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May 6th, 2010, 06:29 PM
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I ran across this blog post today and thought that you ladies would appreciate it. It is about their adopting another little girl but I think the same can be said for those of us who are criticized for wanting to have large families. Anyway just thought I'd pass it along because I appreciated reading it. I realize it is written from a Christian perspective but I think the principles addressed are universal.

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May 6th, 2010, 08:00 PM
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I enjoyed reading that. Thanks for posting the link!
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May 7th, 2010, 04:41 AM
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Interesting read
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May 7th, 2010, 06:16 AM
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Thank you for posting that! I really enjoyed reading it!!
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May 7th, 2010, 08:22 AM
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I thought it was a good read and I agree with some of her points. I think the people who told her she shouldn't adopt another baby because she wouldn't be able to afford college for them all were ridiculous, BUT there is something about the article that really really bugged me... I can't pinpoint what it is just yet, but something definately bugs me about it.
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May 7th, 2010, 08:30 AM
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Thanks...loved it
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We aren't to give a baby milk, berries, or peanut butter. We are to introduce new foods one at a time. But it's OK to inject several viruses, bacteria, aluminum, formaldehyde, phenoxyethanol, animal serum, mercury, squalene and more into an 8 week old? I don't think so.
In order to be healthy it is an unfortunate fact that people must be allowed the opportunity to be ill. I trust my body and those of my children to work correctly against the relatively benign diseases they vax for, and do not trust the ingredients in the vaccinations.
Our choice to not vax isn't based in ignorance, poverty, conspiracy theory and rumor. It's research, common sense, fact and evidence based..something the medical community has largely forgot about.
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May 7th, 2010, 08:31 AM
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You guys find the best articles. This is exactly what I always say.. if someone tells you you shouldn't have more kids because you're not putting them in college, or buying them gap jeans every other day they can just mind their own business .

Like I always say, the kids that are given EVERYTHING either end up in rehab, or on a bad reality show.
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May 7th, 2010, 10:15 AM
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You guys find the best articles. This is exactly what I always say.. if someone tells you you shouldn't have more kids because you're not putting them in college, or buying them gap jeans every other day they can just mind their own business .

Like I always say, the kids that are given EVERYTHING either end up in rehab, or on a bad reality show.
LOL, I agree...

Interesting reading...

We've been told this before about the whole college thing.... You know what? It is NOT my responsibility as a parent to pay for college. It is my responsibility to provide food, shelter, clothing, and to try my best to raise my kids to be responsible and good people.
Yes I would LOVE to be able to pay for it, but whether I had 1 or 15 kids, there is no way I can outright afford a college tuition. My oldest has already been told this and knows he will have to keep his grades and etc up to hopefully get a scholarship or he will have to get a student loan..
College tuition is not a right or a given... It is something that has to be worked for and earned...
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May 7th, 2010, 11:33 AM
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Yeah I don't know this lady or anything so I'm not saying I agree 100% with everything but the part that really got to me were the people criticizing her and telling her that her kids would resent her for not paying for their college. I am the oldest of 7 kids and I worked hard to put myself through college and did so without every resenting my parents or their decisions. I can't imagine what my life would be like if my parents decided not to have any/all of my siblings just so they could pay for my college or designer clothes etc. I would have missed out on my very closest friends in life. I guess another reason this hit home is because one of my younger sisters is graduating HS in a couple weeks and has been stressing over college finances but never in a way that is resentful to my parents. Anyway it just hit home with me because there are so many more important things that I want for my kids other than for them to just live life being happy and constantly needing the next bigger and better thing to keep them happy.
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May 7th, 2010, 05:06 PM
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I loved the article and totally agree, thanks for sharing it.
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May 8th, 2010, 08:51 AM
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I really liked this article, even if I had only one child, there's no way I'm "buying" my daughter a boob job. My kids will have love, security, safety, and food-help with college is a gift, not an entitlement, regardless of how many kids I have.
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May 8th, 2010, 11:10 AM
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I think buying your daughter a boob job is telling her that she isn't beautifull just the way she is, and that's she's not good enough the way she is.
If my kid wanted a boob job as an adult, then fine (maybe if they were really small in proportion to their bodies, I don't know) but I would never be the one to get that wheel in motion.
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May 8th, 2010, 02:45 PM
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I'm hoping I can teach my daughter that she is beautiful and wonderful, no matter how big her boobs are
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May 8th, 2010, 07:13 PM
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How did this go from college to boobs? Now I have to go read it!
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May 9th, 2010, 06:56 AM
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LOL...I was thinking the same thing...college....boobs.....wow.

I just had a buncha kids so I never have to get up for the tv remote or a glass of pop. LMBO
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