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April 28th, 2010, 01:44 PM
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If your husband cheated on you? (was a topic in another forum)

Personally my DH would be a single dad of 6 because I would be in prison on murder (or attempted murder) charges. (Of his "fling" not him) I think men should be just as responsible in a large family and if he would ever think that he could just get of and pay me some money and have a free life he is sadly mistaken. I think 6 kids (or however many we would have lol) would cramp his style a bit.
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April 28th, 2010, 01:48 PM
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he'd get the kids half time, and we'd have to live in the same city; not very marketable then, is he?
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April 28th, 2010, 02:12 PM
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Jon seems to be pretty marketable (Jon and Kate +8). *rolleyes*

We just talked about this, kinda, in a hot topic. I wouldn't cheat so I expect not to be cheated on. If it did happen, personally, I'd just walk away. No explanations or questions, I wouldn't waste my time on a loser.
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April 28th, 2010, 03:11 PM
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he'd get the kids half time, and we'd have to live in the same city; not very marketable then, is he?
Yup, same here.

DH and I have been together since I was 16 and he was 17 and have discussed this many times over the year. He's always known there's NO way I'd tolerate cheating at all. He'd be kicked out asap and could have the kids on his days off.
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April 28th, 2010, 04:22 PM
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I would leave him. Simple as that..
Now if I were to actually catch him in the act, that would be a longer story. He wouldn't be able to do much with both legs in casts, I would break his knees...
If the other woman knew about me and our relationship, same thing.
If she didn't then she's not to blame...
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April 28th, 2010, 05:44 PM
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April 28th, 2010, 06:23 PM
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loving this thread, lol!
dh and I also talked alot about our intolerance of infidelity before our engagement, wedding and current day-if we're committed to each other and our kids, why should we stray?

Oh right, Jon's 8 and my 4, woo hoo, I'd finally catch up to the rest of you!
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April 28th, 2010, 06:49 PM
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Shawna's post has me cracking up!

I would leave him and make him pay child support, lots and lots of child support!! Yeah, he might not be as tied down but he'll be broke as hell!!!
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April 28th, 2010, 08:15 PM
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April 28th, 2010, 08:22 PM
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I can only speak for myself, but if my dh cheated on me, it would have a lot to do with how I had been treating him. And I am not making excuses for it, it doesn't make it right, but just being honest. This is kind of tricky to say online, when none of you know me or dh irl, because it makes me sound like I would accept it blindly, and I wouldn't, but I wouldn't just run away either, I would need to know his motivations. But dh would never do that to me, and also, would never set this kind of example as a father to five girls.

On a sidenote, is there a double standard between men that cheat on their wives and woman that cheat on their husbands?
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April 29th, 2010, 03:52 AM
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I've already been through this and after 5 years I'm STILL waiting for him to sign the final divorce papers even though he filed AND he is supposed to be getting re-married in 4 months.
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April 29th, 2010, 09:13 AM
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I've already been through this and after 5 years I'm STILL waiting for him to sign the final divorce papers even though he filed AND he is supposed to be getting re-married in 4 months.

In WI he wouldn't be able to be married in 4 months. You have to wait 6 months after divorce is final. Unless he would leave the state.

There is no double standard for anyone. If I ever cheated, and I wouldn't (if things were that bad, I would give him the respect to tell him and we could part was peacefully) I would either take the kids and expect no child support, or very minimal, or we could have them half and half I would suppose. I know it's hard to part ways with NO child support.
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