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It's a topic that frequently comes up when we are driving. I have talked with my 10 and 11 year old about everything from sex, diseases, forms of birth control, types of sex, what to do if.... situations, etc. I think I started talking to them about 2-3 years ago. I try to be as honest as I can be and I don't let them see that sometimes they freak me out with their questions.
I don't remember getting any info from my mom---it came from sex ed at school in 6th grade.
I got some information from school, but most from my Mom and youth groups/summer camp. She had me at 19, so was pretty candid about how hard that was. It was always emphasized how special it is, what it means, and how to fully experience the joy of it - by waiting until I could embrace it's full meaning with my heart, soul, mind, and body. I went to a lot of chastity presentations for teens, through youth groups and stuff. When I was a counselor at camp, we got a Love and Relationships talk by a team of people - university students and young married couples. Really well done, beautiful explanation of it all. I read a book called "Real Love" when I was about 17. It really spoke to me and helped me realize the kind of love I wanted.
At what age did you have the "talk" about sex with your kids? Do you wait until they ask questions or did you just tell them?
I have been finding so far that most of them start having questions at about 8. I have a really good book that I read with them, and then I ask if they have any questions or if they want me to tell them more (usually at 8 they just want to know how a baby gets in there). I do bring it up from time to time. They did get "teen talk" at school, but there was nothing new for them, which is exactly what I wanted, I want them to hear it from me.
How did you get your sex education? Did your parents have a talk with you?
NOOOOOOO. see my mom's reasoning was that I lived on a farm so I could figure out where babies came from, and when I got my period I had NO IDEA what was happening. Anyways, there's a lot more to the sex talk than the technicalities, and no one in my house is going to be surprised when they get their period.
Erin was 10 in June, and is in fifth grade. There is no secrets in our house either and my oldest daughter started asking questions at about 8 too. The thing is, Erin has NEVER asked me any questions and I know she doesn't know a thing about getting her period and as far as babies - she thinks God puts them there. LOL (partly true). She is so smart about things, but she is oblivious to that kind of stuff. I haven't volunteered any information because I just want her to stay young and innocent for as long as possible. I know most of her friends know, but no one has said anything to her. Later in the school year, they will get a basic talk with the nurse and I do want her to hear it from me first. For some reason I am procrastinating this talk with her.
I think we've already had the talk with Nolan, he wanders around the house deciphering who has penises and 'ginas--he's convinced that he was a girl when he was a baby.
I might pick up a book or dvd before he's 8, or let dh give the talk-that should be interesting.
My mom avoided the entire topic, and I knew better than to ask. That is very dangerous-I had some very interesting ideas about some of this stuff.