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April 4th, 2011, 12:03 PM
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... is what is keeping my mind going back and forth from having our next baby.

I am not by any means saying that my husband is bad dad, but he is not the 'get up in the middle of the night' type guy, and I'm afraid I wouldn't be able to do it by myself, especially if one of the other kids gets up on top of that. My mom isn't grandma of the year, and I've never even met Rob's parents, so that wouldn't be any help...

I always think that it wouldn't have been so bad to have twins(or more) as my 1st or 2nd pregnancies, but now it would be so tough.

SO tell me, do I have a silly irrational fear? ... How tough is it REALLY to have two or more infants?
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April 4th, 2011, 12:40 PM
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I always think that it wouldn't have been so bad to have twins(or more) as my 1st or 2nd pregnancies, but now it would be so tough.
I think this same thing. I honestly don't know what it would be like I always just assume I will only have one at a time.
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April 4th, 2011, 12:53 PM
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My twins were my 1st so I'm not a good person to ask.

My twin pregnancy kinda sucked. Bedrest, scatica, carpal tunnel (not things I experienced with singleton pregnancies) The babies were early (as most twins are) but luckily only minor issues and ashort NICU stay. They both had reflux and colic. They were nothing like my two singletons. The twins seemed to feed, wake and sleep like newborns for a MUCH longer time than my singletons did. They both had a witching hour from about 5pm until 9pm where they cried nonstop no matter what.

I'm sure this sounds nuts, but I tend to think with you having a couple kids that are of age where they can help out, it wouldn't be so bad during the day. I also think that now that you having a good bit of "mom" experience, you would have an easier time adjusting to having 2 babies. Lots of people tandem breastfeed or bottle feed twins and that makes night time pretty much as quick as w/ just a singleton (you just may be on a newborn schedule longer if they are early or small)
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April 4th, 2011, 01:42 PM
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I think having twins now would be great. I have plenty of hands and I think your DH would step up at night, especially if you said "I need your help, NOW" and he ever wants to have sex again. Also, if you are good about feeding routines, they can be sleeping through the night by 8 weeks and doing 12 hours at 12 weeks.

Is there a reason you think you would have twins? I keep waiting, but so far the only twin in the family is my husband.
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April 4th, 2011, 02:39 PM
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If you had twins I think you'd survive it, due to lack of other options. I think it'd be tough that first year, but not forever.

I never feared multiples, I always feared a health or developmental condition that would take up so much energy I'd have little left to give to the others.
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April 4th, 2011, 04:35 PM
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im pregnant right now,only 7 weeks and already showing so everyone seems to think i am pregnant with twins.i have 3 other kids 6,4,22months so the older two could help during the day with some things but my hubby is the same way. he does not wake up during the night because "he works"
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April 4th, 2011, 04:40 PM
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No, no reason that I think I would have twins, other than just to give me something to keep me busier
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April 4th, 2011, 07:09 PM
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My husband always hoped we would have twins because babies are always fought over in this house Twins run in our family but we always ended up with just one at a time
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April 4th, 2011, 07:40 PM
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the twins were prem, Nolan was almost 3, and we have no family support up here, and dh works 60+ hours a week--and I somehow survived-but remember that I didn't have to be pg, either. The first 12 weeks were brutal, but they were brutal with my singleton, and then they started sleeping longer at night and it was 1000x better. They're 2 and super-easy now
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Would I do it again if I had the chance? In a heartbeat. It was hard, but sometimes life is hard, and then you survive and thrive.
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April 11th, 2011, 11:04 PM
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I have two sets of twins 18 months apart and honestly it was easier than the singleton babies. I already knew what to expect and I just was a stricler for schedules.
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April 12th, 2011, 06:40 PM
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I think it would be awesome to have had a set of multiples.
I don't see them in my future however now, since I think this will more than likely be our last baby, unless we foster down the road.

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