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April 18th, 2010, 09:13 PM
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In your community and/or circle of friends, are large families the norm or is your family the exception?

Where I live there are MANY families with larger families. I've lived here my whole life, it's an oil city with quite a bit of $$ and it's always sort of been the norm to have larger families. In my circle of friends there are 4 of us right now pregnant with #4. It's definitely not abnormal to have larger families here and having 3 kids is FAR more common than just having 2.
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April 18th, 2010, 10:45 PM
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Out of my circle of friends, I'm the exception. Most of them haven't and probably won't even consider a third. However, three is still considered the limit for most that I know.

I am starting to meet other family's w/ four or more outside of my circle.
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April 18th, 2010, 11:06 PM
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Well we're not a large family yet but we're definitely the odd ones out. Whenever people ask us how many kids we want I usually just smile and say "lots" and if they push the issue I'll tell them we'd love at least 7-10 and they are usually floored. Now that we are expecting our third I've already started getting comments from people about how nice it will be to be "done" and that they hope we have a little girl so we'll have our 2 boys and a girl. Most of our friends have 2 or 3 kids at the most and they are spaced 2-3 years apart each. I have some larger family friends but none that live very close to me
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April 19th, 2010, 06:29 AM
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I do not know one other family with as many children as myself. Almost everyone I know has 2, maybe 3, kids. I know a couple of families with four children, but that kinda seems "medium sized" in comparison. LOL.
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April 19th, 2010, 06:43 AM
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Here in Connecticut anything over two seems to be big.

But we live in military housing in a row of four bedroom houses, so all our neighbors have 3+ kids to qualify for the housing. So right here on our street we are normal, lol.
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April 19th, 2010, 09:20 AM
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We are a little of both. Most of my friends have 3,4,5. one has 6. I have friends who have 9,10, 11, 13, but we don't really hang out, I just know them, email them, know they are there.
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April 19th, 2010, 09:27 AM
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If I am thinking church circle particularly, I would say that 4 kids is somewhat of a norm.
As far as our community, 5 is a bit unusual, I only know of 2 other families that have as many kids (and in both those cases, the 5th was a surprise), I'm the only one I know that had their 5th on purpose lol.
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April 19th, 2010, 09:38 AM
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Here in Connecticut anything over two seems to be big..
That is exactly what I was going to say. Anything over 2 and you get remarks from strangers. 4 is a mind blower for people and if (when? ) I go for 5 I can expect to hear it from everyone. Which is why I'll only tell you guys when we start TTC (Dec? )
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April 19th, 2010, 10:36 AM
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We're definately not the norm around here. Most around here have at most 2 kids. And I haven't met one family who's kids are as close in age as ours are. Everyone around here thought we were crazy when I was pregnant with Aly for having a 3rd and having her so close in age to the boys and now they think we've completely lost our minds when they find out I'm pregnant with #4.
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April 19th, 2010, 12:02 PM
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That is exactly what I was going to say. Anything over 2 and you get remarks from strangers. 4 is a mind blower for people and if (when? ) I go for 5 I can expect to hear it from everyone. Which is why I'll only tell you guys when we start TTC (Dec? )
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April 19th, 2010, 12:39 PM
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Very normal in my group of friends. Everything is bigger in Texas
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April 19th, 2010, 01:50 PM
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I really need to move to Texas.
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April 19th, 2010, 02:10 PM
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3 is pushing it, once you go over 3 people around here think you are just plain nuts and feel the need to express this to you regularly
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April 19th, 2010, 02:58 PM
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Hmmm...I'm staying away from Florida and heading to Texas
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April 19th, 2010, 03:14 PM
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I am starting to meet people that have at least four or more. But it's definitely not the norm here.
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April 19th, 2010, 06:17 PM
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Hmmm...I'm staying away from Florida and heading to Texas
N FL isn't so bad. It is the REAL Florida, after all. That Doodle lives in Central Fl. It is soul less and in the shadow of the rat.
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April 19th, 2010, 08:33 PM
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N FL isn't so bad. It is the REAL Florida, after all. That Doodle lives in Central Fl. It is soul less and in the shadow of the rat.
The further south you go, the worse it gets. My parents in in S FL. People act like we've committed a crime when we are down there visiting
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April 19th, 2010, 09:55 PM
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In our circle I would say we are more the odd ones. Most everyone we know has 3 at the most..
Although SIL is a large blended family like mine, they have 5 now and go back and forth about TTC #6

I don't personally know anyone that has more than 5 kids.... Other than you ladies here..LOL
Nope wait, my uncle has 8 that I know of, let's just say he was a man-wh*re for awhile. They range in age from 35+ to 15...
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April 20th, 2010, 09:34 AM
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In our circle of friends, large families are the norm.

In our community it's a different story. I've been asked many times what number baby this is... when I say 7 I always get a shocked look! This really weirds me out because this is from mostly older people who then say something like "well, my parents had 10 and I raised 6". I guess even though large families used to be normal up here, it no longer is.. so it surprises them.

We're the oddballs in our family, too. DH has a cousin who has four kids, but everybody else in our generation has one or two.
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April 20th, 2010, 09:53 PM
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N FL isn't so bad. It is the REAL Florida, after all. That Doodle lives in Central Fl. It is soul less and in the shadow of the rat.
We lived in South Florida a few years ago. I hated it, and came back to MN. Not a place for kids. I thought Northern FL was nice and wished there were job options for us there, but no such luck at the time.

I think we're the odd ones out, but people don't normally say anything about it. A lot of my friends don't have kids at all.
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