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May 4th, 2010, 04:02 AM
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Why do you think that divorce is so prevalent in our society?
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May 4th, 2010, 04:07 AM
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Because there are far too many people who seem to be unable to remain committed to one person; it's a society about me, me, me - what to do to make me happy regardless of anyone I may hurt along the way.
Of course, I could be very jaded from personal experience - but I keep seeing this pattern repeat itself everywhere.
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May 4th, 2010, 05:21 AM
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I agree with Kraze. I would also like to add that so many young women want a wedding WAY MORE than they want a marriage, and after the wedding is over, and life settles down, they are unhappy.
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May 4th, 2010, 05:21 AM
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I think there's a number of reasons; jumping into marriage too quickly before actually getting to know the person, giving up too easily (not trying to work out issues before giving up), and infidelity being the main ones.
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May 4th, 2010, 06:12 AM
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Society told women we can do it all ourselves, we don't need men and it told men they don't have to be accountable. It is all about me, me, me. There is no such thing as commitment anymore, families are disposable.
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May 4th, 2010, 06:18 AM
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Ditto everything the pp's said plus I've even heard people say it's just as easy to get a divorce as it is to get married. It just doesn't seem to be a big commitment to some people.
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May 4th, 2010, 06:50 AM
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I agree with the being as easy to get divorced as it is to get married. The "no fault" divorce thing is stupid. "oh... by the way husband I just don't like you anymore, get out of my house, i'll send you papers next week..."
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May 4th, 2010, 07:09 AM
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I think a lot of it is because so many other things get placed before the family and family time goes by the wayside. Mom goes and does her own things.. with the kids, job, etc.. and Dad goes and does his own things with job and whatnot that they are hardly ever together... and then one day comes where they are thrown together with nothing else to get in the way and they are looking across the table at someone who is now a stranger to them. Add that to the stress and difficulty in managing a household, finances, and kids... instead of taking the time and effort to find and repair what went by the wayside, it's just easier to get a divorce and be done with it.
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May 4th, 2010, 12:47 PM
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Speaking of divorce (how ironic was this topic today), I just received my final divorce papers in the mail today and it will be in effect as of May 30th - 18 years 1 day from the day we were actually married.

I'd do a happy dance, but I'm tired
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May 4th, 2010, 02:00 PM
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I agree with the "it's so easy" thing. When people say I do, they just know in the back of their mind that if it doesn't work there is a way out. I DO believe there is a time and a place for it....people change and some men aren't fit to be husbands (as are some woman not fit to be wives..) for abusive/adultery situations.

That being said....Love doesn't always come easy...it's WORK sometimes....and some people just aren't willing to work for it. it's so easy to just say, you are a friend but I just dont love you anymore....

I can't say I've always 100% LOVED my husband but if I work hard I find I'm drawn back to hima nd love him more than when I started.....

Anyway....Divorce just isn't an option in my book and the word isn't even allowed to be said in my home (referring to us...in arguments)....we sealed the "it's not an option" deal with four kids....he'd never have any money left after child support! mu ha ha...j/k but anyway....those are my thoughts
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May 4th, 2010, 02:05 PM
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People now a days are lazy and they don't want to have to work at something, I also agree that it is so easy and acceptable that its not seen as something bad just something that happens. I like the above poster don't even consider divorce an option, when I said forever and always thats what I meant unless of course he cheats lol
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May 4th, 2010, 07:28 PM
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I think the fairytale marriage mentality is a load of bull-weddings are easy, marriage is tough. Its hard to share half of everything for the rest of your days-and it takes hard work each day-finally in our tenth year together, we're managing to put each other first all the time, esp the kids foremost. Weddings are easy, divorce is easy, marriage is where the really hard work happens.
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May 4th, 2010, 08:53 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Martha83
we sealed the "it's not an option" deal with four kids....he'd never have any money left after child support! mu ha ha...j/k but anyway....those are my thoughts
That's what I thought too.. until he decided that after 13 years he would throw it all away for a floozy 17 years younger than him.... and then produce 2 more kids with her and have very little to do with the first 4.
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