevents conception at times). Reassure the spirit baby (or the soul) that you are ready for him/her. You will protect them, guide them and most of all love them. ect...
We often hear of people who try and try conceiving. After years of trying everything under the sun, they just give up. And next thing you know they are expecting.
I have heard so many of these stories...
My own personal:
In 2003, hubby wanted to have another child. I had recently lost 100lbs and was enjoying my slimmer self. I asked him if we could wait a bit before trying. I remember specifically saying that I wasn't ready. Little did I know, I was pregnant...I lost the baby through an ectopic rupture not long after ( I was 12 weeks pregnant at the time of the rupture).
Of course I had immense guilt afterwards. The pain that I carried around really took a tole on me. It isn't until I made peace with this situation, and told my unborn child that whenever he/she would be ready to return, I would be ready with open arms. I never again would turn down or refuse to have a child!