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February 2nd, 2012, 10:24 AM
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So I had my 34 week appointment today. It seems to me like they are just giving me a hard time. They are harassing me about the glucose testing. I refused the 3hr because in my opinion the results were fine at the one hour test, I did four days of home testing and those results were normal too. The MW tried to tell me they "never" let anyone just test their blood at home. Ummmm...hello, when your office called me they said "if you don't want to take the 3 hr test we ask that you take a nutrition class where they give you the meter for home testing." Besides the fact I watch my carbs/sugars no matter what.

I lost 2 pounds. My blood pressure was fine. I'm not throwing off sugar in my urine. I'm fine. Their argument is I have had a large baby. I told the MW that may be concerning if I had only 1 or 2 babies, but I have had FIVE large babies, from 9-11 1/2 pounds, it shows I have a HISTORY of making large babies without ever having had sugar issues!!!!!

Then she starts "tsking" when I measure 3 weeks ahead. I have a 5-6 pound transverse baby in there, what do you expect? Besides I am not a skinny girl to begin with.

The they want to start in on the position of the baby. He is transverse, which was confirmed with a quickie u/s. His head is to my right and he is laying crosswise with his feet to my left side. I am only 34 weeks. He has 6 weeks minimum to turn head down, more likely eight weeks. The mw says "No one will deliver a baby vaginally in this position." It seemed like she was happy he was transverse.

Then the GBS test. They want to do it at 37 weeks. WHY?? I ask. The results can change week to week. Why do the test at 37 weeks when I will likely be pregnant another 4-5 weeks!!!! That would make results taken at 34 weeks possibly invalid at delivery.

The MW left the room while I was still talking, just walked out and closed the door. I greatly dislike these people.

Ohhh, and she told me "I have a hospital full of MW's who have never met you, who will only know you from this chart. If you come in in labor and get one of these mw's, don't you think they have a right to feel comfortable with you as a patient?" So I should just give in to all you bullying and say "okay, whatever you all want to do." What about ME being comfortable? Apparently that doesn't matter at all.

I told her I know me better than any of you do.

I am soooooooooooooo freaking mad right now.

She said more dumb crap like about at 41 weeks doing an u/s to measure the babys weight. I already know those are BS, so I said no. Then she says well we will want to do one to check the condition of the placenta and fluid levels. Whatever you say lady.

She stood in the corner the whole appointment with her arms crossed.
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February 2nd, 2012, 10:36 AM
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Is there really no where else in the WHOLE area for you to go? I know you live near Detroit, there has to be people that are more sensitive to a woman's wants and needs in a big city like that!
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February 2nd, 2012, 10:37 AM
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ugh sorry you had to deal with that, she sounds very negative is she the one you see most often or are there a crew of them, maybe she's feeling insecure because she's used to dealing with pregnant women that don't know anything about pregnancies and take her word for it while you know so much more and make very good unarguable points... how dare you question her authority!!!!! Hope it gets better for you and you don't have to deal with her.
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February 2nd, 2012, 11:20 AM
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And this is why I only go every 10 weeks. And even then only see the one guy.

I am sorry they are so, I don't even know the word. Condescending? Rude? Disparaging. Just shake it off. We do the GBS at 35, so I did it yesterday. If it changes, no one will ever know. I am sure it will be fine. I just wouldn't go back. Maybe at 40w. I will go at 38 and then at 42.

I need a nap.
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February 2nd, 2012, 11:35 AM
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Wow! Obviously the mothers needs mean very little to her and it's almost as if she wants the whole birth experience to be bad. Her little threat about the chart would have sent me over the edge.

There are absolutely no midwives specializes in home birth that would work with you?
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February 2nd, 2012, 12:41 PM
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Beth, no, at this point in time I am just stuck, unless I can come up with about $1800 for the homebirth MW. No one will see me past 28-30 weeks.

There are two MWs in the office who see patients for pre natal appointments and those two with the rest of the crew rotate the L&D for births.
She was very rude, like I am being difficult to them for not just being a "yes patient."

Tammy, I wish, I have been dragging the appointments out to 3 weeks between because they want me in every week now. Yeah....right. With the GBS I am concerned if it comes back + now they won't retest before the birth to avoid the antibiotics and I don't want the meds unnecessarily either.

I am so tempted to just stay home. She tried to tell me, we may be able to get you a room with a tub to labor in. Ummmmm if I have to be on continuous fetal monitoring because of my previous sections how can I labor in a tub????
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February 2nd, 2012, 01:13 PM
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So you expect to have the GBS? I never have, so I don't expect to.

Every week is just crazy for those of us who go to 42. My copay is $25. If I went every week from 36-42, that is $150? No way. I can think of other ways to spend that!

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February 2nd, 2012, 01:57 PM
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No I don't expect to be +, but NOTHING is going right for me at this point. Besides I will have time to do probiotics and all that to make it come back negative. The thing is I think the test is stupid so early, + or - it is just to early to get a real idea of what the actual result is at the time of birth.
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