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  #1  
September 27th, 2007, 10:39 PM
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Who do you discuss TTC and TTCWMA with?

DH knows, but I don't normally have full on conversations with him about it--we've had some interesting conversations and I've had to come up with some wacky analogies for him to understand.

I told my mom--I tell her pretty much everything, but I feel like talking to her about TTC is advertising to her that we are BDing (we've been married almost 5 years, but still seems weird to discuss with her). So, after the inital conversation, I have just told her, more or less, "It didn't work this month." She will not come out and ask me about it, so after telling her I tend to ask her if she has any thoughts or questions and that is the end of it until the next month.

I told one of my sis-in-law's--I had not had a real conversation with her in a very long time (she's got a big mouth and she tends to irritate me). It felt good telling her because it was like letting out a big secret. Also, her sister was on clomid for both of her pregnancies. That was about 6 weeks ago and I haven't seen or heard from her since (which isn't a bad thing!).

People frequently ask, we used to say that we were waiting until I was done with school, but now I've been done for about 6 months, so now we just say, "Someday," or I'll tell them to ask DH.

I've been e-mailing a friend--one of those lifelong friends, that is still your friend even though you don't see eachother very often (last time it has been 10 years since we had seen eachother), but I remember her as far back as preschool (we interacted as babies too). TTC was mentioned and she asked if we had been trying and I told her that we had and I was on medicine now and would be seeing a specialist soon--I hesitated before I sent that message.

So aside from DH, mom, sis-in-law and friend, the only other person who knows is my doctor, and I'm sure the pharmacist has figured it out too--LOL.

I sort of want to discuss it with others (I have a sis-in-law that lives far away and I really like her), but don't really know how to bring it up as I don't just want to call her up and say, "Guess what?!? I can't seem to get pregnant!" But then, I really don't want to tell too many people because I don't want them to keep asking me if I'm pg yet.

I am normally an open book...I'll pretty much tell anyone anything that they want to know, so after 8 months of dodging people's questions about this, it is really, really bothering me!
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Clomid #1: 50mg--no labs drawn
Clomid #2: 50 mg, Progesterone Level: 0.6
Clomid #3: 100mg--no labs drawn
Clomid #4: 100mg, Progesterone Level: 6.6
Clomid #5: 150mg, Progesterone Level: 10.8
Break from Clomid due to finding out DH S/A showed poor morphology (0-4%).
Repeat S/A on 2/7 and Urologist appointment on 2/21: Results showed abnormally high sperm count, so when that is taken into consideration, the morphology is normal.
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September 28th, 2007, 04:40 AM
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hi there. for us we didn't tell anyone for a long time. now that its been 2 years i finally told my mom, though some days i regret doing that because she is always calling me up with ideas. she's excited about the idea of grandkids but i'm just not sure how far i want to go with this whole thing. i also told one friend who lives far away and another friend who told me she was having problems TTC so i thought i'd share with her. the same month i told her though, she found out she was pg and she is due in January. ugh!
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September 28th, 2007, 04:41 AM
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My doctors and my husband apart from here of course. That is it. Keeps it simple and I am not the recipicient of unsolicited advice. Keeps me sane.
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September 28th, 2007, 06:02 AM
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With our 2 losses, everyone knows. I have needed their support. When we first started trying DH didn't want to tell anyone, but I got pregnant right away and we were so excited that we called everyone we knew. When that pregnancy ended DH told everyone we were going to try again right away, well that didn't work as quickly as we like. With our second pregnancy we didn't tell so many people that we were pregnant, but those who didn't know about that pregnancy just think we have been trying for 2 years now. There were a lot of questions about all my doctor appointments at work so I had to let them in as well, I just couldn't lie about it. Sometimes I that no one knew, but we cant' change that now.
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September 28th, 2007, 07:05 AM
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Apart from my DH,doctor and you lovely ladies no one.

I'm already stressed if not depressed and don't want people asking me if it worked this month or not.
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September 28th, 2007, 12:40 PM
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pretty much everyone knows. With having 2 ruptured tubal pregnancies, and then all the fuss of is that a tube or isn't it, and now we know for sure that it isn't, it's obvious that IVF is now our only option, so that's no secret!
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September 28th, 2007, 12:46 PM
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Dh, dr's and the ladies on here. I started talking to my best friend about TTC'ing but I feel like I am boring her so I stopped.
I have also told my mom we are ttc'ing but I don't tell her anything else.
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September 28th, 2007, 02:28 PM
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Well, DH is very involved. He's always been such a large support for me so he knows everything. If he doesn't understand something the doctor usually explains it if I can't help him understand. He also looks everything up on the internet and studies what he doesn't completely understand.

You ladies know even more details than my DH. He knows everything, but I don't always use the same descriptive words to describe what I'm going through.

My mother knows too. I don't always like that she knows everything, but I feel I want to tell at least one family member and she's been through some difficulties with getting pregnant too when she was trying to start her family. Though I do keep most of my issues between me and my hubby, because she has shown to be a little upset that IVF was not an option when she really needed it. It would have been her only way to have a second child and it most likely would have worked.

Because of the past assumed successes, other members of my family and everyone at my school knows that I've been trying. They just don't know at what stage I'm at and what's going on at this moment. My brother has some clue about it, but he's not as involved as my mother is.

My neighbors only know that I have been trying. I told them at my first pregnancy because we were so happy, we told everyone. They all found out I miscarried. They were all very sweet about it, but I didn't share beyond that. Well, my mother told me next door neighbor about my situation. Not a biggie. He and his family are very nice and not part of the town gossipers.

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September 28th, 2007, 03:13 PM
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Everyone...absolutely everyone. I have a pretty big mouth but more importantly, I'm not ashamed of the challenges we have faced. Some people are so ignorant to the subject of fertility & its issues that I end up being the one that opens their eyes to just how delicate it is. No shame over here!
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September 28th, 2007, 04:05 PM
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took us a while to open up about it. our family knew when we went thru our 1st ivf cycle. but now close friends also know. im pretty open to talking about it. the werid thing is i don't know know anybody who is going thru it in our everyday lives..... only you guys online haha.
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September 29th, 2007, 10:09 AM
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Everyone knew first time around except DH's family. I needed the support but this time around only my two supervisors, a friend at work and my sister knows. It is easier that way for me so noone asks me about it. When I am asked by people if we are having another I say, at some point we will.

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September 29th, 2007, 12:54 PM
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September 29th, 2007, 11:24 PM
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OK...I feel better now knowing that others keep it to just a few people too.

I really don't have much for close friends that are my age--my closest work friend threatens to stop talking to me if I get pregnant--I just laugh when she says that (she's 4 years younger than me and at this point has no intentions of ever having children) and friends I have made through my husband (the wives) are all older than me and have kids.
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Clomid #1: 50mg--no labs drawn
Clomid #2: 50 mg, Progesterone Level: 0.6
Clomid #3: 100mg--no labs drawn
Clomid #4: 100mg, Progesterone Level: 6.6
Clomid #5: 150mg, Progesterone Level: 10.8
Break from Clomid due to finding out DH S/A showed poor morphology (0-4%).
Repeat S/A on 2/7 and Urologist appointment on 2/21: Results showed abnormally high sperm count, so when that is taken into consideration, the morphology is normal.
First RE appointment: 3/17

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