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February 10th, 2010, 10:24 PM
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Okay so I am contemplating ttc my second. I have a 16 months old. She is VERY needy and has been her whole little life and such a handful..but of course my everything and my pride and joy. She still wont sleep through the night. We are thinking of maybe ttc here come April so my dd would be two and change by time the new baby came along. Sorry rambling...my question is with your experience how did your first child take the news of a new baby..how old were they and did things get better or worse as far as being overly needy?
DH is already ready for the next one but I am a bit apprehensive. I do have baby fever but I also feel like dd will feel neglected or unloved when a new baby comes.
So any BTDT advice is welcome and appreciated! THANKS!
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February 11th, 2010, 05:49 AM
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She may take some time to adjust but it doesn't mean she will feel unloved. Each kid has reacted differently to going from baby to an older sibling, but within a couple of weeks we get our groove back.

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February 11th, 2010, 06:03 AM
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I don't know how you're handling her demands but if you are giving in to all of them, it's time to stop. She's not going to be forgotten or neglected with another baby in the house. You make time for each and every one of them one way or another.
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February 11th, 2010, 07:01 AM
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"The greatest gift you can give your child is another sibling."
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February 11th, 2010, 07:18 AM
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First timers are so cute.
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February 11th, 2010, 07:21 AM
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My oldest was 22 months when I had my second. She adjusted fine going from the only child to a big sister. I made sure to include her in our daily activities-she would help by getting a diaper or the wipes, and when I nursed the baby, she and I would snuggle with a book and she'd flip the pages as I read, etc. My 3rd then didn't come along for several years-the big girls were 6 and 8. Then she was then 22 months old when I had our 4th, and we did the same things, and she adjusted fine by using the same methods again. Our son will be 2 1/2 when #5 comes along, and I anticipate him being my "helper" and having cuddle times while nursing the little one (he still nurses, too, so I'm sure I'll have some tandem sessions like I did with my #3 and #4). He loves babies, so I think he'll do great.

I know it sometimes feels like you don't know how you'll ever love another one the way you love your first... but as soon as you have that baby in your arms, all that will change. You don't have to divide your heart-it gets bigger and adds a whole new plot for each little blessing.
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February 11th, 2010, 11:25 AM
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my mommy guilt kicked in big time when we were TTC#2-he was 29 months when we brought home premature twins-and he did well.
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February 12th, 2010, 04:38 AM
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First timers are so cute.

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February 13th, 2010, 05:58 PM
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Hmm okay well some of those comments were helpful....

Momtothe5thPower; I loved that quote.."The greatest gift you can give your child is another sibling."
So true! Thanks!

Thanks ladies!
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February 13th, 2010, 06:16 PM
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Courtney was nearly 3 when she became a big sister, she didn't even seem to get what was going on, but she became a big sister very well.
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February 14th, 2010, 12:01 PM
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Hmm okay well some of those comments were helpful....

Momtothe5thPower; I loved that quote.."The greatest gift you can give your child is another sibling."
So true! Thanks!

Thanks ladies!
Your welcome!
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