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are completely different in every way??? My two girls are EXACT opposites of each other. Wondering how to keep them from being rivals any more than they already are.
My oldest - 15 - is a homebody. Not interested in getting involved at school, struggles with her grades constantly, isn't very goal oriented, not very social at all. She is nothing like me, and we have a hard time "bonding". Currently, she will be getting danger of failing notices in two major classes and working below potential in two others. School has always been a struggle for her. She dresses in clothes that are anything but "preppy" (her words) wearing mostly jeans, converse, and t-shirts everyday.
My youngest daughter - 9 - excels in everything she does. All A's in school, is a phenomenal swimmer, is involved in everything, and everywhere we go - someone knows her. She is getting Commendations in all of her classes. My oldest calls her a "goody goody" and I always tell her that there is nothing wrong with that. She loves clothes, and likes to wear things that she puts together. Lately, her favorites have been skirts, leggings, boots, and a knit hat. LOL She is very outgoing.
I think this is seriously causing a bigger rift between the girls. They are already six years apart so they aren't close in age. But being so different from each other is causing a rivalry that my youngest doesn't pick up on yet, but the 15 yo makes comments all the time about. I don't know if she is secretly jealous a little of her sister, or just annoyed by her.
The other thing is my 15 yo makes comments about us liking the 9 yo better. Obviously, that's not true. I always joke and tell her I liked her better at 9 too, and probably will butt heads with the 9 yo when she's 15 too. Fifteen is not a fun age. It doesn't help that my 9 yo is very much like me, and my 15 yo is like my husband.
I wish they were closer, but I don't think that's going to happen. Any suggestions? Do you have any children that are completely different from each other? Do you think they are rivals?
How about your siblings? Were there any of you opposites of your siblings and did it turn out okay when you were older? Am I worrying for nothing?? LOL
My girl's are very close, but my sister and I hated eachother when we were young, and are the total oppasite of eachother in looks and personality, she is 2 and a half years older then me, but we get along great now.