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April 20th, 2010, 06:16 AM
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What do you consider cheating?
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April 20th, 2010, 06:24 AM
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Of course any type of sex (oral or intercourse), heavy petting and kissing, but also sharing an emotional connection with another if you are sharing your deepest thoughts and feelings with that person and not with your partner. Does that make sense?
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April 20th, 2010, 06:34 AM
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We just had a form of this on the debate board

Everything UM said, but I will also include the debate board topic & say that sharing pictures (naked, inappropriate etc) makes that list too.

Basically - if you are in a committed relationship, married or not - your physical, mental, emotional support should be from your partner only (not to be confused with relationships with immediate family.. hopefully you all get what I mean).
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April 20th, 2010, 07:05 AM
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all of teh above plus porn or thinking about another woman in a sexual way....My thoughts are ONLY for my husband and my husbands should be ONLY for me....otherwise it's cheating...
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We aren't to give a baby milk, berries, or peanut butter. We are to introduce new foods one at a time. But it's OK to inject several viruses, bacteria, aluminum, formaldehyde, phenoxyethanol, animal serum, mercury, squalene and more into an 8 week old? I don't think so.
In order to be healthy it is an unfortunate fact that people must be allowed the opportunity to be ill. I trust my body and those of my children to work correctly against the relatively benign diseases they vax for, and do not trust the ingredients in the vaccinations.
Our choice to not vax isn't based in ignorance, poverty, conspiracy theory and rumor. It's research, common sense, fact and evidence based..something the medical community has largely forgot about.
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April 20th, 2010, 07:23 AM
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Agree with the PP.
Except with the porn and thinking of another in a sexual way, I don't like it if SO looks at porn but if it's only an occasional thing I don't mind too much...
The exception to this would be if, for example, SO was checking out porn and maturbating to it instead of coming to me in bed... The thinking of others thing... a fleeting thought of another hot guy naked isn't something you can always control, now if you were to act on it or let that consume your mind, then yes that I would consider cheating...

But yes, anything physical or emotional, cyber-sex or sexting is cheating to me....
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April 20th, 2010, 07:26 AM
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Agree with all of the above and I'll add inappropriate flirting. But my husband and I don't see eye to eye on this topic at all. I was furious at him a couple years ago because there was a woman he worked with (he doesn't work there anymore) who he would flirt with constantly and he'd always come home and tell me what he'd said to her but when I said I don't appreciate him flirting with other women he said he wasn't flirting, but one time he told me that she said "Wow you got here quick" (he's maintenance and was fixing her machine) and he said "Well if all the operators looked like you all the maintenance guys would be here quick" To me that is definately flirting and DEFINATELY NOT OK!! And now there's a woman he works with now who he eats lunch with and who's life story he can (and has) repeat to me word for word but yet can't remember what I say to him 2 seconds before and I don't care for that either. I don't know if I consider this stuff cheating.. and I don't think my husband would actually cheat like having sex or anything with another woman, but what he's doing still IS NOT OK in my book. I try to talk to him about it and he just rolls his eyes and tells me I'm just jealous. Hmmm... Maybe I shouldn't have answered this question because it's a very sore subject for me LOL
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April 20th, 2010, 07:56 AM
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I agree w/ the pp's. If you mess w/ another woman in any way that is even remotely inappropriate then your out the door.
I also hate porn and while I don't think that it's the kind of cheating that warrants a divorce, I do think it deserves a serious kick in the a.$.$.
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April 20th, 2010, 09:17 AM
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Andrea you should have him read this thread!!! I think Flirting can definitely be construed as cheating. Especially if unchecked...it can cause the other person to be led on...even if your husband doesn't plan or want to do anything more than just playfully jest like that....if the other person doesn't understand that "playing" then it can be taken wrong. NOW....if SHE can go home and tell HIS life story...and it includes how wonderful YOU are and how wonderful his KIDS are....then that might make it look different...but hearing one side of the story I'd be mad like you...
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We aren't to give a baby milk, berries, or peanut butter. We are to introduce new foods one at a time. But it's OK to inject several viruses, bacteria, aluminum, formaldehyde, phenoxyethanol, animal serum, mercury, squalene and more into an 8 week old? I don't think so.
In order to be healthy it is an unfortunate fact that people must be allowed the opportunity to be ill. I trust my body and those of my children to work correctly against the relatively benign diseases they vax for, and do not trust the ingredients in the vaccinations.
Our choice to not vax isn't based in ignorance, poverty, conspiracy theory and rumor. It's research, common sense, fact and evidence based..something the medical community has largely forgot about.
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April 20th, 2010, 09:43 AM
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Martha... I think why that part bothers me so much is because she's single (divorced) and he knows when she got divorced, why she got divorced, how many kids she had with that guy and how many she had with another guy, the kids' names, that she took in her sister's kids for a year and even details down to what day she went and picked up her sister's kids, that she had to miss 3 days of work to do it to get them registered in school, and what day she had to give them back. And that's exactly what I told him... even if he doesn't mean anything by it SHE doesn't know that. I have no idea what/if he's told her anything about us... and I can admit that I do have a little bit of jealousy in me but I think that's because he's so clueless to how women really are
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April 20th, 2010, 09:58 AM
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LOL...sounds like he really is....seriously...read this thread to him! LOL...HUGS
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We aren't to give a baby milk, berries, or peanut butter. We are to introduce new foods one at a time. But it's OK to inject several viruses, bacteria, aluminum, formaldehyde, phenoxyethanol, animal serum, mercury, squalene and more into an 8 week old? I don't think so.
In order to be healthy it is an unfortunate fact that people must be allowed the opportunity to be ill. I trust my body and those of my children to work correctly against the relatively benign diseases they vax for, and do not trust the ingredients in the vaccinations.
Our choice to not vax isn't based in ignorance, poverty, conspiracy theory and rumor. It's research, common sense, fact and evidence based..something the medical community has largely forgot about.
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April 20th, 2010, 11:51 AM
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I would say that even though it's technically not cheating, but I think anything you would say/do/show to someone of the opposite gender that you wouldn't do in front of your mate is inappropriate.

I don't think thinking of another person is cheating, but there's a difference between a fleeting thought and it consuming your mind.
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April 20th, 2010, 04:03 PM
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I would say that even though it's technically not cheating, but I think anything you would say/do/show to someone of the opposite gender that you wouldn't do in front of your mate is inappropriate.

I don't think thinking of another person is cheating, but there's a difference between a fleeting thought and it consuming your mind.
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