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April 18th, 2010, 06:11 PM
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i'm SO incredibly tired of my family treating me like i can't do anything because i have 5 kids. "lets not invite kelsie, she'd have to get a sitter," or, "no, i'll have someone else babysit, you already have 5 kids." because 1 more is really going to matter at this point. i can't tell you how many things i've missed out on....that i could have gone to...because people think i can't do it. i think it's pretty apparent at this point, that i can handle anything. thank you very much.
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April 18th, 2010, 06:17 PM
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I am sorry. I know how it feels to be left out of the family. Make good friends, ignore your family.

But to be fair, at this point, I don't really want to load everyone up to go do something that I really don't want to do. I don't want to keep my sil's ill behaved brood. I don't want my kids subjected to the relationship poison that is my dad. So their "they have too many" is a good reason for me to opt out now.
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April 18th, 2010, 08:06 PM
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Awwww, that's not fair! Luckily we haven't encountered this and hopefully we never do!
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April 18th, 2010, 08:42 PM
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I'm sorry they're treating you that way!
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April 18th, 2010, 09:55 PM
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I've gotten that. And it seems like if I complain about something that has absolutely nothing to do w/ my children, I still get a "well you've really got your hands full as it is" comment w/ looks of pity. For example, I had a rough week trying to get back in to school after spring break, mostly because I wanted to be lazy and not do homework. I mentioned it to a friend and she blames the kids!
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April 19th, 2010, 05:40 AM
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I agree with FW. I personally don't want to hang out with my family, so I like to "opt out" because I have "so many kids". Screw 'em, my kids rock. I like hanging out with me and them. We are the coolest people I know.
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April 19th, 2010, 06:39 AM
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I WISH I had that problem!! Instead of counting me out of things, people are constantly telling me it should be no trouble for me to drive the 3 kids and my pregnant butt alone 3 hours across the state to go to a party/get together or whatever and they also seem to think that because I'm a SAHM I have all the time in the world to do everything under the sun for them when I have 3 kids under 4 at home with another on the way.
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April 19th, 2010, 06:39 AM
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I'm there with ya...my SIL was having her third and everyone thought I was incapable of watching her two older ones with my kids also all here....I did it...they all survived and we all had a decent time....LOL...there have been other times, though, that they've used the "well you've already got four of your own..."....wth?! hugs
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We aren't to give a baby milk, berries, or peanut butter. We are to introduce new foods one at a time. But it's OK to inject several viruses, bacteria, aluminum, formaldehyde, phenoxyethanol, animal serum, mercury, squalene and more into an 8 week old? I don't think so.
In order to be healthy it is an unfortunate fact that people must be allowed the opportunity to be ill. I trust my body and those of my children to work correctly against the relatively benign diseases they vax for, and do not trust the ingredients in the vaccinations.
Our choice to not vax isn't based in ignorance, poverty, conspiracy theory and rumor. It's research, common sense, fact and evidence based..something the medical community has largely forgot about.
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April 19th, 2010, 08:32 AM
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oh no, that totally stinks the least they could do is ask, and leave it up to you weather you can make it or not instead of deciding for you.
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April 19th, 2010, 10:23 AM
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I agree with FW. I personally don't want to hang out with my family, so I like to "opt out" because I have "so many kids". Screw 'em, my kids rock. I like hanging out with me and them. We are the coolest people I know.
Love it.

Kelsie - that stinks. Sorry I have no advice
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