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May 6th, 2010, 04:57 AM
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Do you think that it's ever okay to read your child's emails/facebook/texts...etc??
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May 6th, 2010, 05:09 AM
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yes I do, I know what I did as a kid and I will keep a very close eye on what they are doing. Invading their privacy yes it is but thats my job as a parent.
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May 6th, 2010, 05:39 AM
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If you think there's a need for concern, yes.
My kids aren't of the age yet, but I will insist on knowing their FB, email passwords so I can check if I feel necessary and/or just check to make sure the password hasn't been changed.
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May 6th, 2010, 05:53 AM
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Yep, and I do, and my children know it.
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May 6th, 2010, 06:03 AM
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Yes & No.

While the kids & I are connected on FB, I don't tend to read their profile stuff very often.
Also as I have said elsewhere - our router software is pretty intense and it logs a lot of stuff that provides us with information, but we do not have a keylogger installed on it. The kids know that it logs, and that we also do not want to be forced to invade their privacy with keyloggers, so they do not go places or do things that would cause us to be concerned.

That being said, I was a teenager once and I know the realities of things.. so if the 15 (16 next month) is going to have a peek at porn... well he's a teenager, the world won't fall apart.
I feel that if I make them feel that they must be sneaky or hide things from me, it defeats all attempts to allow us to have an open relationship so they feel comfortable talking to me about things; trust & respect works both ways.
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May 6th, 2010, 06:22 AM
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I'm on the fence about this one. Part of me thinks, Yes you should! It's a scary world out there and a parent has to make sure their child is safe. But the other part of me thinks, No that's private, if you let them have access to it then you should stay out of it. Ugh, I'll tell you what I decide when I'm actually dealing w/ it, lol!
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May 6th, 2010, 06:30 AM
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When my kids are old enough for those things, I will have the passwords to all the accounts they have and will periodically make sure there isn't anything inappropriate there. But my kids will know that I plan on doing so and would also think that they should be present when I do go through their accounts... not give them a heads up that I'm going to, but when I decide to, make sure they are there as well. That way problems can be addressed immediately and things that need further explanation can be explained right away. Saving me from stewing about it until they get home and getting madder and madder.
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May 6th, 2010, 01:41 PM
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Depends on the situation and child.
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May 6th, 2010, 04:29 PM
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i say 'yes' and i have done it!!! learned a lot about activiteis with her friends and also helped me to know who was an 'ok' friend and who wasn't. mostly just with my daughter.....my boys have all been pretty honest with me so no real need to 'spy'.
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May 6th, 2010, 07:48 PM
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I'm on the fence about this one. Part of me thinks, Yes you should! It's a scary world out there and a parent has to make sure their child is safe. But the other part of me thinks, No that's private, if you let them have access to it then you should stay out of it. Ugh, I'll tell you what I decide when I'm actually dealing w/ it, lol!
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May 6th, 2010, 09:12 PM
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My children are not allowed to have email/facebook/cell phones.
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May 6th, 2010, 11:25 PM
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yes!!!!!!!
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May 7th, 2010, 08:25 AM
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May 8th, 2010, 08:43 AM
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yes, I will do what I need to as their mother to keep them safe in my home until they're 18
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May 8th, 2010, 08:52 AM
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Yes! The kids are not allowed FB until they are older even though lots of Sam's friends already have one. Texting is not allowed after bedtime and it's not HER phone, it's mine (I pay for it) and she gets to use it so I can do whatever I want with it. We also don't have internet access on any computers outside of the one in the livingroom.
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